Step inside it's the Dating Thread 93

[SweetPotato1]

Looks like this needed to be kicked off again..

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread

Not a loo update but a bus update!
Im on the last bus home. Wow. I like H!!
He is a nice, handsome, good humoured,clever man and i was not even a tiny bit bored for one second in his company. the bus nearly didnt stop cos we were kissing. I prefer his straightforwardness to bear's complicatedness. He is also gainfully employed if you care about that kind of thing. I like that he is a dad. He showed me one picture of his beautiful kids. Just one.

I prefer him. It is official.
over bear (98% over bear)
also he took a call from his parents !! & i couldnt understand it !! but told them he'd ring them tomorrow. I think. A man with people in his life. Not peter pan. It is H i want to see again. He said we'd go out next week. He's eclipsed bear. Phew.
i wont let myself get too happy tho.
early days etc.....
but that is my midnight update.

YAY FOR H! Pleased for you, 314!

Still chatting with TS. Oh, I do like him very much.

Suggested an actual date and he didn't say no. Go me!

Oh good!!! I can't wait for that update. I hope he floats your boat in rl! When????

I'm back home now, with a cup of tea, and H has already sent me a lovely message. Now I feel the anxiety about H and I'm meh about Bear. TOTAL switcheraound in one night. I just can't be bothered with the shit. Maybe it will turn out that H& I don't get past date three but I've had a taste of a man who has his shit together.

I'm wondering if H is too perfect. He must have a massive porn problem or something. And yet I don't thiiiiink so. Can you ask on a third date "so, you see normal, how come you're single?"

Maybe .... if I have one tiny niggle.. and it's not really a niggle because I am attracted to him, once or twice in the date he leaned over and just spontaneously gave me a kiss, a quick kiss. Once on the cheek. And then next on the lips. And I didn't fight him off. So he was definitely checkig that I was attracted to him too. Is that bad? Or is that just common sense. He didn't do anything that made me feel uncomfortable and he walked me to my bus stop and waited six minutes with me even though I knew he'd have to gallop to catch his own train.

stop thinking. go to bed. sleeeeep

Oh no, doing that mental sabotage thing?! Just enjoy it!

Not set a date for meeting TS, his response was a little cautious last night, but then I got a gorgeous message at 3.45 about his being excited to meet. It is super scary, but there seems to be a mental connection, even though we have very different brains and talents!

Brilliant update NoMore try not to start analysing...

Good for you Waving when are you seeing MrWriter?

On you go, MrLannister

Morning all!!!

mrslannister define odd??? Sounds intriguing!!

nomore what a lovely date!!!! Huzzah!!!! Don't overthink it, just go with it!

tanya go you!!! Let us know when you get that date arranged!

waving he may have seen your profile, now that you've swiped right he definitely will (but he won't know you've swiped right unless he does). If he swipes right you will connect on bumble.
Are you really surprised to see him on there?

No weighing yourselves this early in Jan!!!! Noooo!!!

Right a day of dechristmasfying the house awaits. Be still my beating heart!!! Hehe.

Thanks handy I guess I'll need it, I can be a sensitive wee soul too

Sassy all sorts! Someone asking me if I would consider being with a woman! Someone who blocked me and I hadn't even messaged them (I did after they blocked me!), someone who was dressed as a woman and several guys who really sound quite jaded!

Welcome to the party eh?

rethinking strategy

waving the way I see it is that until somebody says to you ''well we seem to like each other, shall we be faithful, committed, give that a go?" then you have no reason to stop searching do you...

I'd guess that he's already seen your profile! but he'll know that you can't know that for sure. so why would he swipe right and confirm that he's seen your profile (and put it out there that you've seen his too)

I don't know how it works though. If you aren't matched with him at some point I'd presume he was thinking like me, and his heart stopped beating for a moment and he swiped left!

Tinder seems good for meeting people nearer to you.

Except that you sort of had that conversation didn't you :-/

I'm only on pof atm. Well, one subscription site called parship but it so dead.

I'm on Soulmates but only chatting with TS, bless his socially awkward socks, and OKC, but not really anything worth pursuing on that. Loads of likes / views, but not translating into anything, even the supposedly mutual likes. But TS is taking most of my dating attention right now, so that's ok. Match was just too rubbish and needlessly expensive.

TS has just suggested a walk / coffee date, and left it to me to suggest a day, so have suggested Monday or next Saturday. Eek. It's a bit real now!

Saturday would work for me because I have a night out with my antenatal group friends, to either drown my sorrows or have a good gossip afterwards! This will be the first man I've been anywhere near since I split up with my girls' dad, apart from the ill-fated snogging with Northerner, so it's scary!

Booked my horse riding lesson tomorrow so I'm not hanging around thinking about anything too much!

Maybe Soho was on Bumble for ages, and hasn't been on since your chat?

But he's chosen Monday, which is obviously fine. EEK.

I've been reading this thread for a while now (and used to be on it years ago under a different name). Sounds like a few good dates and exciting possibilities going on at the moment! I've been on POF and GS for over a month now and haven't had a single date! Not sure where I'm going wrong. I'm only chatting to one man at the moment, and he hasn't mentioned meeting up, which is getting a bit frustrating (I'm not sure we're right for each other, but we're never going to know unless we meet up!)

Tanya, how exciting, only two days to go! Is it going to be a walk and coffee?

That's good, if you really like each other you can go out again later in the week. IF You don't, "it was only a monday niiiiight"

We're meeting at a coffee shop which is near a nice green bit of where we live, so walking will be weather dependant.