Can you be a lesbian but still like sex with men?

[velourvoyageur]

Just wondering. Promise I'm not a troll.
I sometimes wonder if I'm just plain gay and not bi but I do like sex with men because (sorry) there's nothing else exactly like a dick. But I don't feel the same attraction to men as I do to women.

It's not that important, I mean the classification of attraction or whatever, don't mind if I or anyone else is gay, bi, straight, just curious as to whether anyone had any thoughts?

Haven’t read the full thread as it’s late and to be honest it’s in danger of overthinking.

Lesbians enjoy a bit of cock sometimes. It’s a thing.

Your first post was a statement of fact actually. Not sure you realised that though.

It's only a thing in porn though isn't it, where they are actors staging a storyline. So not a thing at all, in fact.

Hi OP, I just wanted to add to this (yes I know it’s a zombie thread but as you’ve reappeared on it I think it’s probably ok to post on it).

I identify with you a lot. I am a lesbian but didn’t work it out until later in life and the reason I didn’t work it out was that sex with men was always good. I always orgasmed and enjoyed sex. It took the longer time to realise that although I enjoyed the act of sex I wasn’t at all attracted to men. I’d slept with women and fancied them so much more but didn’t find the sex so good because I’d trained myself to orgasm through penis in vagina intercourse and therefore I had a kind of Pavlovian response to having a cock inside me. That made it harder to come in any other way because in my head sex = penis. I never came in any other way with a man - oral, touching etc didn’t do it for me. So I couldn’t possibly be a lesbian, right?

Wrong. As soon as I met a woman who I really fell for (in my late 20s), the sex fell into place and the next time I tried to sleep with a man it felt wrong. I’ve since had various girlfriends and I am 100% gay. My previous sexuality was due to conditioning and not understanding who I was. I was gay all along, I just hadn’t realised it. This is more common that anyone would think and lots of my gay friends tell a similar story. Some came to the realisation earlier than others and some were in their 40s, but they were all gay the whole time but hadn’t worked it out yet.

Sexual fluidity can be a thing but it wasn’t for me and doesn’t sound like it was for OP either.

It's only a thing in porn though isn't it, where they are actors staging a storyline. So not a thing at all, in fact.

It is a thing, in fact. Outside of porn.

No, same sex attraction is just that. If you like a bit of both you're technically bisexual.