Step inside it's the Dating Thread 92!

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I'm not one for songs Or starting threads I saw the last one was full.

I shall post The Rules shortly:)

Waving I've only been single for three months. I only just now feel ready to start meeting new people, I'm well aware of how many unsuitable men there are out there so may as well start weeding them out sooner rather than later right? I'd ideally like to meet someone away from OLD but as a single mum working full time I don't have the time/money to go out much and have much of a social life...

Oh so am on annual leave this week (getting Xmas sorted and generally chilling) so went on an afternoon date to the cinema with Mr Lovely (the bad kisser). Had a coffee and a nice chat first.

The film was rubbish- so far so good - but two older ladies plonked themselves right next to him (they even asked him to move his coat so they could sit right next to him - mysterious as there were about 10 people in a 150 seater cinema!) I joked I didn't know he had invited his mates (didn't seem to get that joke or maybe he was just a bit gutted).

After the cinema I had to go and get dd from after sch club. I gave him a lift to his car which was parked a little way away. Was expecting to try again at snogging but (presumably because it was a rather sober afternoon date) he gave me a very wet school boy slobbery lip smaking one-kiss-on-the-lips. Didn't exactly give me much hope, kissing wise.

He left me feeling a bit meh today, tbh.

SO I've started texting the guy who wanted to come off POF. Am in search of FUN!!!! And so far, he's quite amusing..... Let's call this one Mr Daisy.....

To be continued......

pompster just say yes and do it. What do you have to lose? If there's no spark then so be it. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.

waving so are you seeing Mr Ginger tonight?
The date with mr soho sounds FAB!

handy the kissing doesn't sound like it makes your toes curl. I want kissing that blows my mind (or my knickers off).

I should name my guy Mr Tree. Mr Tree has made up some lost ground today. He has kept his place on the bench...for now.

No Sassy the kissing neeeeeeds to be good. It's not.

Agree so much about the kissing, Mr Short is an amazing kisser

Just agreed to meet him after my work night out on Friday. He's invited me back to his house, I really want to go.

Meeting Mr Fireman for a drink after work tomorrow, he is just really nice. Kind, thoughtful, funny. Can't imagine him cheating. Bit worried he isn't exciting enough for me for some reason I usually date twunts with MH issues and I might get bored.

Well done sassy - you're an example to us on how it should be done .

I bought 'Why men love bitches' today. Totally see where I've gone wrong in the past and I'm only on chapter one. My trouble is that I can do feisty and sassy and confident with guys I don't fancy much, so they keep wanting more. But give me a guy I like and I just crumble.

Hoping for more insight as I read!

itsallpoop When you've read that book let us know why that is please;?.

Is it the same as why do women love bar stewards?

LOL @ handy agreed on he kissing. I once dated someone who could floor me with one hello or goodbye kiss. he wasn't my type one bit but I dated him for 3 months for that and other skills.

poop keep seeing them both for the time being. I would. A little about your compliment. Thanks. I'll say this much, all I did was implement some of the stuff I had read in the bitches book. Some the advice I totally discarded. But some of the stuff is blinding! Enjoy your date tonight.

Waves at justaboy have a great day everyone!

Hello, could I ask for opinions please? Unfortunately I think I know the answer, but...

I met this guy the other night. That in itself is unusual for me. We'd been Facebook friends for years but never met and never really even chatted. I saw that he was coming to a literary thing I was reading at but didn't think much of it other than it would be interesting to meet him at last.

So I'm standing there at this thing, trying to uncork a bottle of wine, and this tall, imposing, sharply dressed and handsome man walks in, ignores everyone else and comes straight over to me, greeting me by name. When I'd picked my knickers back up off the floor, I said casually "Oh, you're so and so..." and we chatted as if we'd known each other ages. It was very weird. He seemed interested in talking a fair bit and I thought he was really hot, so the next day I messaged to say it was nice to meet him and we laughingly agreed that we shouldn't wait four years till the next time.

He said no, he was thinking of next year, with all little smiley emoticon shit. So I'm pretty much introducing him to all my friends by this point, and picking out scatter cushions and curling up with Netflix. And then he says what about February.

FEBRUARY? FUCKING FEBRUARY?

So now I think I got the wrong end of the stick. Either that or I'm being "placed". You know, "I like you but you're not a priority, so I'll place you there, just so you get it."

I am not sure I like that. In fact I don't like it.

It's not really a goer is it?

I've read the bitches book too. Another one that's good is 'why we chose who we chose' I think it's called.

Well I had date 4 with Mr libra last night...was amazing. We both falling hard and not even DTD yet. It's planned for tomorrow

Just cannot stop texting each other and I'm in no way worried about him feeling same as me because he makes it very clear.

Right I'll go now before I make you all sick !!

Well I've been reading the last few posts ( having been a member for a while but not really been on as list password etc ) but been on my own two years now and thought I'd have a go at speed dating last night

Anyone else tried it

I have, but didn't enjoy it.

Oh sparkles I am sooooooo jealous happy for you how exciting!

Mr Bad Kisser has been texting too much. He is v flirty and forward by text but IRL am not really feeling it. It's not adding up. It's like two different versions of one man. The texting version seems to be pushing for intimacy whereas the real life version is not as curious about me. And he said he has never had kids with anyone because he was always helping previous girlfriends with their problems and is looking for a more equal relationship. I think behind that seemingly rational statement is a red flag. Am now thinking meeting up on Tuesday evening is too much. My time is too precious! Was going to give it one last chance. But I now think I should knock it on the head. Is dumping by text bad form after 4 dates???

He also turned up at yesterday's cinema date with a carrier bag of popcorn and two cans of drink. They didn't allow them into the auditorium. It was a bit awkward.

I need to get rid don't I?

Help me ladies......

I haven't but did want to try it

Handywoman think you should knock it on the head with Badkisserman, doesn't sound like it's really working out. Better to end it now than drag it out. And have to endure more bad kissing, life's too short!

Another recommendation for the Why men love bitches book, tho not always too successful in implementing it in my own life!

I think he's exploring his current opportunities and holding you in reserve Could well be right. That'll teach me to go all unnecessary over someone. Well maybe I'll hold him in reserve too. He was REALLY hot.

Ok you lot - need some advice. Hot young guy who I thought had gone AWOL has pulled his finger out and we have a date on Monday night! Maybe going to a comedy club, perhaps a large Winter Wonderland where there will be a band and dancing.

He is 28 and I am 40. And if I fancy him in real life I would really like some sex, to be blunt. Is this a terribly bad idea on the first date? Have any of you guys gone for it on the first night? And is it implicit, with the age gap, that that's what we're probably both hoping for?

He hasn't been in the slightest bit sexual in his messages - he's been funny, friendly, and interested, but no crassness at all.

What say you wise women?

fish I would go with an open mind and a packet of condoms but don't get ahead of yourself, he may not live up to his photo! Nothing wrong with sex on a first date. Nothing implicit in your ages either. Have fun!

Thanks Handy and Waving. Shall go with an open mind, as you say. Honestly Waving if you can wait until date 6 to have sex with someone you really fancy, you're a far more patient woman than I

There - Ive done it - I've texted Mr BadKisser.

Feel mean (he was keen) but it's deffo the right thing and if I'm gonna get used to this dating lark I've to to be firm.

The reality is I'm not necessarily in need of a relationship and am happy with FWB but the kissing has to be good and there must be laughs!!!!

Onwards

Went speed dating last night 10 men 9 women 4 minutes each - made notes so I could remember who was who - ( notes as follows ) 1 Mr bean ( nuff said ) 2 Mr Italy ( wants babies ) 3 Mr up himself 4 5 and 6 mr Geek 7 ( Mr foreign ( Iranian if I remember correctly ) 8 Mr hard work 9 Mr up himself 10 could do better but possibly someone worth seeing again. You are supposed to input your results on the webpage ( yes ( dating ) no and friends categories. Been single for three years ( Long story ) . There's only no. 10 as a maybe ..,,,,,,,,,,,