Caught DTD

[AtSea1979]

So DS (10) walked in. I thought the door was locked, it wasn't. He doesn't want to talk about it. I don't know how much he saw/knows.
I'm not in a serious relationship with anyone, just dating, which I think makes it harder.
How do others DTD as kids get older? Especially when you are in early relationship and don't want to put a guy off by only having sex once a fortnight when DS at his dad's!

look for help I meant, sorry

Although i agree with the consensus about the OPs boundaries i am also uncomfortable with the terminology used by Sonny.

Im not surprised though. I could see his posts heading that way.....agree with AF.

I bloody hope so, bongo

Sonny I'm not your ex.
I parent DD 24/7 except for the odd 3 hrs like this eve which has happened about 5 times in past year, and DS I parent 6 out of 7 days. I don't drink. I haven't been 'out' for years. Once a blue moon I get the chance of a meal out or trip to cinema. That is it. The rest of the time I am parenting and working.
Those who attacked my inability to put my DC needs first. I gave up the career I adored to be there for my DC, on top of all the usual sacrifices mothers have to make.

Sorry, I'm not depressed now but I have been in the past when I was compounded with loneliness to the point that I have a fear of being alone so I seek out relationships and sometimes cling to unhealthy ones like a sinking ship. Maybe I need to be on my own and deal with that but I have had years on my own and I prefer not to be. Obviously that does not mean I shag randoms for company, nothing could be further from the truth.

Anyfucker,

Clearly it was a play on getting a lock on her bedroom door and her need to bring strangers into her home with child present to have sex.

That is a huge over reaction and completely uncalled for.

Anyone that get's involved with my ex wife is in for a world of lies, deception and will be living a lie.

I doubt she will ever have a long term healthy relationship as she lacks the emotional maturity to have one.

So AtSea is your ex wife?

Umbongo - I was just thinking this - he seems to have a very personal interest in the OP

I apologise for misconstruing the crux of your comment, sonny, but I don't like your general tone. You started off making some reasonable comments and now you just look a bit creepy.

sonny you are very angry. I think the op has got the point now. Back off. You are on her other thread too.

Anyfucker,

I wouldn't call someone unfortunate enough to have sex with my ex anything.

I would say they are in for one heck of a emotionally detached and bizarre experience. If you have ever experienced sex with someone that goes through the motions but is completely not 'there'. It's weird, but I thought I could show her 'how someone genuine could love her', as I fell for her false tales of victim hood.

I'm only interested in protecting my daughter and not exposing her to anything like that.

'creepy' ?

In what way could you construe anything I have said as 'creepy' ?

I'm so confused after advance searching (thanks for heads up on other thread!)
Op you may want to name change for greater chance at sympathy. The dates on your old posts don't add up to what your claiming and its all quite odd!
Although was at screwfix being a insult

I'm confused now. sonny I am not your ex wife.
Unless you are ex DP being spiteful. Now this I could believe.

What on earth?

How many thousand times have I read on Mumsnet, 'my ex was just like this'.

A man states this and suddenly he's a possible stalker of ex wifes.

and Anyfucker, I don't find your 'tone' on mumsnet particularly endearing but it's not something to make something of.

If you think she is a troll then report her and fuck off.

No, not for one second have I insinuated that you are my ex wife.

I've just entered a parallel universe.

Sonny are a women hater in general because your nasty abusive and yes threatening behavior is certainly making you look that way. Sorry for you break up as I suppose atsea is but its not her fault your relationship went tits up.

A troll? I've been here for over ten years!
Dates don't add up? My whole life doesn't add up, trust me. But if you think I enjoy drama and wish this on my DC then you couldn't be further from the truth. In black and white my life appears so chaotic yet day to day it's routine and order, in fact my problems with relationships stem from being unable to cope without routine and boundaries as I am quite OCD about things.

I knew she wsasnt a troll all along as she didn't name change. Thst I would say id usually the first clue.

look, sonny, you are looking like a bloke who is highly uncomfortable with women calling you out now

I have been supportive and helpful to AtSea on other threads (yes, advance search is your friend) and you have not.

I have also very clearly criticised her boundaries, not made sweeping statements about her lifelong future dysfunction and not made cheap cracks.