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Have I creeped her out, avoiding walking past me?

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Apprac · 15/10/2015 19:28

Im guessing she finds me creepy or similar? A girl seems to deliberatly avoid walking past me. she's done it in the past by which i mean she speeds up to avoid us passing. she also reaches out when passing something almost like a nervous thing so she can turn away quickly and walk away. Another time she walked past and looked down and fiddled with the zip on her jacket then she deliberatly avoided walking past me by going the long way around. Iam attracted to her maybe she dont feel the same obviously lol
somedays she avoids eye contact like looks the other way when i look at her, when I look at her she won't look at me. But then today she was totally different talking with full eye contact but she still looks at this other guy much more and avoids me when in conversation. Anyway later that day I did stare at her a few times, in which I mean I looked at her obviously she saw me but didn't look backend generally looked at the floor. After this she changed. She walked past once messing with the zip on her jacket, then walked the long way round to avoid walking past me. At the end of the day she was around but she was facing the opposite way as I said goodbye, she replied. she moved again i could see her looking at the other guy whilst waving to him, she then carried on the direction i was going waved to me but didn't even look at me, but just looked elsewhere whilst she put her hand up. I find this quite rude? She doesn't seem to have a problem looking at the other guy, but like even in conversation she will very rarely look at me as if I don't exist.
Girls, should I just back away and avoid looking at her completely?

OP posts:
KitZacJak · 20/10/2015 13:53

Whichever it is, you need to back away!!!

lorelei9 · 20/10/2015 13:55

Scremersford "He was most apologetic, but seriously, what kind of man stares at a woman like that?"

what did he say, just out of interest?

Cheesybaps · 20/10/2015 14:02

I find it super creepy that you seem to notice every tiny move she makes!

Back off.

Scremersford · 20/10/2015 19:48

lorelei9 oh sort of stuttering and mumbling, embarrassed that was sorry and didn't mean it etc..

It was a car park with picnic area, late afternoon, behind a motorway service station. Maybe it was some sort of local pick up joint, certainly he was behaving that way, as if he thought any woman who got out of her car was there to meet him. Same thing the OP is doing, assuming (wrongly) that everything a woman who just happens to be in the same place as him is doing things because she might be interested in him.

If anyone thinks I overreacted, tough. I felt really threatened and uncomfortable, and I bet if he'd stared unblinkingly at a man in a similar scenario, he'd have risked being beaten up.

lorelei9 · 20/10/2015 22:04

Scremer, good for you. I might be brave enough to try that next time.
One good thing about forthcoming winter, hiding under a big hood!

ChilliAndMint · 20/10/2015 22:05

I don't think he is creepy, not particularly erudite perhaps ,with a huge crush.
Been there....

springydaffs · 20/10/2015 22:53

VILE posts on this thread

I can't believe this thread is still going, despite op disappearing loooong ago (don't blame him) with so many of you are taking the trouble to post over and over that op is a creep, creepy, weird etc etc so desperately unkindly. When all he has done is document in detail what is happening. When ALL of us have been in a situation where we are acutely aware of every nuance of that situation - every look, glance; all the possible shades of meaning in that situation, trying to work it out.

Op, clear projections going on on this thread and vile responses for some reason. Try not to take it personally and make out you're a woman when you post and see the difference in the responses

ChilliAndMint · 20/10/2015 23:02

Have any of you posters ever had an all consuming crush ?

I for one think ( hope) it is mutual.

I think OP should grow a pair of big boy pants and stick a post it note on her puter asking her to meet for coffee.

If it turns out she doesn't like him ( I reckon she is mutually crushing) he's hardly going to end up with egg on his face now, is he?

morerain4me · 20/10/2015 23:05

I think poster needed to say more to clarify situation. The fact that they are posting on mumsnet implies one of them/both has kids which may complicate things (as we all know).

In my case (see earlier post) felt OP in the end did make it clear they liked me but I still had my doubts as why did they not just add me as a friend on facebook or come in and see me (I work in a public facing job) as I explained earlier I now know why. I obviously wasn't worth the effort to go that far. Just felt like it was some sort of game to him to amuse himself when bored.

morerain4me · 20/10/2015 23:19

Post it note - best idea! :)

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