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Please help me. I'm an alcoholic

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Marryoneorbecomeone · 02/12/2015 09:17

Just that really.

I know I have a problem, I'm behaving very badly, and I need to stop.

I drink because I'm bored and lonely in the evenings when the kids are in bed. My marriage is stale but he's a good man and I'm letting him down.

Do I just turn up at an AA meeting?

OP posts:
Hope34 · 01/12/2016 22:54

Well Done Flowers

ALaughAMinute · 01/12/2016 22:56

OP, my brother was an alcoholic and died of alcohol relatated problems two years ago. His brain was effected too and he became delusional towards the end. There was nothing I could do to help him.

My best friend was also was also an alcoholic for six years but somehow managed to give up and turn her life around. She realised the drink was making her depressed and with the help of her GP she managed to give up. She now has a new man in her life and a really good job and has never been happier.

You can do it. You've got to give up.

Wishing you all the very best for 2017.

Flowers
ALaughAMinute · 01/12/2016 22:58

Sorry, didn't read the whole thread but just had a look and it looks like you have given up.

I am so happy for you. Well done!

SealSong · 01/12/2016 23:14

What an inspirational thread. Very well done OP and others who have kicked the booze/drugs, and wishing strength to those still grappling with addictions Flowers

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Marryoneorbecomeone · 01/12/2016 23:15

Alaughaminute I'm so sorry to hear about your brother. Yes, I've given up, for a year now. Well done to your mate! X

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ALaughAMinute · 02/12/2016 19:16

Hope you have the best Christmas and New Year ever Marry. You truly are a strong woman!

strawberryblondebint · 06/12/2016 18:19

marry that's amazing. Please just keep doing what you are doing. Don't stop meetings. I only do one a week now but I treat it like medicine. It would only take one fuck it moment and I could be back in hell. I need to keep the bank of resources topped up so I have a mental defence. I'm honestly delighted for you. I'm 5 years and 5 months sober and every day is better than the one before. Well some days are still shit of course but my worst day sober is still better than my best day drunk.

pointythings · 06/12/2016 20:13

1 year is amazing, well done and thank you for coming back and updating! Flowers

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Marryoneorbecomeone · 14/05/2017 00:57

Almost 18 months sober. Thankyou for persuading me to go to AA. I got my life back. Flowers

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laptopshmaptop · 14/05/2017 01:12

Congratulations Marry Flowers

I was the child of an alcoholic and it was no fun, believe me. AA saved my mumsl life. She was very active within AA and ran her own group, and organised trips to conventions, even as far away as Gran Canaria.

Sadly, she began drinking again 10 years later. 3 years later she was gone.

Keeping taking one day at a time. Recovery is ongoing. X

ICESTAR · 14/05/2017 09:24

Well done Marryone. I remember this thread. I remember how articulate and funny you are in your replies. I'm so glad you are happy and you're managing to keep it up. Has your life changed for the better?

Foureyesarebetterthantwo · 14/05/2017 09:27

Fantastic news, well done!

SandysMam · 14/05/2017 09:42

Amazing news! Can you describe the ways your life is better perhaps as an inspiration to others?

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marryoneorbecomeone · 03/12/2017 12:17

Two years!!!Brew

I’m a different, stronger, happier, more contented woman than I’ve ever been. The thought of drinking now is so very unappealing because I associate it with being unable to stop and the dreadful after effects.

X

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NoCanoe · 03/12/2017 13:00

Congratulations. I've only just read this thread for the first time. And It's been inspiring. And humbling. In lots of ways.
I hope some of the original posters come back to update too.
Flowers to you all.

Seeds1962 · 03/12/2017 19:23

Oh congratulations!

Hernameisdeborah · 03/12/2017 19:26

Well done, your strength is amazing xxx

Babyblues052 · 03/12/2017 19:57

Well done to you!!!! I hope you have many more sober happy years! Amazing

venusandmars · 03/12/2017 20:28

Brilliant!

I am a regular on the Brave Babes thread, we love, love, love to hear of news like yours x

Beaumatrix · 03/12/2017 20:36

Just stumbled across your thread Op....well done 👍👍👍👍

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Marryoneorbecomeone · 05/12/2017 12:29

Thank you. It’s not easy but I did it with AA. Life is immeasurably better. I feel so sad for the people whose Christmases will be ruined by alcohol, as so many of mine were. Sad And that was both as an adult, and as a child, dealing with drunken family.

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user1494409994 · 05/12/2017 12:46

Congratulations. Best wishes for many more of the same.

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Marryoneorbecomeone · 05/12/2017 12:47

thankyou!

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Maria1982 · 05/12/2017 12:53

Have just stumbled across this thread and now I seem to have something in my eye...

Well done, and congratulations!!

AA is amazing. Without it I have several family members who would likely have died by now.

hellsbellsmelons · 05/12/2017 13:39

What a great thread to read.
Well done OP.
You took that step and fought those demons.
I've no doubt you are very proud of yourself.
And so you should be!

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