Decided to bring up with DH about how our sexless marriage is making me feel

[LunchpackOfNotreDame]

I brought it up in at a neutral time in a calm manner. Said how I'm feeling (upset and rejected and that I place a lot of emotional value on it so to me constantly being turned down and told no says to me he doesn't want to be with me)

He exploded. His reaction was to instantly tell me our marriage was over if I can't manage with it as is and that he isn't going to change.

I feel sick. I love him a lot and can't imagine spending my life with anyone else. But on the other hand I can't live my life without Sex and without physical affection. I don't know what to do.

We have talked and haven't split up. He's just hot headed. But how do we move on from here?

AF NAILS IT

Look. From my point of view it's nice to see both sides and see I have options

Right now I want to work on my marriage. Later down the line I may change my mind but right now that's where I'm at and if this marriage ends in divorce I want to know I've tried my hardest to make it work. It's the only way I'd be able to live with the decision.

Of course you have options, nobody said you didn't. Good luck Lunch.

If you want to be married to another grown up, you have to behave like a grown up yourself. All adults behave like toddlers sometimes. It doesn't help if the minute you behave like a toddler, your OH starts behaving that way, too. We have no idea how the OP's relationship works, whether her DH has always behaved like the toddler, or whether he has been supportive of her in the past. We just know about this one issue and the fact that they have been through a lot of difficult times together, with recurrent miscarriages and disabilities.

Lunchpack you always have options including to work on things if you want to. Working on things means both parties doing so Good luck

you can pipe down now, guinea

let the op have the last word on her own thread, fgs

Sorry, Lunchpack - was typing as you posted. I hope you do manage to get your dh to open up to you.

You can pipe down now, AnyFucker... fgs...

Good luck Lunch. Take care of yourself.