Step inside it's the Dating Thread 93

[SweetPotato1]

Looks like this needed to be kicked off again..

The Rules

1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin
3. Do no invest emotionally too soon
4. It's all BS until it actually happens
5. Trust your gut instinct
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you
8. If it's not fun- stop
9. Loo update is mandatory

10. No dating the thread

I left out a bit. I was talking to a friend and I was explaining to her etc

Yey! Welcome choccyfiend and MrsLannister good luck with your tentative moves (and to staying in eating chocs instead). I agree a lot of the success is patchy depending on location.

Waving enjoy your coffee date tomorrow, maybe Something else is just round the corner??

Jolly haha you are hilarious! Well done MrIkea but for the dullness.... Mmmmm MrSparkyeyes..... Sounds lush but I've sort of gone right off good looking guys since MrLivesWithTheEx. The guy on Bumble who is really nice looking has now accelerated to a lofty rate of 2 messages per day!!! I wish he weren't so pedestrian! Get on with it!!!!!

SumMorePieWhatever314 hope date 2 is just as good as date No.1

I have to say I know this is wrongheaded of me. And conplete no no for OLD but me and MrC are soooooooooooo hitting it off by messaging that I will be really GUTTED if there's no spark. If it doesn't happen I'll actually miss the easy messaging! And I know there's every possibility there'll be no spark! Crosses fingers and toes and waits for the date-on-the-date-where-we-are-about-the-only-2-people-in-the-UK-actually-going-out.....

Ha!!

Sorry if I've missed anyone!

do you mean you're going out with Mrc on new year's eve?! that's a lot of pressure on both of you!.... but it'll be fine. have a drink. and even if he's not immediately attractive, sit down, relax, wait for the atmosphere and the first drink to make it all seem less important.

oh right! same here. My date is planned for 01/01/16

I nearly went on a date with a writer and then luckily I checked him out on linkedin before I set off and discovered that he was 16 years older than I am. I was so relieved I found out. He had been flattering me telling me "as a writer and an editor, can I tell you that you write very well". I wasn't going to over look the fact that he shaved 9 years off his age though. Do you think some writers can get confused between truth and fiction!? This guy was so unapologetic when I said that I was cancelling our date, and why. In fact, replied with a passive aggressive remark.

Just had a message from a gorgeous man on OK Cupid.

The only problem is I clicked on his profile and one of the first things it said was that he was kinky! Talk about blatant! Needless to say, I'm not going to reply to his message.

Happy dating everyone!

oh dear me! I wouldn't be able for that

Yes Waving we are going out on 01/01/16. If anywhere's open!!

Wow. He told you about that thread?! I had a bit of a read. I'd love to (or hate to?) read one of my dates opinion of the dates. No actually, that would be horrible. They obviously don't have our code of honour!!! He told you!

WavingNotDrowning well that was interesting reading ;!.

"It's an interesting insight into men's minds though that's for sure. I think lesbianism looks a good option right now"

LOL!", I've actually got a couple of Gay mates and they have as many relationship up's and downs as hetro couples do;!

Hahahaha! Check this opening line for a profile, beneath a really contrived sun hat and shades shot:

'I'm a Chauffeur and a homeopath'

Bwahahahahahahahahaha!!!!!!! Sorry but hilarious! No offence to chauffeurs, or homeopaths, or even chauffeurs-and-homeopaths.......

I'm awful aren't I.

Afternoon, fellow daters. How are you all. Had a couple of lovely, beautifully written messages from someone on Soulmates. Am a sucker for men with a way with syntax... Didn't have time to reply in a way to do his message justice, so just sent a brief reply until I can respond fully tonight.

Homeopathic chauffeur.... Drives his car through puddles until the puddles retain the memory of the car?

Waving I actually laughed out loud at that 'don't be shy' joke. I'm assuming it was a joke you see.

Comms. from Bear. He even asked what my date was like with hforarry. Am I mean that I said ''uncomplicated!''?

Not mean at all, 314, just honest!

Waving oh dear. Ignorance is bliss..!!

Arch MrC has lost his shine somewhat, has started sending me pics of his son (we haven't even met), one has a pic of him in it - he's quiet a bit porkier in those. Plus late last night his messages were saying that he's excited that the 'wait night be over' cue klaxons going off in my head. And also I told him the other night the the kids dad has them EOW/Tuesday nights. This week I've not seen them for six days due to my work. He said today 'I presume they live with you?'. Plus last. Ought he said he had something he 'needs to explain face to face'.

Bloody. Hell..... He is not what he seems. now completely re-thinking our date....... HELP WHAT SHOULD I DO???

Now reconsidering the whole thing.

Yes Sassy I am literally sitting on my hands not texting Popcorn. If he does not send the happy new year text I think I will wait until Mid January or so.

And keep myself busy with MrIkea and hopefully even busier with Mr SparklyEyes in the meantime

Waving I do not think you should be trying to "redeem yourself" - if Soho likes you and is not a massive ass then he should still be keen. Sex or no sex. MrWriter looks like he deserves a bit more attention! Perhaps leave Soho on the backburner for now and focus on him?

Sorry he said 'I presume the kids live with their dad'

(I had already explained the setup. This like the job 'mishap')

Spider sense are massively going off now.

Waving don't question yourself re Soho. You know what's on offer there and whether you slept with him on date 1 or 6 months the down the line makes no difference - plenty of threads on here attest to that.

I think you should move on from Soho if he is really doing your head in.