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[Whatsforsupper]

I'm not one for songs Or starting threads I saw the last one was full.

I shall post The Rules shortly:)

So I am still talking to my teenage ex-boyfriend who I am going out for lunch with in about 10 days time. I am getting more and more excited about the prospect. Yesterday he told me how much he still likes me and how much he's looking forward to it. I would estimate that over the last week, we have probably spent 15-20 hours on the phone and messenger chatting. He lives in my home town but has been offered a place to study in the town where I live. We'll just have to see. All I can say is that wrt these chats, I haven't felt like this in a long time ie so comfortable, chilled out and like it feels right. I really hope our lunch goes well.

I have continued to be popular though as one of the weirdos from before WhatsApped me yesterday. He was one from a few months ago who I really liked but at the time, he was rude to me and ignored me. I took great pleasure in not even responding to his text. Hahaha

Here's a question I shouldn't be asking....

The 30 year old accountant I work with I found out today he lives with his parents in London and is saving for his own place. I have my own mortgaged flat so not a problem.

Would you do this though eg we work together, 14 year age gap (me older) and his situation re living space? Seriously?

We were all in the pub last night for his birthday and bless him my pissed boss was quizzing him on his singledom and the accountant was saying everything right, not a player, found it hard to meet someone nice., he's 100% faithful and I also sort of liked the fact he answered honestly (there were only 5 of us there though then). He is adorable. le sigh

"He is adorable. le sigh "

Is he French as well?

MadeMan - no he isn't French - 100% English I think...

but I need answers from the thread as to what to do... I think maybe a fling with him... sob

Well had an unplanned date with MrC last night, it was great. We went for a short walk then had coffee at his place. We chatted for hours, putting the world to right lol. Had a few good kisses which just topped the evening off nicely. We had originally planned to go out tonight and are still doing so hopefully it will carry on well. I really have to try and put my self consciousness to the back of my mind, he is being so supportive about it so I owe it to him and myself to relax more. I dont want it to end up pushing him away.

Any other lurkers stepping in to OLD for the first time..?

Hello, newbie to thread....

POF guy 36 has car, job & hobby but lives a home with parents & no relationship lasting over a year.

Whaddya think?

No go or give him a chance

What's to lose in having a coffee Shrivelle?

I wouldn't Shrivelled - living at home still at 36? Not for me.

Yea it's just quite wrong isn't it? I've lived out since 18yrs.
Meh I'll meet him for coffee as yea only an hour!
But yea I don't think I could get past that if things proceeded!
Also chatting to a guy that crochets! - is that a weird one or am I being very very sexist?

The guy who likes to crochet - a hobby? Or is he lying and trying too hard? For some reason it would put me off but I know that it should not.

hiding he sounds nice, enjoy! Surely once you know him better you'll become less self conscious anyway?

super it's difficult when it's someone you work with, isn't it? It depends if you actually work with him or could avoid if you needed to! Age gap... don't know really. I have younger (23, 24 y o) colleagues and not a chance anything would happen with them because we're at totally different stages in life. Housing situation not a problem IF he's planning on moving out at some point and he's lived on his own before and he's capable of cleaning etc.

Update from me... still seeing Mr First Date. Sometimes he hugs me just for no reason and that's nice. I didn't think he was that good looking - really really not my type - but actually he's gorgeous when he smiles.

shrivelled maybe crochet is a joke hobby? Maybe ask him what he crochets

Well last night went really well with MrG, in fact I techically saw him today too lol! We had such a good time, had a lovely meal and then went to the cinema. Things just happily progressed and I am walking around work with a huge smile on my face. Roll on Saturday for our next date.

Just realised I said MrG in my post above oops I meant MrC! MrG is long gone haha!!

Ok he has about 5 pictures of things that he has crocheted on his profile. Tea cosies and toys.
I think I'm a sexist..........I don't think I could sleep with him!

Why not? He's clearly good with his hands

OMG I really am going away for a few days with Mr First Date. This is quite nerve wracking as we have never spent more than about 12 hours together in one stretch. I am worried that he will discover that I'm a total pain in the arse and not want to see me again. Worried also about liking him too much and breaking my no-emotional-attachment rule.

Long period away, busy with work!

Scrambled men are like buses eh! I love the idea of old boyfriends! Like the end bit of Harry Met Sally.

Super I think you should charge in with caution thrown out the window with this young guys from work. Anyone who makes you sigh is worth a hot affair at minimum.

Hiding all sounds great with Mr C...any date that carries on like that is a good sign ?

Nora what’s the plan? Hotel? Far away? It is quite a big thing!

Never Did you ever hear from Mr Mechanic? I'm sorry he's messed you around. Feels awful.

welcome to all the new faces

I now have a dilemma on my hands.

After reading MrClooney the riot act he did actually come back to me and and he’s been steadily having another go. Has gone to great lengths to see me, calls daily, texts, emails, has made several plans for the future including two weekends away which he’s put a lot of thought into.

However, as he blew cold and basically told me he wanted summer with his kids before changing his mind I didn't hang about and did go on another date and now like them both.

I feel horribly guilty and don’t know what to do.

Let’s call the second guyMr J

I don’t know either of them well enough to know which one I like better, and while Mr Clooney is wonderful on paper and absolutely someone I want to know and be around - he is also nothing like me! Does that make sense? Mr J is also a really nice guy, less good looking, but a bit more immature and passionate like me.

I am really not sure which one I like best and both don’t know about the other one and would be upset if they did.

Help!

both want to make plans with me, and if I tell either one about the other one they will dump me, but i don't want to lie.

superflyhigh I'd probably go for it with the accountant, but then I have no restraint. if it won't be awkward at work though, where's the harm?

shrivelled I'm sorry, I'm a child but I giggled at crochet and pics of his work on his profile. I hate to stereotype but I think it might out me off too, unless he was super great in all other ways? I realise that's narrow minded of me.

Britney can't you just see how it goes with both of them? You don't have any obligation to either of them to say you are seeing someone else, but I do understand what you're saying about feeling like you're not being honest. Would be a shame to stop seeing one and then the other turn out a washout though.

I've been chatting to a few guys. Put a profile pic on match and have been inundated with messages but none from anyone I'm interested in really. I don't get why some guys message repeatedly even if they get no reply. If I wasn't interested before then it's not going to make me more interested and actually, I've debated messaging a couple back and then they've messaged again and it makes me decide to ignore them. Some people have no understanding of boundaries.

I'm chatting to Mr. farmer on whatsapp. An actual farmer. He is very lovely, good looking, kinda sexy, sweet, kind and very, very funny. However, he is 8 years younger than me and has never been married and has no children. I've been married twice and have five children ranging from 2-19. I feel a little like it can't work before I've even met him, but I do really like him and he's the only person (other than Mr.TGTBT) that I've chatted to and really wanted to meet. So I'm a bit unsure what to do.

Midori - does he want children of his own? If yes are you open to having any more? If he does and you are not then I wouldn't waste your time. My rule is not to date any man if he has not got children. But then I am 48 so no longer able to have any more children. I also feel that unless you are a parent you can have absolutely no conception what it must be like to lose one, as I have. But that is one of my non-negotiables.

But I also don't want anyone with young children. I've done that. I don't want young children restrictions.

Thanks minimooch. I'm sorry to hear you've lost a child. I lost my twin girls after they were born prematurely and I'm not sure it's something I'd even want to discuss with anyone new. That was one of the hardest things about splitting with my ex.

I haven't discussed children with Mr.Farmer yet. I don't particularly want any more, but as my littlest are still very young then it's possibly something I would consider.

Back home from my holiday, never heard anything back from Mr Machanic , though I am over it (kind of) though slightly angry with myself for being to trusting. Still speaking to Mr Ginger, thought we were meeting tomorrow but he has to work, I'm starting to think it will never happen. Still speaking to Mr Tubby and deciding if I want to meet him. Just logged into POF and have a couple messages but no one that interesting. Very tempted to give up but no idea how I will ever meet anyone as I don't really go anywhere due to having no childcare .

Hope you are all well, I need to have a read through and see what I have missed.

Do any of you have any tips for first timers?

(Also, what does the machanic mean in Mr Machanic?).