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Right then...time to get this biatch to back off

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munkynutts · 10/12/2015 10:50

Been seeing a guy for 4/5 months.
Before me, he was casually seeing (sleeping with and hanging out but no shared plans or talk of feelings) a woman who is much older than me and was in the process of leaving her husband. It was fizzling out by the time I came on the scene, I know there was an 'overlap' between me and her in the first month, which is fine by me, it was the same situation on my side when I was seeing him (was also casually seeing someone else). Now though:
She left her husband.
He is with me.
I'm pretty sure he isn't messing around on the side as we spend almost every night together.

HOWEVER. She calls and texts him constantly. I never check his phone obviously, I'm not like that, but I can't help if his phone goes off next to me at breakfast and I see its her. He never answers but she keeps at it. Apparently fairly angry messages, trash talking him, begging him to reply,. etc. Three times now she has turned up on his doorstep.

Last night was the first time we spoke about it properly. I feel he should be doing more, he says he has already told her he will call the police if she turns up again, and he doesnt respond to her. I feel clearly in some way he must not be being forceful enough or must be encouraging it. He blocked her number in front of me, but I feel pissed off he hadn't done that already. I'm considering taking action myself. I asked if she knows about me, he said yes. In that case, irrespective of what shes doing to him, she is disrespecting ME, clearly. What would you do? And what do you think about the situation? Any similar experiences?

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PolkaDotMouse · 10/12/2015 17:44

Ha ha! she's disrespecting ME, clearly Has it not occurred to you he is disrespecting you both?!

Not sure why you're so concerned about her, or her age, or the age of people responding to this.

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ILiveAtTheBeach · 10/12/2015 19:08

Biatch left her homeboy ta be wit yo' pimp and now dat schmoooove muthafucka has dumped her n' started seein yo. No wonder she be annoyed. For realz.

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Isetan · 10/12/2015 20:28

I stick to my belief though. Which is that if the person you were seeing decides to embark on a relationship with someone else, that is their right and should be respected irrespective of your hurt. I don't think you can leave a person for another person either.

Really OP, really! Are you seriously going to take the moral high ground after your admission of overlapping relationships.

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Offred · 10/12/2015 20:34

Nowt to do with moral high ground or otherwise IMO. Just only OP's BF's say so that this other woman is; a. An ex, b. Not being encouraged and/or c. Knew the relationship was 'casual' and is now boiling bunnies.