So so angry...

[Winniethewylde]

I'm in tears of absolute anger and hatred here. Probably being totally dramatic but just have to rant.

My STBEXH who I am divorcing for his unreasonable behaviour has just returned from shopping with an Apple Watch proudly on his arm. Meanwhile I'm scrapping every one of my pennies together (no savings, SAHM) by selling things on eBay, etc to pay for the solicitor I instructed. Maybe I'm just jealous that I don't have that kind of money to throw around but I'm bloody seething.

Sorry, pretty pointless post really.

It's ok to be angry. I just seen my ex buying new uniform for his new girlfriends daughter. He doesn't Even see our daughter. Think of it as a lucky escape!

Aah OP, I don't blame you for feeling Grrr...but just keep remembering that when its all done and dusted and you are able to move on to a new life, he will have an Apple Watch with a 1 year warranty to keep him warm at night .

Nothing is pointless. Good to vent! I remember driving round in my tatty car whilst my husband, his ex wife, my ex husband and his new wife all had flash cars and I was looking after all the children that were between us. I use to seeth with anger sometimes.

What an arsehole, I wonder why you're divorcing him!

Hi Winnie

They do make you so angry don't they!

But blurt it all out on here and keep your calm dignity as far as he is concerned.

Are there DC and are they housed and fed etc whilst he's being a toss pot? Keep a diary of all the stuff that happens, it may be useful later on.

And technical you own half that watch so you could ask him to let you have it next week as its your turn. Might give you a giggle if nothing else to inform him of that fact.

Thanks everyone and Dung that really made me laugh. So true. We have 2 young dcs and I'm playing with them, cooking dinner at the same time while he's fiddling with his new toy. I can't even bear to look at him

Hope you are not cooking his dinner. If it was my STBXH he would be wearing his dinner

I am. Stupid I know. He's still living here and it's hell on earth.

Jaysus. What are you doing cooking his dinner!

Stop cooking for him!

I wouldn't have cooked it at all but as you have done spit in it ......

Not big or clever but might make you feel a little better ....

Don't cook his flipping dinner!
You're a SAHM - you can fiddle the meal times if you can't cope with the level of assertiveness to just tell him to cook his own fucking dinner!
Have your main meal at lunchtime, start feeding the kids before he's back, or kids only if it's later.

And enjoy writing that watch down on the list of marital assets

Why are you making his dinner!! Stop that now - bloody hell, the entitled twat, let him sort himself out, he can look up recipes on his nice new watch

More fool you for cooking his dinner

What an intolerable situation. Why is he still living with you and why are you cooking for the twat??

It's hideous I know. When I saw the solicitor he advised that as he was still paying for the house, bills, well everything in fact, then I should continue what I was doing in order to maintain the status quo.

Give him an appraising slit-eyed look and ask him if he's been putting on weight and has he had his cholesterol checked recently? Then get in lots of salad for him. After all, you have to think of the DCs and his future health.

(While you eat chips and steak of course. )

My best friends exh has just moved the OW into the family home (5 bed detached house) that he kept because she couldn't afford it! Is that not a bit weird from the OW perspective or it it the ultimate "I've won" statement. She and her 2 kids now live in a rented 2 up 2 down.

I don't think your solicitor meant that you still needed to provide domestic services

Him living under the same roof is one thing. You continuing to be his handmaiden is quite another

He is massively taking the piss and you are letting him

Give the loo a little clean with his toothbrush tonight....that'll cheer you up

FFS stop making his dinner. Jesus. Ignore him and his bloody watch.

you're cooking his dinner?

I see a lot of stunning things on MN but I'm really speechless now

Make a careful note; date, model, cost if you can find out.
make sure you have a list of all the little 'treats' he's had since separation.

The value of those can come off his share of the matrimonial assets.

Jesus. Yes I am. Yes I'm an idiot I know. Yes I'm having the shittest fucking time ever but we have 2 small dcs who as yet don't know the situation. I'm trying to keep my dignity about this as I keep telling myself it'll be over by this time next year.

You admit that he pays for the house, the bills, and everything else, and somehow he's not allowed buy a watch for himself?