Hello everyone, been reading your updates with interest. waving - I really feel your pain, I have been in almost the same situation and you just get so irritated and upset and then you feel silly.
I met Mr Fireman on Thursday. He really is a nice man, think he wants to move a bit fast - talking about meeting my family and what to buy me for Christmas, so I'm backing off slightly. But I just get the feeling he would never let me down, or cheat; he'd always text when he said he would, he'd be a good partner. But not entirely sure there's any sexual spark there for me; I don't really fancy him at all, but I think I could grow to as he's a nice person, iyswim?
Mr Short, on the other hand - think there's a couple of red flags there, he's been on his own for a while and doesn't seem like he would fit in with my world. He's a bit rough around the edges - not a criticism at all, because I like that - but my working world is full of etiquette and rules. My family is tiny and very conservative; we NEVER swear, and he turns the air blue - in general conversation, not in an aggressive manner. He also mentions he likes having his own space in relationships - again, not a problem - and I think there's a history of MH issues, though he seems to have them under control. Triggered by a specific incident, which he told me about.
But - we DTD last night and it was absolutely amazing. Honestly, never felt like that before. It was seriously fantastic. He is so considerate and caring and attentive, my needs came way above his. Over and over again (sorry if TMI, but OMG!!!) 
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Not really spoken about the next steps because I was barely about to form a coherent sentence but get the feeling we both want there to be a next time.
But he's far more risky, and will no doubt be far more work - than Mr Fireman. In the past I have always taken the hardest path, and not just in relationships, so I do think I should give myself a break from hard work. And obviously I know there's more that just two men in the world, so it's not a case of Mr Fireman or Mr Short or no-one.
But even so - life is too short to not have amazing sex when you can. Isn't it?!?