DRY 8!!!!!!

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Hello! This is our 8th! thread for those who are abstaining from alcohol and for those who want to abstain. :) We love newbies and lurkers. We have people who have been DRY for years, for months, for weeks, days, and hours. :) ALL are welcome. We have heaps of tips and we offer support at any stage.

DRY 7 the previous thread is here...

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2347295-DRY-7?

ready, I'm still pretty hectic when it comes to sugary stuff. How I laugh at the proclamation 'share size' on the bar. More like 'eat by yourself in one sitting size'.

Evening all Keep dropping off of thread Not sure why ..... Congrats to all the new peeps and their early day successes

Day 3 complete didn't post yesterday worked all day cooked dinner took dogs out then bed soo shattered! Keeping busy is the one! Sure it will hit me hard Friday night and the weekend still got to keep up positive thinking! Well done everyone who is trying to stop and stop doubting we can do this! We are worth so much more!!! Love to you all and thank you for the ongoing support x

Well done on day 3!

Hunts think forward to Saturday morning when you will wake up feeling refreshed not hungover and grumpy/clangy head/nauseated.
Plan to do something really nice at the weekend, treat yourself with the money you haven't spent.

Hi ladies, I'm wondering if you would mind if I joined?

I'm slowly starting I accept that I have a problem. In fact I've known for a while but pretended that it was fine. That I was in control. I know that neither of these things are true.

I'm thinking about going to a local AA meeting tonight, does anyone recommend them? I'm not religious at all which has put me off but I think some real life support would be good.

I feel so embarrassed and ashamed that I can't control myself like a 'normal' person, does that feeling ever go away?

Looking forward to getting to know you all

Hi salem am new here too!. Only on day 4 so no great words of wisdom for you am afraid. aa works for lots so worth a try.
I have also joined soberistas. Find that useful. Can't say am finding this easy but hey, am doing it
welcome x

Yay to day 4 Hunts and Yellow and hi Salem and welcome! I am new too - day 12 here, no experience of AA but am sure someone will be along soon who does. From other threads I've read aa works for lots and doesn't for others - if you fancy giving it a try, why not - we will be here either way :) Embarrassed and ashamed - totally know how you feel, but I can honestly say that 12 days in and already those feelings are starting to go away a little bit. I will for ever be ashamed of some of the things I have done but I can't change those now, what I can do is start controlling this poison, feeling proud of myself for doing so and begin living the rest of my life. That's how I feel today anyway although they haven't all been like this - hopefully one day they all will!

Last how long have you been dry? You sound as if you have come a long, long way, I hope to be like you in time and feel like that article!

Today is an important day for DH and me, an anniversary type thing that we would normally celebrate with bubbles. 12 days ago my day would have gone like this: wake up and start thinking about the bubbles I can legitimately drink. Start to think they won't be enough as DH will probably suggest saving some for tomorrow, but if I get wine too he might be persuaded to move onto that later. Go to shop, buy wine and champagne and find a bottle of vodka has magically made its way into my basket too. Add some apples or something to make it look a bit more normal (!), find a checkout with a different person to yesterday. Drink some of the vodka so already pissed when DH gets home but functioning so not too obvious. Open champagne, keep it in the fridge so can sneak extra swigs whilst 'checking on dinner', ditto wine, with some vodka sides. Wake up in morning after a terrible nights sleep, feel shit. Physically and mentally. Throw empty vodka bottle in public bin. Feel worthless and ashamed. Wonder if DH noticed I was completely slaughtered and wonder if we had an argument. Panic about my health and liver. DH fine as he will only have had a couple of glasses maximum. Repeat.

Instead I have been to the shop this morning and got some sparkling grape juice for us to share. Am looking forward to having a little celebration that I can actually remember in the morning.

Happy sort of anniversary ready hope you enjoy it!

This is day 2 for me. I'm not so much of a daily drinker - i binge at the weekends. It's never just one or two, it's a bottle of vodka and a bottle of wine and then spending the next day wondering what I've done, how I got those bruises, etc etc. I'm the "party girl" but no one else in my circle seems to have the same problem with control that I do.

The thought of being sober forever seems massively out of reach just now. I feel sad that I can't just enjoy a beer with my housemate of an evening. Or split a bottle of wine with an old friend when we meet up. Does that get easier? Am I deluding myself that I even enjoyed that in the first place?!

Sorry for the ramblings, it's all quite messy in my head just now.

Hi All

Sorry, I have been lurking. I couldn't post last week as I went on a bender when home alone and felt like a complete dick.

I can't go cold turkey anymore, the withdrawal is too awful. So I have been weaning. So far, 2 miniature bottles of wine a day. Now I am down to one from today and hope to be clean by Wednesday (prob Thursday, we will see) this week.

Already my sleep patterns are stabilising and I am starting to feel a little less anxious. Unfortunately. Haribo Tangfastics have almost completely taken over my diet

Really nice to see how well the newcomers are doing!

Have resolved myself to stop re-visiting my decision!

Wow well done Pour that must take some resolve.

Tangfastics ? I love those in a "eeek" sour sort of way --> I pull this face.

Thanks Salem! To be honest, forever seems out of reach for me too right now. And my DH too to be honest. He is massively supportive but his ideal would be for me to be able to have the odd beer, share a bottle of wine at weekends etc. That is so easy for him. I have slowly and unwillingly at first come to the realisation that for me anyway that is unfortunately simply not going to be possible. I'm not really sure it ever totally was, have always done everything to excess, good and bad - its just that more recently it's been much worse than it ever was before. Still, for now it's one day, one hour and sometimes one minute at a time. I hope I remember this when I get complacent in the days to come and temptation is always there. I worked out last night that I have 9 places selling alcohol within a 10 minute walk from home. Way too much danger there - PJs have been going on very early the last 11 evenings.

Hi Pour your willpower is amazing, well done on your weaning and love that face Pink :)

Hi Salem and welcome. There are some here that do AA, some who tried and some who don't bother. I've tried it a few times and thought it was ok but not for me personally. I know it's there and open to me though if I need it. I'm not in the slightest bit religious either but there wasn't a huge thing made out of it with the higher power thing, a few mentioned it but not everyone. Your first meeting you aren't expected to talk and there's no pressure so you could give it a shot :)

Happy anniversary ready, hope you both had a lovely night. Your description of your day sounds oh so familiar

Well done pour and good to see you back! Try maom sours for sour-y goodness.

not nearly half as long as some of the lovely ladies on here ready, coming up to 8 months this time. Been around since the first thread nearly two years ago under various guises, had a brave few slip ups; sometimes a night, days or even months. It just seems to have clicked this time although I will never say this is definitely it and I do struggle the odd time but I'm much more settled in myself as a person. Like I don't have to put on an act anymore and that's ok just being me.

I think I'm also slowly and unwillingly starting to realise that too ready. Once I start I have no control - sometimes I manage a few and then bed but more often than not I don't. And I also have no control over which one of those circumstances it ends up in once I've had a drink. For example, the weekend there was supposed to be a few drinks with old friends - I ended up coming home on Monday morning.

Thanks Last. I didn't go tonight but there is another meeting nearby tomorrow that I think I'll go to. I'm really nervous though, I'm terrified I'll cry in front of them all!

The shame and guilt are pretty strong tonight. Trying not to start self-pitying but Jesus, I wish I was a different person.

to you all x

quick note.... please everyone change your MN password. See the sticky by MN HQ the top of AIBU.... site has been hacked. Details there.

Just to add... as I was rushing.... yesterday MNHQ made everyone change passwords.... people like me thought the problem was with my computer so I reset it to the same one..... so I have had to change again properly.

:)

Thanks Cheesy. I've also namechanged as a consequence as I got caught out on the fake log in page (grr, I've never namechanged).

Hopefully though, you can work out who I was!

It's a nightmare cheesy, my email addy is very recognisable and strangely had tried to change it few days ago to something else, said it had but now noticing it hasn't ffs. However do use different passwords for everything. Tbh to protect dv and sensitive cases I think mnhq should have shut the site down til it's sorted although prob too late now.

Gotcha Tang

Welcome more new faces! :) Pour well done on tapering and is today your day 1? Been to a few AA meetings Salem and was made to feel very welcome at all of them but like Last not really my cup of tea but I know it is there if I need it. Gah stress of move still working its way through and have been looking longingly at bloody booze. You'd think at a few days off of 700 I'd be past those thoughts . I think I want to escape kids and move for a few hours and tried to today by taking them to see Minions and ate whole bag of Boost Bites and just ended up with huge sugar crash and nausea so that didn't work. I love my bed and all but I'd like the world to stop and to get off please ...... I'll get over it and I know booze would make it a whole lot worse and of course I won't drink but bleurgh.

Morning everyone. Hope you are feeling better lucy. Funny how a booze craving sneaks up on you!!!! It is insidious. Good idea to go to the movies. I tried to see 'Trainwreck' yesterday and ended up walking out. Some very funny lines, but overall it was too gross-out for me.

All okay here. Yesterday morning I joined my friend on an hour long bike ride that culminated in a swim at a her local beach......... it was cold, icy cold, and we were looked at like we were mad by the dog walkers who were wrapped up in jackets. I LOVED it!!!! Then we had coffee and eggs on toast. It was just great. :) I really do feel like I am finding myself again. I have spent years sinking myself under the weight of alcohol, and the accompanying guilt and shame. So, feeling pretty good. :)

How is everyone?

ot good. drank last night. feel awful today. trying not to beat self up but its hard

yellow don't beat yourself up. It is done. MOve on. :) I am actually queen of the slipup.... have been trying to be DRY since March 2014, with lots of slips along the way. What I do is use the slips to remind me how goddamn awful I feel when I drink. It strengthens my resolve. Aim for an alcohol-free day today. Take vitamins, drinks lots of water, look forwards not back.

Have a plan for tonight...... soppy novel, hot drink and a bath? Bad film?

Alcohol is addictive. We hate urselves for being addicted to an addictive substance. The bag guy is the booze, not you.

[ps... sorry if I sound preachy... been there, that's all.]

ahem- 'bad guy' not 'bag guy'. I type too fast.

Morning all... Lucy a few days off 700 is amazing!!! Bluegrass days won't be made better by booze (I know that theoretically, am sure you really know it!) well done for sticking with it. yellow was there a particular trigger for you yesterday? As cheesy says, move on and admitting it feels like a really good big step forward.

I can report that sparkling grape juice is extremely sweet (even for me mainlining sugar) and we were left with at least a quarter of a bottle which would never have happened with the real stuff. Still, it was a lovely evening and I didn't really miss the booze as much as I thought I would.

Another first today is DH is out. This is usually an excuse for me to get quietly sozzled by myself on the sofa watching TV and scoot up to bed before he gets home so he's none the wiser... PJs may be going on especially early to avoid the temptation of the shops. No alcohol in the house so then I can't be tempted.

tang how is your weaning going? How's everyone else doing??

Bleurgh, not bluegrass! Would have taken something stronger than alcohol to have one of those I think...!

Morning!

After all the hacker drama I thought a slight name change would be good.
Glad I used anon email etc when registering.
It also is very worrying about the SWAT team WTAF !???

Its a family birthday this coming weekend and DH asked me if I would be drinking to celebrate ( its not my birthday) part of me was annoyed that he even asked but the answer is quite firmly that no I wont be drinking.