Been seeing a guy for 4/5 months.
Before me, he was casually seeing (sleeping with and hanging out but no shared plans or talk of feelings) a woman who is much older than me and was in the process of leaving her husband. It was fizzling out by the time I came on the scene, I know there was an 'overlap' between me and her in the first month, which is fine by me, it was the same situation on my side when I was seeing him (was also casually seeing someone else). Now though:
She left her husband.
He is with me.
I'm pretty sure he isn't messing around on the side as we spend almost every night together.
HOWEVER. She calls and texts him constantly. I never check his phone obviously, I'm not like that, but I can't help if his phone goes off next to me at breakfast and I see its her. He never answers but she keeps at it. Apparently fairly angry messages, trash talking him, begging him to reply,. etc. Three times now she has turned up on his doorstep.
Last night was the first time we spoke about it properly. I feel he should be doing more, he says he has already told her he will call the police if she turns up again, and he doesnt respond to her. I feel clearly in some way he must not be being forceful enough or must be encouraging it. He blocked her number in front of me, but I feel pissed off he hadn't done that already. I'm considering taking action myself. I asked if she knows about me, he said yes. In that case, irrespective of what shes doing to him, she is disrespecting ME, clearly. What would you do? And what do you think about the situation? Any similar experiences?
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Right then...time to get this biatch to back off
munkynutts · 10/12/2015 10:50
I agree with some of the other posters above. My friend went out with a man years ago who had an ex who behaved a bit strangely. The man told my friend that it was all his ex's issues and nothing to do with him. My friend believed him, right up until the moment that he told her they were breaking up because he had married someone else the previous week. 
Some men like having an overlap, and they either don't have the courage to be honest about a situation or just don't care about other people's feelings.
"Trash talking"? "Biatch" 
Are you a Mean Girl?
If he's serious about you, he will block her. If not, not.
In fact I think Melissa might just give you a glimpse of the future OP...
Think of me as the ghost of Christmas future
I do quite agree with Tiggeryoubastard. And, I'm from America. 
Maybe a bit more of - There but for the grace of god go I. After all, you will be older someday, too. Perhaps empathy or some degree of compassion might be in order. Like, if you met her, you might say, I'm really sorry this happened to you - it's tough, and I hope you can find a way to move past it? I dunno. But I do know this, Loves me some mumsnet! It's bitchin'! Now, I making that hand gesture with only the thumb and pinky up.
So his ex was sleeping with him whilst still with her DH.
You slept with him whilst still in a relationship and whilst he was still with his ex.
DO NOT CONTACT HER!!! 
Rise about it all and don't get involved in the whole drama.
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blimey what a man having these women fighting over him i'm embarassed for you op.
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