DP in the bedroom - is this normal or am I right to feel upset?

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DP's behaviour in the bedroom:

1. Loves receiving oral sex, but won't give it to me as he finds it 'gross' and 'tastes horrible'
2. Comes too soon 9 times out of 10, and tells me he can't help it. Then rolls over an goes to sleep...really frustrating for me!
3. Wants to wash immediately after sex
4. On the odd occasion, there can be a very very, barely noticeable, TINY amount of blood is on the condom afterwards (been checked out and it's nothing to worry about, cell erosion) and DP freaks out and calls it 'disgusting.'
5. A few weeks ago I bought some sexy underwear and waited for DP when he got home from work - he barely said anything and just asked how much it had cost...

After a chat with a friend the other weekend, she was shocked particularly at point 2. She said her DP would always make sure she comes, either by giving her oral sex or slowing down etc.

I had been feeling down about all this for ages, and my friend has made me think more about it since our chat. I've asked DP many times whether he just doesnt fancy me, but he claims he was like this with his ex and just 'isn't a sexual person.' I find this hard to believe as I know he watches porn - wouldnt bother me too much if he was at least attentive to us in the bedroom as well.

He tells me I am beautiful all the time but sex wise, this is all I get. I feel I am missing out and feel guilty for feeling that way :(

He likes and receives oral sex from you but won't return the favor. Okay some people don't like giving oral which is fine.It's not to everyone's taste. If you'll pardon the pun.. But then if he's not prepared to give them he should not expect to get.
Now I don't like receiving oral. It does nothing for me, but I love giving. So dp doesn't go down on me through my choice. But refusing to is entirely different.
Washing after sex. Yes I do see where he's coming from there. Sex can be very smelly. I always wash my equipment afterwards.
Cums too soon, and says he can't help it. Well he actually can't. It's virtually impossible for a man to hold off ejaculating once he has started. Would he consider seeking medical advise but my instincts tell me hev is rather stubborn and lets be honest. It's not the easiest thing in the world to be discussing your bits and sex life with people, even medics. But if he is willing to go they may give him Viagra.
However to just turn over and not give you pleasure, well that he can help and he is being selfish