Typically how quickly do you have sex with a new guy?

[Abundatia]

I keep hearing about the "3 date rule". I can't imagine feeling ready to bang after just 3 dates though. I find sex is better when I really know and care about the person.

You?

Whenever we both want to.

Have been seeing someone for 5 months, had sex on our first date.

Really depends on how we both feel. I'm a rebel.

Nothing has been typical, really. It very much depends on the guy and how I feel. With current DP was the second date, one before was after a couple of months. Seem to have got more into sex in my thirties and wouldn't want to wait for ages!

I wouldn't have a rule, as long as both parties want to do it, what's the problem?

It depends how you feel with them. With DH I felt so comfortable and relaxed in his company it was the 3rd date (3weeks). But the following week he have me his spare key, some wardrobe space and told me to leave my toiletries in his bathroom too .

Nearly DH was a ONS then FWB then we made it official. We were sleeping together for about 3 months before we started dating

Somewhere between hours and months. Depending on attraction, alcohol and opportunity.

Meh. It's a case by case decision.
Just do what you're happy with - why does it matter what others do?

Last boyfriend, I slept with him, then we decided to date after. Lovely relationship for 18 months, ultimately no lasting spark.

Current potential, we knew we'd be apart for 4 months (Forces) so we decided to wait as neither of us wanted it to become a ONS if the early distance did for us. Even though generally I have no issue wit. ONS.

I just go with the flow at the time.

My DH was date 3 and that probably wasn't far off for most of them slut
But no firm rule, just when it felt right.

Same as others have said, depends how you feel, I have done the 'fuck first date later' thing and have also dated for a few weeks before DTD.

I'm concerned about STDs. Obviously you use condoms but they only provide limited protection against herpes and I'm not sure they protect against HPV/warts at all. If I bang every guy I'm physically attracted to that would amount to a whole lot of men over the years, increasing my exposure to STDs.

If I fancy someone I just get on with it.. It doesn't seem to affect the outcome of the relationship.

Guy I went on a date with on the weekend said he'd want sex "by date two". Put me off him a bit.

Only a bit, niceupthedance?!

Was he just joking? Surely?!!!

As soon as possible usually. Don't get many opportunities for fucking so when they come along (if I want to) I take them.

I asked my mum when i was 18 and she said wait a week!!!!!

OP rules like that are usually "don't have sex before" rather than "you must have sex on / by" aren't they?

So a 3 date rule would normally mean don't do it before date 3, not you have to do it on date 3!

Unless these ridiculous rules have changed.

If you don't want to have sex then don't have sex. If you do (and so does he!) then have sex. I've never been much of a fan of these rules, myself.

Typically how many new guys do you have op?

I haven't had sex with a new guy for 27 years or something, so I'm finding it hard to remember.

In the past two years I've had one 8 month relationship and then gone on dates with about 12 other guys. Of those I had sex with just the one I was in an actual relationship with.

Condoms lower the risk of transmission against HPV and other related infections but the they don't completely protect because the virus can affect areas not covered by the condom. It's like everything else, not a 100% effective.

My advice is ignore the rules, have sex when you want and don't let a fear of STI's stop you having fun. Just be careful about it.

For the record I had sex with my DP on the first date.

Whenever I want to. In general. My "dates" have been with blokes I've known socially for a while so often once we realised the attraction was mutual there was no stopping us. I would be more hesitant if internet dating or dating a total stranger, mainly because I usually only fancy a man once I know him a bit. Looks alone don't turn me on

Back in my younger days I would just hook up whenever I felt like it and had lots of fun hooking up with nothing serious.

That said I've only been with 2 in the past 25 years or so and I was married to them. I can't recall how long I waited but think it was less than a month.

Gosh i missed out! Ex religious background and it was the norm to wait a fair while in my circles.

I hope to be able to advise my daughters better about lpve and sex but it wont be from experience! I actually had no idea sex was normal so soon. Id kind of thought once in a committed relationship was the norm. I'm not against sex whenever anyone wants it but i just didnt realise.... i will come to mn when my daughters a teeen.

Have sex when you want to, there's no magic rule about when it is a good time to, or right to. I've waited before, and had sex on the 1st date
Neither option guarantees it will pan out into a relationship you might not even want it to!

FWIW, DH was aa friend, then became FWB, then we got together 'properly' a few months later. Worked out well!

was a friend, not an aa* friend! though we do like wine