Caught DTD

[AtSea1979]

So DS (10) walked in. I thought the door was locked, it wasn't. He doesn't want to talk about it. I don't know how much he saw/knows.
I'm not in a serious relationship with anyone, just dating, which I think makes it harder.
How do others DTD as kids get older? Especially when you are in early relationship and don't want to put a guy off by only having sex once a fortnight when DS at his dad's!

AtSea insulting other posters won't change the fact that you are making very poor parenting choices and doing potential damage to your son.

Instead of feeling defensive about it, why don't you take it on board and change things around?

As ridiculous as it is, that is the kind of response to be expected from someone that puts their own wants and desires above the needs and security of their own child.

AtSea your last post does you no favours.

OP, had your DS met the guy before? It can be intimidating meeting the person your parent is dating, and I'd imagine even more so if they're actually inside your parent when it happens.

I don't think anyone is saying you're not allowed to have sex, but can't you arrange it for when the kids aren't there? Ask to take a long lunch break and come home, or wait until they are staying at their DFs?

Brilliant advice, Moriarty but I wouldn't bother because as you've just seen by her last post she bites your head off.

Op is currently out on another date according to her new thread. Wonder if she'll be bringing this one home too.

I saw that thread too. Umbomgo. If it all goes tits up. I wont be holding her hand.
Feel like warning fellow unsuspecting posters too that they'll get chewed up and spat out. But its another thresd I guess so another day.

Yeah I thought about saying something but thought better leave it!

Wow,

Like lambs to the slaughter aren't they.

All lapping it up and place marking for the 'goss'.

If she can arrange a babysitter why is she bringing dates back for sex?

There is nothing wrong in saying on thread "advance search is your friend"

that's what the function is for, after all

Well I've just recommend she not bring him home for sex so I'm expecting the wrath of MN any minute now.

It's crazy. My ex has nothing to do with my daughter so I understand it's hard when you literally have no time spare. But I still maintain a sex life! Just not in the house where my Dd is!

Haha walter !

Waves to Walter.

My ex has nearly half her time without our young child and plenty of people to look after her, but still chooses to behave like the OP.

Most people don't won't to believe it but there are many selfish parents out there that behave in this way. I don't understand it and I would never do it.

They then act surprised when the children start to act up, or the man quickly loses interest once they've got what they want and wonder why these 'relationships' never last.

Once you become a parent, you can't behave in the same way as when you were not just because you are single. Keep the children out of it, there is probably more chance of a relationship being successful in the long term by doing so.

I don't believe these type of people have the emotional intelligence to do this though as they are attention seekers, good or bad.

I'm glad you lot showed up!

Wonder if we will get an update?

Probably not if she took a trip to Screwfix earlier.

Haha!!!

Instead of feeling defensive about it, why don't you take it on board and change things around?

Good point walter I'll be single and lonely for next ten years just on off chance that DS wakes in the night, I fumble the lock, and I haven't yet introduced latest squeeze. But will you still be here when I start my thread about SS taking DC away or MH thread? Because that's the most likely scenario than me dating a paedophile.

Err, ok

Let's not carried away here.

It's one thing to have an issue with op's parenting and poor boundaries but I think cracks like "screwfix" are really fucking poor.

You are a bloke, sonny ? Well, you can piss off with your name calling. Do you call men who like to have sex "screwfix" ? What about all the men who fuck your ex ? What do you call them ?

As ridiculous as it is, that is the kind of response to be expected from someone that puts their own wants and desires above the needs and security of their own child

Unfortunately they are more secure with my two year disasters than with me, alone, depressed and struggling.

anyfucker

Think he was making a reference to getting a lock on her door not calling her a name....

AtSea...you don't need a bloke. No woman does. Having some tosser sneak into your house while your dc is sleeping won't make you feel better, won't raise your self esteem, and going off the behaviour of the latest one will just compound your depression.

Respected advice is that when you are "depressed and struggling" you don't look for it in crappy relationships, but in finding ways to build yourself up that don't require the validation of the people least likely to give it to you