DRY 9!!!!!

[CheesyNachos]

The DRY 8 thread suddenly came to an end! 1000 messages before we knew it.

THis is the thread for those who are abstaining and who want to abstain from alcohol. :)

All are welcome.

Previous thread is here.

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2432985-DRY-8?

Cheesy, poor you, you're trying to pull in too many things. I completely understand the drinking to escape enough to just go through the motions. I used to get lots of housework done when drunk. What can you stop or drop or change? I think it would be worth trying to cut back something. Stop ironing, buy ready meals, take a day off work but don't tell anyone?

Warrgghh well done on 10 days! Your first post finished with you asking,"How on earth do I do this?" Well, you're doing it! Brill.

Cheesy & Bubblebath I think Xmas is a big ole trigger in itself!! I prescribe reading this brilliant post from Prim today stat It's about the Xmas crazies takinganewpath.wordpress.com/2015/12/08/in-case-you-too-are-doing-that-native-american-war-chant-today/
& 3phase only 1 Xmas card is being sent from this house so yes you have my permission too!! Stay sane & sober people

PS I put Xmas cards in that FOG category - something I do out of fear, obligation or guilt but stopped sending them a few years ago and the world didn't end!

I told one of my oldest friends last night that I had stopped drinking and had been to AA. He was horrified. And then he grilled me as to how closely I matched what HE thinks of as an alcoholic. (Physiologically dependent, drinking all day, drinking daily etc.)
I laughed and said "and now you're thinking "well we can't be friends" and he said "to be honest I'm kind of thinking that."

I don't know if he's serious or not! There was a point at which I though "are we talking about your drinking or mine?"

Cheesy that sounds very tough. Hope you're ok today X

cheesy unMNetty hugs and xxx

Marry his drinking, for sure :( hang in there as it is about you not him

him not you!

It was Corrie Cheesy, I'm a big fan. Thing is I was kind of remembering as I watched it but such a waste of time to watch twice cos I was too pissed the first time ...
I'm not sure how dry I'll be for the rest of December but as dry as possible is what I hope and then DH will do dry January with me. I plan to continue.

White knuckling here .. please help !

Are you ok? It will pass. Keep talking x

Gladistopped, what's happening for you? X X X

I've had a really tough couple of weeks. Work has been extremely stressful as it always is this time of year, very busy with long hours, and trying to fit in planning stuff for Christmas is doing my head in. Suffice it to say I've been lurking, but would've felt a bit of a fraud posting on a Dry thread . I can't wait for 1st January. A new year & a fresh start.

Sorry others have been finding things tough too & to all.

glad I hope you're OK x

Morning everyone. It's ridiculously early. Am attempting to cross off some more items on my To Do lists before the little people wake up and the builders arrive....

A month today! Must be for you too Dona. This was my first goal really - to get a month, I think it's been 4 years since I last managed to complete Dry January (and that includes the Januaries I was pregnant for . The temptation to 'celebrate' is chattering loudly in my head but I want to carry on. I know I'll be so proud of myself if I get through Christmas sober.

I'm becoming a Christmas sloth. I have put 80 Christmas cards back in the cupboard for next year and will only be sending the ones I really need to. Today I'm supposed to driving to family who live 3 hours away to deliver presents but have decided to stay at home and spend the day listening to Christmas music and parcelling it all up instead. Can't see it costing anymore to post that I would have spent on petrol. Lazy.

Glad - did it pass?

Morning! 3phase I am very impressed with your plan to just make thngs easier for yourself at this busy and stressful time of the year. Good for you!!!

Congrats on a month!

Thanks everyone for the support and warmth. I am feeling a bit stronger this morning. I have no big stresses, just lots and lots of little things snowballing. (And I have just realised this morning I screwed something up big time for work....need to try and firefight that today.)

Marry I also agree your friend has a problem..... no-one should care that much about your not-drinking exept to be happy for you. That screams ishoos to me. I am so sorry that there may be implications on your friendship.

glad how are you lovely?

Armada hope you are okay too.

dancing hope your day off has reinvigorated you.

Umpteen I took your advice and bought readymeals last night. Thanks. :)

Thanks for the link Lucy.

I am not 'back' and in the saddle in terms of my equilibrium. But have decided to fake it until I make it. I am going to fake calmness and being in control. Putting DS in the afterschool club today to give myself some more time. Readymeal tonight also. Need to throw myself on the mercy of my line manager over the thing I stuffed up.(The world will not end....but it was piece of twattery on my part). I am going to pretend I am calm and in control and hope it rubs off. I have been in a total flap the past few days and achieved nothing but misery so a new approach might work.

DH is going away again for work today, back maybe Friday possibly Saturday. That does not help much to be honest but he is so bad tempered and stressed too right now. [shakes head].

Hope everyone has a great day.

Sounds better Cheesy

I've been thinking about your "friend" Merry. I'd give him a wide berth for a while; he'll be no support. It's priceless to have some support in this sobriety lark - on this thread, in AA, or in RL. I stayed with my lovely friend over the weekend and we talked about my drinking. She was so understanding that we both ended up in tears!

3phase - yay! Cutting out most cards and a whole day of driving. Result!

Faking it until you make it sounds like a great plan Cheesy

I think my version of parenting must be 95% faking it until I make it I strode into school with teachers presents for four children looking very organised this morning. Nobody knew they'd been assembled, wrapped and children's handwriting faked at 5am this morning....

Have been following but unable to post. I got logged out and I couldn't remember the email and password😈 (changed after hackergate)

glad thinking of you, hope you are OK?

Look after yourself cheesy

dona, I just didn't want the alcohol at all on Saturday. It was like trying to force myself to smoke a cigarette

Umpteen your friend sounds great! I think my friend will be avoiding me from now on

Ladies I've not discussed Christmas dinner with my rels yet. I'm hosting, and they are heavy drinkers. I don't want scrutiny so am considering faking it with AF wine. Thoughts?

Also I've just finished "Blackout" by Sarah Hepola. It's all about alcohol recovery and makes interesting reading. I saw so much of myself in there. If anyone would like it, pm me an address and I'll stick it in the post.

If so, then they were not truly your friend Marry.

Faking it with AF wine may work so long as you stay in control of the pouring. If it was me, I would make up an excuse for not drinking.

Marry I have a kidney problem atm - having surgery in the NY - my consultant hasn't told me not to drink but that's what I'm telling most people and they don't bat an eyelid. Plus if I say that when I first sit down, I can't very well start drinking in front of them even if I wanted to. So it's an added layer of security for my sobriety iyswim.

I agree with Seabiscotti - if you can, tell everyone you're taking antibiotics for a dental problem or something and you can't drink on them.

Thanks all, got through it - just a load of stress and I really really wanted to drink. Went to bed instead. Stress still here but at least I don't have a hangover as well!

glad. You should be proud.

Glad