please tell me I'm right (unless I'm not)

[Bloodyhellfire123]

Just been for a scan, should be at least 10 weeks pregnant but measuring too far behind..diagnosis missed miscarriage. Scheduled in for an op on friday under general anaesthetic.

Need someone to pick me up and stay with me afterwards.
Obviously assumed dp would be there for me. He's made it clear I'm an inconvenience to him. Actually asked if I could reschedule til next week when he's off work. Then when I said no asked if I could just take the tablets to make it pass (painful and according to consultant only 30% success rate). Then he said he couldn't get away from work early so I'd have to wait at the hospital for a couple more hours.
I cried and said he was putting work before me. He said I was being a dick.
He begrudgingly said he'd do it. I can't believe he's making me feel guilty. I think he's also pissed off coz he was meant to have a work night out on Friday (not official christmas do) and will feel like he can't go. If he does go. ..I'll be furious.

I'm not in the wrong here am I? !

Glad you're mostly ok. Take care of yourself

Mc association were great help to me

A relationship shouldn't make you feel this way Hellfire. It should make you feel supported, all the time, but especially at hard times.

And please read this from Sheba again.

Get out for your child's sake if nobody else's. If you have a son, you don't wanthim growing up with this as a male role model. And if you have a daughter, God help her.

Please don't stay in a non-relationship like this. It will kill off any remaining self-esteem you have.

And please don't try and have another baby with him. It won't make him treat you any better, or care about you any more. I know it probably feels like it might be your only option, your only card to play - But he's told you who he is, listen to him.

Oh fucking hell this is awful reading this thread. It seems everyone is hurting so much reading this.

I just want to shake you and hug you all that the same time to wake up to this poor excuse for a human being your OH is.

Even my DH has gone into shock and anger mode when I showed him this and he normally plays his cards close to his chest.

Can you imagine what anyone he was out with last night would think of him if they knew he'd left you alone within the 24 hours, even for a simple procedure, lets alone to face alone the turmoil you must be feeling right now in your situation.

He's an utter utter cunt

Please, try to see him as we all have an start trying to protect yourself from him.

I could cry just thinking about you Op. I'm currently 11 weeks pregnant and I know that if I had a miscarrige not only would my Dh be doing everything within his power to help me and make things as easy as possible for me but he would be devastasted himself as well. Its sound like he wasn't too keen on another child in the first place.

Someone said earlier that this thread made them cry, me too.
So so sad xx

Without being disrespectful to your support and opinions, I have been a bit surprised at how sad everyone is for me.

Maybe this shows how low my bar is set.

Things are lovely and back to normal with us again but he still just wasn't there when I needed him..though he did pick me up on time without questions and stayed for a few hours.

I am sorry I haven't rtft but he has treated you terribly.

So sorry about your mmc. This happened to me, at 10 weeks, and I opted to let it happen naturally which for me was much easier than the idea of an op, hospital etc. It started within 24 hours of being told. You might be happier with op but just in case

Oh sorry I see your last post. Apologies for my completely irrelevant advice.

he still just wasn't there when I needed him..though he did pick me up on time without questions and stayed for a few hours

well isn't he just a diamond!!!!! Please, when you are in a better headspace, please please re-read this thread.

I obviously don't know you OP, but unless you're a really disagreeable person, I'm pretty sure you deserve a better man than this one. Take care.