Step inside it's the Dating Thread 93

[SweetPotato1]

Looks like this needed to be kicked off again..

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread

Just had a look. There are lots of women 60-65.

Wow! I love her parting words "you're not 5'11"

Is this the same woman?.

www.instagram.com/p/9TOBWio4bY/?tagged=healthyhappyhot

Wow. That's one shitty message to send!

Love her parting words too, lol.

Her picture shows an incredibly gorgeous woman... what an are he is.

ARSE!

WavingNotDrowning I somehow thought of you as a wise learned woman which thou shalt soon be with thy acquired knowledge:-)

I'm getting a bit stressed. H & I have arranged to go out Thursday. For all I know he's busy Friday. Now I think I might have to take my dd to a very important thing on Thursday. I could get my mother to take her but that would mean explaining to my mother where I was going. I will have to wait til tomorrow to find out for definite if this thing on thursday requires my dd's presence. Argh.

Wow at that Tinder absolute shit and the rest of those some of us are dealing with (sorry I do need that spreadsheet - there is no way of keeping track of who is dating who in here, good job everyone!)

Drug abuse, lying and general unpleasantness are so 2015 me thinks. Neeeeexxt!!

Popcorn is still being rudely silent. IKEA is offering to make a habit of "going to the pool and then having sushi dinners". Now he is talking, haha. I really want that second date to happen!

Can't wait for the dating tide tomorrow. I will be staying in with a new spotify playlist and some naice tea

Tri I know what you're saying, & normally I would be much more forward.. But I really want him to ask 😄. I will update!

No she doesn't. I'd hate to tell her. She'd be all questions, and concern. And then offering up her really outdated opinions on everything. It'd be so cringing. Still tomorrow's only Sunday. Even if it turns out I can't do Thursday, hopefully he can do either fri or sat and I can get a babysitter for the same night that he can do! It's all so tiring.

N0More314 mums never stop being mums despite their age !

Waving Popcorn sent a rather long "merry Xmas" text on Xmas day and I have not heard a peep from him since. But then in my "I need some space text" that I had sent before, I did say "hope you have a great Xmas and an even better year ahead" so there is a slight possibility he thinks new year well wishing has already been done? Meh. Not convinced he does not give a crap.
Will summon him mid January for a face to face hearing. Charges to be defined in the meantime.

SO today is the top day for internet dating, is that right?

So they say. and I think that christmas and new year does perhaps bring out the men who really want a relationship not sex, and who have space in their life for somebody. Example, take, bear, he's been in the background since august and his agenda is to just generally wander round with his tail wagging, having sex along the way if he can. but hforarry appeared just before christmas.

but i've nothing planned for today. i'm just hoping i can make thursday happen now. if i have to rearrange it to friday i hope he's free. I'll try not to stress.

Morning all

I was reading that message that poor woman got after her date. FairPlay to her being so eloquent (and polite) in her response. My response would have been far more impolite in its response. Condescending arse.

Top dating today huh? Let me know how that goes ladies. I've switched to whatsapp for the pilot as he messaged me on bumble saying he was coming off the app. He's my whatsapp Guinea pig, let's see how this goes. This whole chatting via whatsapp with a total stranger is totally random.

Totally lost track of whom is seeing who.
popcorn is still silent? waving so soho has been messaging if another date is arranged??
Good luck to everyone else who have dates lined up! Think I'll download that getting naked book. Sounds fun!

Have fab Sunday's everyone

Waving, I hear you.

I know, I don't think I will have sex until I know that I'm not just Ms Thursday. Men have no idea the tightrope we are walking with the sex, no sex decisions.

If you put your hands on your hips and say "now slow down, how many irons in the fire have you got? what are you actually looking for here? and, if you are looking for a relaitonship, are you open to that with me " then you're perceived to be looking too far in to future! But that isn't fair on women, it's like we might wander off and pursue other ''candidates'' if you hold back, but if you don't hold back and if you do sleep with us and then we later decide you're not for us or worse, if we knew all along but didn't share that information with you, we will still judge you for sleeping with us too soon

We walk this tightrope between not wanting to extract too much information from a man that we don't have a right to. But how much information is it ok to ask.

There is pressure on women to be cool girl and to just roll with men's agenda and then hope for the best later is immense. Well no. If it scares away the men with several irons in the fire I'll live with that. I don't want to fall in to a situation where I'm sleeping with a man because it's got to date four or five and it's clear we like each other but we haven't had any sort of conversation about what we're both looking for and if there's over lap!!

I agree with you waving. I'm going to have the conversation with H. What are you looking for, generally? and then depending on the answer, I'll pose my next question. We fancy each other and he seems like a nice guy and I'd love to sleep with him. But I don't want to get hurt or rejected and then that will mess with my mojo. Cos obviously if it doesn't work out with H there are other men out there but what I hate is that every disappointment is a little chink in your mojo! - and then you end up feeling that you're not worthy of some nomadic, transient, commitment-phobic, part-time working, non-car-driving, chain-smoker! No offence to Bear. I think I'm seeing him through a different lens since I met H