Step inside it's the Dating Thread 92!

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I'm not one for songs Or starting threads I saw the last one was full.

I shall post The Rules shortly:)

Thanks for the answers everyone. I was thinking about only meeting up with someone I actually found attractive in their photos and wondered if I was being unrealistic. I sometimes think people attractive because of their personality, but that's not going to happen with OLD, so I've got to start somewhere.

Too good looking and intelligent, im a bit scared of men that are more intelligent than me, worried they will think im stupid (sounds silly ).

Mr ginger now wants to see me on Sunday, we have been talking for so long that im really worried about meeting him incase I am disappointed as I have built up a picture of him which is probably all wrong. I think sometimes you can message too much before meeting.

Never, don't be worried that someone will think You're stupid, you're not. Date him if he's good looking and intelligent and I agree with nora that you should think about a date with mr tubby too. Most of my boyfriends in the past have been people I would never look at twice in OLD. You just can't tell from a photo.

waving I don't lie, I do make a bit of a joke about it at times though. I've only met two guys so far, but mainly as I'm fussy. Had a brief and passionate fling with one and be certainly didn't care, but I think a fling was all he wanted. With me anyway. The other didn't mind either, but there was just no spark there. Very few people appear to mind, but I'm super fussy and can't be bothered to date people if I'm not really keen at the moment.

Does any on POF know what the 'meet me' thing is? I don't want to upgrade my membership and I assumed that of someone did want to meet they'd strike up a conversation first, but I added a photo to my profile this evening and now I've got over 200 'meet me' requests. good for my confidence, but is it just a scam to make you pay?

I'm still chatting to Mr. farmer. Not really sure what I think yet. He wanted to meet yesterday and had mentioned it last week as he'd be coming past where I live, but it it's wasn't good timing for me.

Chatting to another guy, I'll call him Mr. Jet Setter as he travels a lot for work and he is really nice, very funny and we have a lot in common, but I'm quite curvy (size 14-16 really) and he is fairly short and slim, although very good looking and I'm not sure if he'll just make me feel huge.

Had a couple of messages from one other guy I liked earlier. Hoping he messages back as he's supper hot and I really like his profile.

Everyone on POF on this thread has suggested its not worth paying for.

Save your cash.

It's not worth paying to upgrade on POF, it only tells you who cas clicked on 'meet me' and allows you access to a bit more info. You are better off spending the money on joining another site such as Match.

I spent all night messaging 'Mr 2 hours away', he sent me some more photos of himself as the ones on his profile were a bit confusing ( he has 2 photos on his profile and they look very different, obviously one was taken quite a while ago ), anyway he looks really nice, has the most amazing smile, just a shame about the fact he is not working and has no car .

Mr Tubby asked for my address, I haven't given it to him and would rather meet him somewhere close by ( he doesn't live too far away ), he is desperate to meet me but I only have one child free day each week and I am meeting Mr Ginger on Sunday, I might try and get a sitter during the week next week so I can meet Mr Tubby for a drink.

It's hard work having 4 men you want to meet and having to put them off as you haven't got enough child free time, Mr Tubby seems to be the only one that understands that it's the summer holidays and I have 2 kids to look after, the others seem to think I can drop everything and meet them.

Thanks for the info re POF. I'm already on Match, but tbh, feel although maybe people on there are less likely to be timewasters, POF has more guys of my 'type' on it.

I have been asked out for dinner on Saturday by Mr. Engineer, but I'm a little unsure if I'm honest. He's been quite open about the fact he says what he thinks, which I thought Id like, but I'm not sure if it's actually a bit off putting. Then again, he is good looking and seems nice, but I think there will probably be no spark. He also lives in the same small area of the city that Mr.TGTBT lives and socialises in and the lat thing I need is to bump into him, which although probably unlikely, is possible.

Started talking to Mr. Ex forces this morning. He still has a civilian job with the forces from what I gather. He is very, very good looking/hot and seems keen, so will see what happens there.

I find it difficult chatting to so many guys tbh, but so many chats seem to fizzle out and amount to nothing.

Waving POF is a little scary of I'm honest. Someone with the username 'ilovecunnilingus' messaged me last night. Needless to say I deleted without reading... Yuck!!!! However, lots of nice guys on there too and easy to ignore people if you don't want to chat.

never I think for me it would depend on why mr two hours away has no job and how much I lied everything else about him. I agree it can be difficult when you have kids, I get plenty of time away from mine luckily, but I am often loathe to spend it dating. Typical...

POF is hard work, there seems to be loads more men than women on there so you will get loads of attention ( I do anyway ), just logged into my account for the first time today and had 3 messages, one from the good looking army man, one from someone local who seems nice but his pictures look a bit umm 'chav' and one from another guy I have been talking too who hasn't got a profile picture, he did put a picture up for me yesterday and he looks ok.

Really nervous about meeting Mr Ginger on Sunday, in a way I am scared of finding someone that I really like and getting into a relationship, a part of me is having fun dating and I want it to stay as just dating, another part of me wants to find someone special so I never have to do OLD again . I'm worried I will hit it off with Mr Ginger, realistically I don't think it can ever work, he has children and rarely gets time off work ( when he does its spent seeing his kids ), it's taken him 4 weeks to get a day off to meet me.

Never do I I just ignore people you don't like the look of on POF? It's clearly much busier than Match. I'm feeling a bit harassed by it tbh. Since I added a pic last night (and admittedly it's a good pic, but I'm only average looking and not exactly young!) I've had 381 'meet me' things, which are annoying me as I can't see them and about 100 messages, most of which I deleted without even reading, because, well, that's just a bit stupid! I do live in a city and am about an hour from another city, so maybe that's why? I'm thinking it will surely die down after a day or so? Otherwise I may remove my pic again.

I guess if it seems right with Mr. ginger then you'll just find a way? I stopped talking to someone for similar reasons though.

I would just ignore anyone you don't find attractive, I rule out quite a few by looks, what job they have, how young their children are , if they smoke and if the party hard so I end up only messaging back a few. Also if their profile States ' not looking for a relationship of any type of commitment ' they are usually looking for a quick leg over , it is a bit of a jungle and at times I find it quite stressful, I'm talking to 5 men at the moment and it's a bit confusing and stressful.

I'm really having doubts about Mr Ginger and I'm tempted to make an excuse and not meet him Sunday. I really want to go and meet 'Mr 2 hours away', he seems very keen, probably too keen but I kind of like it as he seems like the type who's not going to vanish after the first date ( like my other dates ). Just spent half an hour on the phone to my exh, we are still good friends and we talk about OLD as we are both doing it ( does seem weird talking about it with your ex ) and we discussed Mr ginger, he agrees that it probably won't work but thinks I should go and see Mr 2 hours away, he even agreed to looking after the dc's when I go and meet him.

God, where you are all finding the fanciable ones??

My thoughts exactly My turn now...the ones I fancy either turn out to be absolute tossers just after one thing or I just don't have that click.....I find it a stressful minefield !

If one messages whilst I am online, I then unclick so that he does not think I am on there all the time!!!.....it was never this complicated back in the day!!

how lovely to return to 381 messages, Midori

I am talking to 3 now, including Mr fast car! and Mr Short ...am I terribly shallow to not go cos he is inch shorter...what would I wear on my feet?! Argh !!!

Still learning the emphases short cuts on here as you can see?!

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Whats for......love it.....let's see if I grasped it that time!

I am wasting hours on Match, checking out the ones that winked and then replying to those and checking out their profiles...I go deep underground in the week until a Wednesday or Saturday night which are either date nights or ...." I can't be bothered with this ! " and then become nights out to bitch about the supposed dates with my friends....

Fast car relentless messaging tonight....he has revved up a gear!! lovely man, buff as buff can be with taut shirt across stomach but not blessed in brains??!! I am a cow, officially,,,,,,

I'm not too fussy with looks, I don't really reply to messages from men who have pictures of their 6 packs or posing inform of the mirror, I try and go for the average looking man, I like a man with a beard/stubble and I quite like a bold head , I try and look for a nice smile and always seem to fall for nice eyes.

Mr 2 hours away is planning our future together even though we have not yet met .

Mr Ginger is pouring his heart out about how shit his life is, not how to impress a woman and I now feel like his councillor

Are their actually any normal men out there? You know, the nice caring type who don't talk about theirselves all the time, men that want to take things slow, men that buy you flowers and men that don't want to get you into bed on the first date?

No, I have met mr fast car so know he is bald, stubbly and buff but also spends his whole weekend cycling like 50 - 60 miles each day...I did say that he would never have time to date...?!

I thought I had met the one but he turned out to be a complete cad and I feel very used.....I am starting to despair, especially of the ones who look deep into your eyes and tell you that they are not after a ONS ?! Er.....I would love a slow start with some wooing on both sides thrown in there....!...oh look, a flying pig!

never if you fancy bald men you must have your pick. My stbxh is bald & the same height as me so my minimum criteria is taller than me with hair..... Who'dve thought it'd be so hard!! I would also steer clear of pics of six packs, I couldn't take the pressure!!

I don't understand how some men think that their profiles are likely to attract replies from women. Are that many women impressed with fast cars, camoflage, guns, booze, tongues and bulging biceps? My favourite is someone posing with two stunning women in bikinis, half his age, draped over him (looks like some kind of car rally setting).

I've decided to stop spending time replying to men who seem perfectly reasonable people but for whom I would never find attractive and indeed find a bit boring. I've worded it differently. One has needed this spelt out to him and seems to be upping his pursuit.

I laugh every day when looking at profiles, the 6 pack ( or lack of ) photos, the photos which other women ( possible a ex ), kissing a kitten or holding a new born baby, a lot of these men haven't got a clue how to attract a woman .

My 2 hours away really annoyed me last night with his endless messaging, I kept telling him I needed to go to sleep but he kept messaging me the same messages 'I really like you', 'can't wait to meet you' etc..., in the end I just had to ignore him, then Mr Ginger started too, I just wanted to go too sleep, it was 1am by the time I got to sleep, doc woke up at 5.30am so I am now very grumpy , I'm tempted just to ignore all of them.

quickly delete those with 6 packs or who write about their gym antics in their post....no no !!!......any men posing on bikes also rejected and mirror shots out too, like you say Never....I just go eurgh and move on, but it is definitely becoming obsessive in amongst looking after 3 girls and negotiating ex husband who has turned into tosser before my eyes, but that is whole other thread!

Mr Short is funny, intellectual, stubbly, nicely shaved head and attentive ...there is a lot to be said for attentive! And I am looking forward to date with him, possibly Thursday as no children in evening ....good luck to all those attempting dates this week...!!!

6 packs just look like you've got a bunch of hernias.

Enjoy life; get a belly.