How effing nice is *this*?

[GiraffeGotTheLastRoomInTheInn]

I am suffering quite badly from what the doctor today described as 'one of the worst cases of tonsillitis I have EVER seen'.

I feel like I am dying, I haven't eaten ANYTHING for four days and am struggling to swallow my own saliva, let alone drink anything.

And dp has....

wait for it.....

gone to stay with his parents 'so he doesn't catch it', only returning home to collect ironed shirts and (admittedly only once) ask if I could just make him some lunch.

My mum has been helping me out with dd this week, thank goodness, but she is going away tomorrow so i have got to cope with dd all by myself.

So he says to me on the phone tonight

'I'm going climbing straight from work tomorrow.Don't suppose you fancy it, do you? No? Oh well I'll speak to you over the weekend then and see if you're better.'

What f***ng world does he live in?

Do you know, I feel like telling him I am better and ready to give him a celebratory blow job, then when he comes rushing home, give him a big snog, making sure my tonsils come into contact with his....

And then leave him on his own for a fucking week in HIS hour of need.

Am just over his behaviour. But I see that you are as well so don't need a rant from me on that score.

If it's not significantly better then please do go to the doctor again. My sister had quinsy that needed hospital treatment -- it's really nasty and you need to look out for yourself (given there's no one else to do it for you)

'ckin 'ell... now I moan about my dp til the cows come home and his arse-ish-ness but he'd never leave me alone to cope with dd whilst I was ill (and he isn't even her father). Can't believe his mums lets him get away with it either.

I haven't read the whole thread, but this is exactly what an ex boyfriend did to me when I had glandular fever. When I took a turn for the worse on a weekend, I asked him to take me to the emergency doctor and he refused because his football team were to be parading round Edinburgh in an open topped bus because they had won the Scottish Cup and he wasn't going to miss that. I had to drive myself to the doctor where it turned out that I had a 42degree fever. I couldn't get back to my flat as I lived near the football stadium and all the streets were closed. He was dumped shortly after as he didn't see that he had done anything wrong. It wasn't as if I was some bird he had just met the week before either, we had been going out for 4 years. Arse.

hope you are feeling a bit better this morning
but if not - second all the people saying get yourself back to doctor or to the hospital. I didn't do this when I had quinsy and boy did I pay for it!

Climbing??? Perhaps he'll fall and end up needed some nursing care himself. Guess who won't be giving it!

Selfish, callous tosser. Words fail me......

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Christ I am appalled Giraffe.
a class A selfish wanker IMO
REally hope you're getting better xxxxxxx

Who gives people like this the time of day?

Honestly.

That's not a 'partner'. A partner is someone who's there for you.

A roommate is someone who buggers off b/c they don't want to catch it.

Sorry, but he'd be out on his keister if he were my boyfriend.

has he rung and asked if you are feeling better? has he offered to do anything?

he's left you ill; he's done nothing, he's even left you his washing up to do. He's gone to his mother's because his partner isn't 'working' - you're not doing his cooking or anything else. He's not a man, he's a boy, and if he can't look after his own partner he doesn't have enough caring in him to make a good stepfather even if your dd does love him.

get better and chuck him out.

Ditto that post - just unbelieveable that these men actually exist - looking for some 'little women' to look after them and when the going gets tough run off to mummy - what a p. Sorry Giraffe - I am just so angry at whats he done to you! Also v worried as we haven't heard from you today yet - r u ok?

That was meant to be 4*'s not 2 - feel free to add the missing letters........

. I echo what others have said...not a dp imo. .

Leave you with your dd so he doesn't catch it..WTF..??!!!

DD was quite ill a few months ago when aged about 12 months, admitted to hospital etc and told she had gastroenteritus (sp), upon returning from the hospital at 8pm (been there since 10am) I told dh I felt very ill but couldn't explain it..with that I was put to bed and moments later was violently sick..yup you guessed it, I had the same as dd. So I slept in the spare room while dh saw to dd and me during the night. He's self emp BUT insisted that he would take the next day off to help us..bless...BUT upon waking the next day..yup you guessed again..dh had the same as us !! .
So all 3 of us were drastically ill. God knows how we got through that week but we did..!!

Fair enough not wanting to pass it to relatives etc BUT to not want it from your dp/dh/dw is not good...Why did he bother moving in with you..??!!! Great help he is..!!

He sounds incredibly selfish.He should be there for you and your daughter regardless of whether he catches it.I had severe tonsilitis once and it eventually caused a boil/abcess near my ear canal and I was in such a state couldn't have coped without dp.You need to seriously talk to him or like someone else said Change the locks.He is acting like a selfish single bloke and you don't need that.Have you anyone to help you out?

I totally agree with all the comments so far, but can't believe nobody so far has asked:

WHY are you ironing his shirts??!!

Or why aren't you "accidentally" letting the iron burn a big hole in the back of his favourite, expensive shirt, because you felt too ill to notice...

That tops DH refusing to take time of work while I am on my knees sobbing and begging, yes begging for him to stay at home to look after a toddler and a baby while I had severe tonsilitis and neuritis in my right arm (which I was completely unable to use).

And you are IRONING HIS SHIRTS ! ?

I couldnt iron shirts when I have tonsilitis... mind you.. I dont iron shirts when I don't have tonsilitis

My dh would probably go to work too. However, he would telephone and make sure that he could work from home. He would also get my prescription for me.

I think that what he has done is wrong in so many ways. The worst is moving out so he doesn't get it! He doesn't have to be in another house not to get it! Poor you.

dont...do...his...ironing...just hit him with it .

and wait until he gets a dose of "man flu"..............

I had tonsilitis last week, V bad and V poorly.
DH took time off work for a couple of days (mum helped the rest), he picked children up, did shopping , cooked tea put them to bed. I lay in bed moaning ( was V ill) didn't really fully appreciate it until I read this. I thought this was just normal and to be expected.

Hello. Update.

Just like to say first, I haven't been ironing while i was ill!

Luckily for him, I had just done the weeks ironing the night I fell ill.

Update- the ironing is done?WTF? How are you and have you got anyone to help you?

Also (although i shouldn't really defend him) he did know my mum was helping with dd, and i wouldn't have expected him to take time off work.

you're going to let this go aren't you?

sorry but I'd rather be alone, then I wouldn't expect anyone to help if I was ill, rather than be let down monumentaly.

Giraffe, we were all baying for his blood last night, because he did behave dispicably, take your time to reflect on whether you need someone in your life who is a passenger because he certainly diddn't behave like an adult man and certainly not a partner. You deserve better, sorry but that is the truth. talk to him and see if he sees anything wrong with his behaviour, if he doesn't, the problem is insurmountable, if he does maybe you could work things out.

Anyway. I'm feeling a bit better today, I think the ABx have kicked in properly. I feel like I do when I have a normal case of tonsillitis now. Which is a hundred times better than yesterday.

And...I have eaten. For the first time in five days.

I think I may have had quinsy tbh, i just googled it and I had every single symptom, including ear ache, neck swelling/pain, uvula (the little hanging thing in the middle) moving to one side, 'hot potato' voice, drool pooling etc, as well as all the ones on that nhs link.

Funny thing happened today- the doctor actually rang to see how i was! So....I suspect he thought quinsy too. Because I've never had a phone call before.

I have a more normal voice now, and can swallow, so have been rehydrating a lot today.

And. Now i can speak properly, I told dp off. And I said that I would not forgive him, nor forget this. He has apologised, but this incident has been noted.

sorry i just took a while to type that.

So anyway, regarding my relationship with dp, I don't think he realises how close to the wind he is sailing.

His mum was horrified (she took me to John Lewis cafe for a council of war- see, i must be a lot better, i have left the house this afternoon!) and she hadn't realised i was that ill, apparently she said to him 'are you sure Giraffeski is ok with this' several times and he assured her I was.
I believe her, as she nearly always takes my side anyway so i see no reason for her to change that now.

hang on, answering phone