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commitment phobe?

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lostinthewoodshelp · 12/12/2015 19:24

help? seeing someone and he sees me one to two times a week and doesn't want to look at me or text me between times?! ignores me, blanks me and then will see me...it's so hard it hurts so bad..what do i do?

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WhatALoadOfOldBollocks · 13/12/2015 17:53

"Why doesn't he text me and tell me it's over?"
Because he's got a chushy little number going on hasn't he, free sex for no effort or commitment. That will work just fine for him until such time as he stops getting what he wants (sex) or he finds your needy, emotional texting too irritating and not worth the sex. I'm sorry if my posts are harsh, it's just that I hate to see anyone being treated like this and how badly it effects them.

ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 13/12/2015 18:09

You need to end it. But you won't, because you seem to have no self esteem or respect for yourself.

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lostinthewoodshelp · 13/12/2015 18:21

if he's irritated with my texting will he end it properly and put me out of my misery?

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DioneTheDiabolist · 13/12/2015 18:29

He won't tell you it's over because he enjoys having free, no strings sex. It's not difficult for him to ignore your texts just as it is not difficult to ignore you in person.

If you want to get over him you are going to have to do the dumping because he doesn't care about what's going on in your head. He doesn't care about you at all.

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lostinthewoodshelp · 13/12/2015 18:39

Oh god. I thought he cared a bit because he is really kind when i am with him? For example, when i was round his place and i was sitting there with no clothes on he put a blanket round me. I thought that was so sweet.

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WhatALoadOfOldBollocks · 13/12/2015 18:39

"if he's irritated with my texting will he end it properly and put me out of my misery?"

Do you honestly think he gives a shit about your misery?

WhatALoadOfOldBollocks · 13/12/2015 18:43

He can put on an act of caring "cares" just enough to get his dick wet. Seriously, look at the Freedom Programme that others have suggested, dump him and build your self esteem.

Parker08 · 14/12/2015 03:12

Some guys aren't into texting, but do you go out to eat and such or do you just go to his place to have sex?

Honesty, texting him continuously asking for answers will push him away and make him think you are unstable.

If you are just going over for booty calls, stop going over for sex.

pinkyredrose · 14/12/2015 12:06

You think him putting a blanket round you is 'so sweet'? Words fail me. This thread is a waste of time, he has you where he wants you, you're way too immature to deal with this and think he 'really likes you'. Frankly I'm starting to feel sorry for your kids.

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lostinthewoodshelp · 14/12/2015 12:22

That's a bit harsh pinky. This thread has not been a waste of time because i've read it and i agree the situation is completely ridiculous and stupid. It will be stopping from today.

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Parker08 · 14/12/2015 12:33

You're still carrying on with him?!

DioneTheDiabolist · 14/12/2015 12:39

That's good OP. It won't be easy for you, but after you dump him, any time you feel like texting him, post here instead.

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lostinthewoodshelp · 14/12/2015 12:42

No, he hasn't texted me for 7 days, but if he does, it won't be happening again.

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lostinthewoodshelp · 14/12/2015 12:42

thanks dione

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pictish · 14/12/2015 12:51

I simply could not make a sexual partner of someone who pretends he doesn't know me in public. My vagina is pursing her lips at the mere thought of it.
What a disgusting way to treat someone.

Cabrinha · 14/12/2015 16:14

Well done for deciding not to let him use you for sex any more.

Will you have a look at the Freedom programme now, as a step towards being targeted by arseholes again in future? Because you will be.

pinkyredrose · 15/12/2015 11:55

Has he texted yet OP?

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lostinthewoodshelp · 15/12/2015 14:04

No but i saw him yesterday and he crossed the road to avoid me!

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pinkyredrose · 15/12/2015 16:34

In the nicest possible way, that's good! Hopefully it'll prove to you he really doesn't care about you at all. Christmas and New Year is coming, look forward to celebrating with your DC and a new year without all his negative crap dragging you down.

MadeMan · 18/12/2015 05:46

"he's going to ask the doctor for a psychiatrist?"

That boy needs therapy.

Suddenlyseymour · 18/12/2015 12:59

You don't need to be asking "why won't he just tell me it's over?" You know, you can tell him it's over, why prolong this abuse of you?

When he eventually does text you, because at some point he will get horny, you do not have to drop everything and get over there. How about actually blocking his number? Give yourself some control.....

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