How effing nice is *this*?

[GiraffeGotTheLastRoomInTheInn]

I am suffering quite badly from what the doctor today described as 'one of the worst cases of tonsillitis I have EVER seen'.

I feel like I am dying, I haven't eaten ANYTHING for four days and am struggling to swallow my own saliva, let alone drink anything.

And dp has....

wait for it.....

gone to stay with his parents 'so he doesn't catch it', only returning home to collect ironed shirts and (admittedly only once) ask if I could just make him some lunch.

My mum has been helping me out with dd this week, thank goodness, but she is going away tomorrow so i have got to cope with dd all by myself.

So he says to me on the phone tonight

'I'm going climbing straight from work tomorrow.Don't suppose you fancy it, do you? No? Oh well I'll speak to you over the weekend then and see if you're better.'

What f***ng world does he live in?

Do you know, I feel like telling him I am better and ready to give him a celebratory blow job, then when he comes rushing home, give him a big snog, making sure my tonsils come into contact with his....

And then leave him on his own for a fucking week in HIS hour of need.

Let's just say I have slowly been opening my eyes to the extent of his selfishness recently HM. This just takes the biscuit though.

He is very pleasant to be around most of the time but...got to decide if i can live wit this kind of thing happening over and over again.

I think that the measure of a man is how good they are when things go wrong - and to just leave you to it when you're not well sucks, IMO.

You could always 'lose' his climbing gear?!! Mmmm, now if you're wanting to really upset him, use his dynamc rope as a tow rope, decorate the christmas tree with the krabs, plant some flowers in his helmet, and send his harness into school for 'show and tell'.

Typical climbers attitude

MrsJ- the GP mentioned an abscess in passing (in that if there was one and it didn't clear up he would have to lance it (god that must be a pleasant job)

I don't think he was sure whether or not there was one though, I mean, it must be fairly hard to see anyway.

agree with Hunker
just buggering off when you're that ill is completely shite

G, I had appalling tonsillitis when I was a child - throat went septic and nearly closed over. The doctor retched when I opened my mouth

hmm. too late to sabotage his gear methinks, he must already have got it today if he's going straight from work tomorrow.

And it would involve getting out of bed, too, which I am not entirely prepared to do.

I need to reserve my strength for actually standing up, dizzy with hunger, tomorrow morning, and getting dd her breakfast and off to school.

I am actually seriously considering changing the locks.

lol hunk- I sucked a mint then spat it out before i went in as i knew I would have to open my mouth (you know how those abscesses smell of roses!)

he did recoil slightly but I just put that down to the fact that he presumably didn't want to catch it himself!

Change the locks, that is just about the worst. What kind of immature wanker abandons his dp when she needs him most?

oh yuk
and yuk at having to look after kids when you have it too
oh I feel so bad for you!

do you feel bad enough to come and magic dd away.....

Giraffe, much the same happened to me about a year ago - my dh drove 50 miles to his work on a saturday to pick up his tools leaving me to look after our dd, even after I'd told him it hurt to breathe. However, revenge is a dish best served cold. He subsequently got tonsillitis himself and has had it 6 times over the last year - wah ha ha!!

However, having known what it's like (I don't think people who haven't had it understand how painful it is) I couldn't bring myself to be so horrible back and was quite supportive.

Still, he only did it for one day. One week is completely out of order. You poor soul, is there noone to look after your dd so you can concentrate on swallowing?

Quite, Carmenere.

Like I say, this has opened my eyes slightly, although he had already started to reveal the extent of his selfishness before this.

I am seriously considering how we can go on after this.

Well so far she snuggled up with me (nowhere near my mouth) and I put cbeebies on the tv, then it was bedtime. all i had to do was put paste on her toothbrush, and she did everything else herself, bless her. I read her a story (shortest one I could negotiate with her, and having a tissue nearby to spit into...)

God knows in the morning though, am going to have to drag myself to school.

Is there someone near you who could pick her up and take her to school for you?

can't your dp at least take her to school?!

I know he is your dh so forgive me but ...what a bastard (sorry and all, just cross on your behalf)

well he wouldn't be able to take her to school really anyway as he would be at work.

Fairyfly would have taken her to school, but she's in bloody Thailand.

And really there's not anyone else who would be able to do it.

I might be up to it though, waiting for the penicillin to kick in.

You ought to tell him how you feel about this...

Giraffe, this is outrageous, so sorry for you.

In case you don't know (and you may need to check with the GP first), you can get a kind of spray, over the counter, that totally numbs your throat - I have used it when I had tonsillitis and it was a huge relief. Ask the chemist about it, if you can get there or someone can go for you.

at your DP.

he's not yet my dh hmc.

And tbh i think this heralds an end to any further discussion of it happening in the future.

I will not leave him until I am sure that it is totally it, as I don't wish to confuse my dd.

But i am leaning more and more that way this week.

yeah but you're meant to be a partnership which means that you have to share the crappy bits too - which might mean being a bit late for work one day! Just because she's not biologically his is no excuse, at the very least he should show some compassion for you!

Oooh, I'm getting really angry for you now

sorry about the 'h' slip up!

I have- I have asked him to stay, told nhim how ill I am, but he just said he couldn't afford to be off work sick.

We had a big talk a couple of weeks ago, I had a thread on it, and mainly it was about his selfishness. It did work slightly I would say, but this is the epitome of selfishness.