Step inside it's the Dating Thread 92!

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I'm not one for songs Or starting threads I saw the last one was full.

I shall post The Rules shortly:)

I have found a potential prince! Went thru 13 frogs to find him. He is respectful, full of empathy & understanding. He's put me right up there on a platinum-plated pedestal. He thinks the sun shines out of my backside. He views my long previous (abusive) marriage as a massive bonus that I was so loyal to try so hard to make it work. He isn't remotely bothered I have kids. & he thinks my saggy bust & stretchmarked tummy are gorgeous! He's not the sort I would normally date. He's totally out of my lifestyle/circle. If I'm honest, he's ugly & I'd be a little embarrassed in front of my friends. But I see his heart shine through & that makes me stop & think twice. We haven't dtd yet but we've played around. I'm not sexually attracted to him but I am massively attracted to his caring side. Can you develop a long term relationship on this beginning? Hours & hours in his company passes like 10mins. The others were all good looking shagaholics but at the end of the day I wasn't good enough for them. Men want the younger women preferably without kids. This chap seems to really value me.

I found answers of many of my questions here:
doitbuthow.com/category/relationships/
It works:)

Redhot I don't want to rain on your parade but were you for real re being on a pedestal? Maybe that was just a turn of phrase. Have you had counselling since your long-term abusive relationship? I'm sorry if you have and if I am speaking out of turn, I mean it in the gentlest, nicest way. Also if you feel embarrassed of him and think he's ugly? It just sounds very much like it might have rebound written all over it??? Be careful. I'm sorry if I've got the wrong end of the stick there.

Well good men can look a bit "ugly", look around you when you go to the shopping centres see the number of average looking couples with err, other average looking couples.

God likes average looking people that's why he made so many of them.

Inc me;(

Well maybe?, not too bad perhaps? maybe sort of:)

justaboy "the number of average looking couples with err, other average looking couples" In my book, doesn't that equal foursomes? .

redhot if you consider him to be 'ugly' then perhaps you should let him go? Or just keep it as friends?

Lacoba66 LOL!, Soz was trying the post that and do something else!. Meant to say average looking men and women as moist of us are!.

Most!!

Justaboy have you been on the

Only a little weensey bit mum;!.

What's the icon for a slapped wrist;?

Its more to do with this tiny screen be glad when i get my proper 'puter back!

Update... I spoke to Mr Van yesterday and told him it wasn't going going to work, it appears he felt the same way..so alls good there.

I went on a disastrous date with Mr Travel tonight and can honestly say it was the worst date I've ever been on! I'll never get that 55 mins back.. He spent the entire time looking at my chest, sadly had no personality either and after 55 mins just stood up and rudely said 'shall we just go?!' That was it, end of date.. Oh, and he walked out of the door not holding it open so it slammed in my face?! Erm, don't think we'll be seeing each other again, as well as the fact I didn't fancy him at all!

Back in to the dating pool...maybe after Christmas though

Give me strength!! Was this written by a robot or alien? I look simple?

prizey It does beggar belief sometimes...

I'd been chatting to a guy for the past week, mostly via email as the site is rubbish for messaging. He is a widower and says he's been out of the scene for a number of years whilst bringing up his kids- all fine.

Had some good exchanges and seemed quite an interesting guy (will call him Mr Forest).

Sunday he suggests meeting briefly, but then retracts it saying we should probably speak on the phone first, possibly Monday evening, but definitely Tuesday. Okay fair enough.

Tonight we are messaging and he asks if I'd like him to call? Yep says I- nothing, nada! Then gets a message that says it won't happen as he has been advised that he should take things slowly by a fellow member of the site, but "when our stars align" then he will call . Have replied that I don't think our stars will ever 'align' at the same time... WTF is so hard to just have a conversation on the phone? Next.....

RubyShooz Yes well erm, not a very "subtle" type i suppose?

PrizeyPrize Wonder if English wasn't his native tongue?

Lacoba66 I'll have yer know Astrology is very important to some people like woss it called?, Feng-Shooey-pooey!

Laco mad as a box of frogs is the phrase that comes to mind.
just to be fair I did think that too, but then as I read on I thought, where did he learn English - planet zorg?

Hi,

Recently single Dad here.

I hope it's ok to post out of the blue.

I've been following this thread with interest over the past month or so.
Over the past 5 weeks I've been on 3 dates.

1 Irish girl. (I'm Irish and living in Ireland) Texting for close to 2 weeks got on great.. really great! No sexting or anything but we made each other laugh.. Met up in person. I liked her- a lot! She was quite bohemian and very cool.. to be honest I felt like a bit of a potato next to her, and became a little tongue tied. Sadly I wasn't for her.. we did text for a week or so after, but it fizzled out.. It probably would have been a rebound for me. I had over invested emotionally and felt very deflated after.

2 Eastern European #1 Met after 3 days. Lovely lady but we didn't click.. Also she looked nothing like her profile pic! She described her body type as Athletic. She was short and stocky! I let it slide.

3 Eastern European #2 Met after 1 week. Again lovely lady. Again didn't click. She only laughed once and my jokes are freaking hilarious

I'd met all three dates in the pub and the latter two wouldn't drink anything. After an hour and a half date # 3 had an orange juice! There was me all the while with my large bottle of Bulmers.. felt like I was sitting across from my AA sponser

Rule # 7 rocks! I had been texting a girl a little out of my league I had been putting in more effort.. a couple of texts a day, she put less effort into the quality of her responses. It's current her turn to reply and she hasn't.. So rule 7 if she's not making a similar effort to impress me- cut her loose! I've resolved that I'm not going to send her any further texts and I must say it feels pretty good! I can focus my energies elsewhere..
Now of course she may just be following the Bitch Guide rule of Less is more that some of you seem to be advocates of! Either way- I'm the prize! She should have tried harder

Due my dire sent/received messages ratio 10/1 (if not worse) I've concluded my POF profile needs an overhaul. Just wondering what women look for in a profile? I've a feeling mine may be a little too honest (in terms of baggage) and off-putting to prospective dates..

Regards

Laco I honestly thought I'd heard it all

sweetpotato As far as the dates in the pub, I wouldn't give it a thought if I were you, they're probably not. I meet most of my dates in pubs, and as I drive I tend not to drink but they do, it doesn't bother me either way.

In terms of what do women look for in a profile? I agree with Waving, definitely not an empty one. Honesty is good, but it depends what you mean about the baggage ( sometimes too much honesty too soon?). A positive profile, maybe with a bit of humour and a good (honest) photo. I agree about the first message too, it doesn't have to be long, but not ' hey gorgeous'!

Waving Good luck with tonight, I think you're right though from what you've said, just keep in mind rule 3

Agree with ruby 'hi' 'Hi gorgeous/beautiful', 'hello', 'how are you today', never inspire me to answer back. Just a smidgen to indicate they have read my profile will get an answer everytime. Last night I was texting a lovely man and we were in conversation for 2 solid hours, he started off by saying 'sorry if this is intrusive but thought this might interest you' it was a link to see my favourite film (an old foreign independent) on the big screen. Turns out we have tons in common. One of, if not the most interesting, intelligent and thoughtful guys I've encountered on OLD. Could be promising! But no date....as yet. I'll call him Mr Book.

ruby did you hear back from Mr Van? Can't get over how rude he was, how awful for you. Was he charming in his initial texts? Or was he the rude arrogant fucker cheeky chappy type?

SweetPotato1 Welcome to the thread fellow single dad, me too!. They're a fine interesting bunch of women on the thread, pity we can't all meet up sometime for a drink be a laugh, some of the "tales of the dating unexpected";)

With apologies to the TV show of the same similar name!

I believe there has being plenty of meet ups of this thread over the years!

Hi all,

You probably won't remember me - I was on thread 88 briefly, but I don't think I was ready to be 'out there' so let it slip away. Anyway - my divorce is now complete and I've been feeling 'over' the EXH since about september this year (a year since I kicked his arse out).

I'm now starting to think I might be ready to meet someone, but I have no idea how to go about it... I've never dated in my life, never had to put myself out there. My two previous relationships were both friends initially. Except of course that pretty much all friends are now married, and I have 2 DC which I do 90% childcare for - giving me one weekend off every other week (one evening)

so - where do I start?!

Hi Darcy, I'm back in after a fairly long break too, welcome! I'd say download Tinder (slightly scary) or Bumble (latter definitely more pleasant), also Hinge and Bagel meets Coffee, all seem to have nice calibre of gentlemen. Treat it like an app, a game - I like to call it 'Hot or Not'. Sooner or later you'll match and if you feel they are worth chatting with strike up a conversation and see where it leads. Don't overthink it, don't put yourself under pressure, try and enjoy it! Oh and keep us all posted!!

Waving thank you! And good luck to you too, hopefully MrSoho will have retrieved some manners before tonight. You are absolutely right in playing it cool.

*Sweetpotatoe" I think I tend to "go" for men who give a bit of an insight as to who they are on their profiles. So anything relevant to that should be on there, but maybe do not dwell on it IYSWIM? e.g. "I usually go out with friends during the week, and on the weekends I spend time with my kids aged XX" is plenty to say "I have a social life" but "I also care for my family." You also need several pictures, not just one. HTH

Darcy Hi! OkCupid is the only site I like, perhaps because I need that "insight" before even talking to men

Prizey that looks like a scam. The guy must be 17 and not Scottish at all. But it is definitely funny.

Laco hahaha, right, I think you dodged a bullet there! Weirdo.

I am currently packing (Trills!!) and I think I have covered every single season and type of activity (umbrella/swimsuit included). Not sure I can close my suitcase now. But I have an excuse as we have decided to extend the stay to Friday, as he wants me to meet his best friend who lives there..

I have also dutifully blocked and deleted anybody else from my phone.

Any advice before I wander into the wild with Popcorn?