Step inside it's the Dating Thread 93

[SweetPotato1]

Looks like this needed to be kicked off again..

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread

So, any revelations?

He owes two million? He's a scientologist!? I almost wish it was anything other than 'well you see, it's a bit complicated and I can't afford to move out and blah blah"

x-post!

sorry. I need to get a life! Tomorrow night.

He did say his son loves with his mum in the same village......

Prob more along the lines of: I was born a woman???

He's read it.............

According to Whatsapp he's still.... er...... Typing.......!!!! Has been typing for approx 5 minutes!!!! Trying to convince me he's just a regular kinda guy, no doubt cynical

oh boy!! it's all of them! he's a scientologist, methadone user, 2 million in debt and he is bi-sexual. (sorry on some threads I'd be lynched for suggesting that that might put yyou off)

He'd better be quick typing cos the babysitter will be here in a minute and he's going out with his wife!!! right?

Sorry to be flippant. I am assuming that you've lost interest at this point. Apologies if you're not ready to laugh yet.

Ok so, he said the 'truth be told' he had 'had a few drinks' the night we first messaged. Except that of course our convo left behind a whole transcript. So that's pretty 'meh' and rather lame.

And he could of course have said the next day. Except there's definitely more amiss than not fessing up to having had a few drinks. There's more to it than that. I told him so, and said that he isn't obliged to explain.

He didn't seem at pains to explain much, just said he said he 'won't be renewing his subscription to the site' - like I care!!!

He's basically a fake (of some sort - who cares which) and I ratted him out.....

And that's the end of MrC!!!!!!!

I now have another child-free evening to myself! I intend to pamper myself and eat chocs and read my book!!

WOOP!

Gut instinct. Every time......

Yes I agree with you. "The truth is I'd had a few drinks..." hardly shameful. Yeh there's more to it. And the decision not to renew his subscription, "that's interesting dear". Hardly something you'd decide this early on in the current subscription, let alone share with a date you haven't met yet. Does he still want to meet you? Or is it just hanging in the air unsaid that he's been rumbled?

I did once message a man who said (early on) I'm free on Tuesday mornigns, thursday evenings and we can never meet at my house! I nearly laughed. Luckily I'd only exchanged about five messages with him.

Yes, give your instinct a pat on the back!

Nothing hanging in the air. He said he 'understands why I have reservations' and wished me a happy new year - he so wasn't that bothered, just a faker (alcoholic??) just happy he went quietly!

He is now blocked and deleted.
Nexxxxxxt!!!!!!!!

One thing I'm learning about myself is that there is absolutely f*ck all wrong with my instincts.

Congratulations. He's given up on you because you can smell a rat.

Bloody hell, I leave you lot alone for half an hour to put my kids to bed, and it all kicks off! Sorry MrC turned out to be rubbish, but glad you weeded him out early on, Handy.

Have replied properly to, argh, he need a moniker...TheScientist...so will keep you posted... Northerner and the Drummers are so last week...

Well done for acting on your gut instict. It can be so easy to doubt ourselves sometimes!

At least now you can enjoy your evening instead of wasting a few hours of your life on an alcoholic? faker

Handywoman, I feel like that. Since dcs' dad, I've had two rl bfs and the first one I'll call teacher, he was clever but he didn't wonder about things. He was kind, calm, efficient and generous. He really recalibrated me after the abusive x. But early on I had a gut feeling that we'd have nothing to talk about if we weren't just catching up once a week. And I was right, we couldn't think of anything to say to each other when we stepped it up.
My exact first reservation turned out to be why I wanted to end it. I ended it and he accepted that with good grace and wished me the best.

The second man was a broke artist and my first reservation was that he hadn't healed after his long term relationship ended. But we got on well and he was interesting and funny and talkative. I nearly felt like I was in love with him. But then, he started to attribute negative interpretations to innocent things I'd done in the past. He literally disagreed with me about why I had decided to do things that I had done, before I'd MET him . He re-wrote parts of my history and gave them a different meaning. So I ended it, and he went MAD!! i saw that coming! Told me that he should have seen the red flags!

Happy new year you lovely ladies!!

And to you! I'm having a very sober and quiet Hogmanay, but some lovely messaging! :)

And to you!
Had a glass of wine. Might go mad and have another!

Had a now ready for zzzzzzzzz (worked today).

Might tell my 12yo to turn the lights off on her way up to bed after me!!

I was trying to figure out when was too soon to go to bed on Hogmanay. I'm Scottish, for goodness sake! I've only had a rhubarb tea, not even any wine!

REALLY enjoying chatting with TS, he's so articulate, and it's proper chat about our lives, not just the usual small talk. Interested to see where this one goes...

Happy New Year to you all

May all our dates and relationships in 2016 be happy ones

A this the one with the blinding syntax, tandyadm ? Am rather partial myself....