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How long from the first date until...

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MARTIN1 · 15/08/2015 22:47

you would normally play nug-a-nug with your date?

I have been out on a second date last night and we are meeting up for dinner at hers on Tuesday. Judging by the nature of the rather raunchy and dare I say steaminess of some messages received both electronically and verbally from her. I have a certain feeling that she may be wanting me to grope for trout in a peculiar river come Tuesday night.

Usually I like to get to know women a lot more before I venture down that road. I have always felt I need a stronger emotional connection before engaging in the underpants Charleston. I like the girl very much but don't think this Tuesday will be right for me but I don't want her to think I'm preternatural if I demure were she to advance amorous affections toward her contemporaneous interlocutor.

Advice please?

OP posts:
pigsDOfly · 16/08/2015 00:29

You think?

Original poster
MARTIN1 · 16/08/2015 00:30

Siobhan Thank you kindly for pointing out the errors I have made. You sound like my kind of woman, fancy a date?

OP posts:
BackInTheRealWorld · 16/08/2015 00:31

For the record I am 36. I wasn't sure how to express my exact age in score years. I could have tried Roman numerals but that may have made me appear to the lady as a bit of an arse!

^yes good point!

MsPhoebeCaulfield · 16/08/2015 00:31

Best. Thread. Ever Grin

LittleBearPad · 16/08/2015 00:36

I am shocked, shocked I tell you.

SiobhanSharpe · 16/08/2015 00:42

I am far too old for you, sunshine. And already taken.

sumoweeble · 16/08/2015 00:47

How on earth can you resist the 1st date knicker foxtrot with Martin, Siobhan?

Whiskwarrior · 16/08/2015 00:50

I'm not even amused. I'm tired of the line of creeps we've had recently, all jumping straight in with 'look, I'm a MAN! On a Woman's site! And I'm being witty to all the laydeez! How daring am I?'

Seriously mate, we've got male posters who just fit in without all the willy waving. Do we really need more posturing?

You're not Rhett Butler, we ain't Scarlett O'Hara. Just go on Tinder or something ffs.

Sparklingbrook · 16/08/2015 00:56

I agree with Whisk.

Aoifebell · 16/08/2015 00:56

I don't like this it's weird and op is to

loquacious
Hmm

DadWasHere · 16/08/2015 00:59

I have a certain feeling that she may be wanting me to grope for trout in a peculiar river come Tuesday night.

Reddit gold is only a baser metal here brother.

PresidentTwonk · 16/08/2015 01:08

I can see why she wants to do the underpants charleston with you, you sound utterly irresistible Confused

Garlick · 16/08/2015 01:10

She wants to know if your dick is as big as a baby's arm. The correct response, of course, is "How old is the baby, and was it premature?"

When you have this information, please do come back and we'll help you assess the relevant ratio of penis size to baby's arm.

This may take until Tuesday night to resolve satisfactorily, so you might as well let her find out for herself. See you next Tuesday.

FortyCoats · 16/08/2015 01:11

This has to be a piss take. I refuse to believe any man talks like this in RL unless he's the type to polish his nob with a cheese grater, in which case, to answer the op's question...

... whenever ye clean the cheese off Wink

giraffesCantBrushTheirTeeth · 16/08/2015 01:13

wtf

GropingForTroutInAPeculiarRiver · 16/08/2015 01:26
Grin
AlpacaMyBags · 16/08/2015 01:30

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

goddessofsmallthings · 16/08/2015 02:29

www.youtube.com/watch?v=zTk_Eh_L8JA

No bongos but might put you in mood for groping, OP.

niceupthedance · 16/08/2015 07:00

Judging by your text you sound like a great match. Good luck with that

Fairylea · 16/08/2015 07:08

You're 36?! You're a year older than me?! I thought you were in your late 50s at least... !

For the record dh and I waited about 8 weeks ish (we were 29 and 23 when we met, I'm the older one). I wanted to be sure he wanted an actual relationship and not just sex, I was divorced with a child already and I was fed up with guys just using me for sex (which is what had been happening in the 6 months previous to meeting dh). Having said that there are no guarantees even if you wait, just do whatever feels comfortable and natural (and safe! )

Muddlewitch · 16/08/2015 10:11

Well op if you are serious, do you actually like this woman? From the text message exchange you don't appear to be that well matched. How long have you known her?

loveyoutothemoon · 16/08/2015 11:01

I suggest that you start showing her how passionate you can be before you REALLY turn her off with your ridiculous language. She already thinks you're weird!

Sparklingbrook · 16/08/2015 11:02

'If you are serious'

ShizeItsWeegie · 16/08/2015 11:11

If she likes you, marry her as soon as possible so that you don't end up ruining two other perfectly good people. The silly season is indeed upon us!

Whiskwarrior · 16/08/2015 11:16

Has any woman in the history of the world ever asked a man if he has one 'the size of a baby's arm'?

Any chance of a 'vomoticon' HQ? Times like these, we really need one.

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