Step inside it's the Dating Thread 92!

[Whatsforsupper]

I'm not one for songs Or starting threads I saw the last one was full.

I shall post The Rules shortly:)

Sparkles, I was attracted by his looks (shallow!!) but actually his messages were what made me agree to meet up.

We have a sport interest in common so if nothing else I can pick his brains about that

Start we both be on dates same time! Don't forget update !!

Sparkles, I knew already from his profile that he was a bit different from the others. From the first emails we exchanged it was clear that we would have plenty to talk about. He was very keen to meet up quickly but I was out the country for a few days. We arranged lunch for the day after I returned. On the morning I got a text saying he couldn't make it as he was ill. I was about to write him off as a player but he begged for my number and he called me up. From the moment I heard his voice I was smitten. We talked daily for a few days until he was well enough to meet. When we met we talked for hours and it felt as though I'd known him all my life. He was far better looking than in his profile pics which was a nice bonus!
I know he's really keen too but as I said up thread he's got a busy job and is not into texting so when I haven't heard for a while I start to get anxious. I think it's because it seems too good to be true and I am over-investing. What the heck, i've decided just to go along for the ride!

Yes I get like that too when I really like someone n it's horrible, I over analyse everything

It is really unsettling. On the plus side I've lost my appetite so I will have lost a few lbs before I get my clothes off😬

Well my date went really well....got on really well. He made me laugh loads n he seemed happy with me too....fingers crossed

That sounds very positive! Keep us posted. It's so good to hear positive stories on here!

My coffee meet (not a date obviously!!) went well too.

He Kind of dashed off in a hurry at the end so I wasn't really sure - but then sent a lovely text and we have a proper date arranged for next week

So now I can spend a week obsessing about what to wear for that. Arrghhhh !!!

Nice to have met for coffee already though as I am more excited than nervous about a date. Still it will be my first date for 19 years - OMG!!

Did u kiss him Start ? I just gave him quick peck on lips no way was I snogging in a car park in broad daylight

We been texted lots and set up another date for Monday !

Ok am reading back through all the very interesting and sometimes hilarious messages in this thread and am going to throw my hat into the ring, albeit tentatively.

I'm 33, have a DD who is nearly 2. To cut a long story short, the last time I had sex I got pregnant (so nearly 3 years ago). 6 weeks later and I was completely on my own. Have never been married, and before DD never did any dating or OLD, just met ex-BFs spontaneously and generally through drinking/pubs/friends/houseshares. Had some disastrous relationships in my 20s that I now regret because I can see I was wasting time and energy on the wrong guys. Looking back, I had a thousand opportunities a year to explore and find a good relationship - whereas now, as a single mum without any support, I haven't made it outside the house after tea time since DD was born (and now living in the sticks, not a big city). I have no support i.e. no free babysitting day or night. Am not working (job seeking) so spend all day/night with DD. I'm not even sure how to manage the practicalities of dating in this situation but am fed up with only having Netflix as company, and though I love DD to bits, need some adult conversation and company.

I don't really know where to start. Looked at GSM, eHarmony, Match and a smaller site called MuddyMatches, and Tinder. Match looks to be about £10/month with the most people on, so possibly the best bet if this is all a numbers game?

I've put a profile on, not a paid up member yet but the only guys expressing an interest in my profile seem to be in their 40s, when I've specified an interest in a 34-39 age bracket. I'm wondering whether guys more my age might be put off by the fact I have a child and/or looking for younger women? The profile has been up for about a week and only one guy aged 41 has actually emailed. I think the profile is fairly average, I do mention my DD because I want to be upfront about having a child.

Am going to keep reading your posts :) but any advice for a newbie appreciated x

Welcome Eternal

I'm 43 and get lots of messages from men in late 40's early 50's n I'm not interested as I'm quite young at hear n go for my age or younger!

Make sure you have plenty of pics on I'd say, full length if poss that's what the guys want I'm told.

My guy is 2 years older n that enough for me!

Thanks sparkles - full length? Thanks for that.. hmm, I think all my photos like that are of me at least a stone lighter, I was a 10 and ore of a 12 now since my main hobby is watching Netflix with biscuits that might explain why some men seem to post chest/body shots

Have had enough of dating much older guys. Was (in hindsight) heavily controlled age 26-30 by a BF 14 years my senior (long term separated) then stupidly did a rebound fling with another 11 years older (divorcee), the latter my DD's daddy.. if only I had realised at 26 some of the things that are crystal clear now..

I got my daughter to take a full length photo of me just before was going out on the town!! It's been quite popular and I'm size 12!

:) I'm sure you look fab sparkles. Maybe I'm just finding excuses (i.e. I can't date until I'm thinner)

Am going on a second date later and have allowed myself to get rather excited, if I do say so myself.

Oops.....

Feeling fed up and negative about OLD, tempted to give up until after Christmas as it's just taking up so much time and getting me stressed out. I am meant to be meeting Mr Deli again on Monday but I don't know if I can be bothered, we have been messaging a lot, most of the time he seems really sweet and other times he is a pain, he has asked me to send him photos which I keep refusing to do, this has kind of ruined everything and has pissed me off slightly. I'm starting to think that there are not any men out there that want to get to know me for who I am rather than for how I look. I wouldn't say I am that good looking, I guess I look young for my age and am a size 10 ( after a lot of work ), I seem to be attracting out of shape men who want a skinny girl to show off to their mates . Another guy keeps on messaging me because I havnt returned his texts ( mr sex toy ) and it's starting to creep me out, I havnt replied to any of his messages all week but he still keeps sending messages such as 'I take it your not interested? Good luck ' and then this morning I had a message just saying 'ha ha!!' .

I keep looking at my profile to see if I give the wrong impression to people, my photos are pretty normal ( no sexy shots, no pouting, just natural shots mainly with no make up on ). So why am I attracting men that are obviously after one thing?

Doughnuts can't you just block the persistent texter?

And why are you giving headspace to a man who is being 'a pain' let alone considering meeting?

Just block and move on!

I know, I need to be a bit stronger and just move on. Just feel frustrated that there seems to be no men out there that tick my boxes.

Doughnuts it's not you it's them that are knobheads! I've encountered many n my pics are not seductive either.

My guy not talked dirty once n admitted he not had sex in seven years!!

Why does Mr Deli want pictures of you if you've already met? He knows what you look like.

Or does he mean naked pictures?

I am off online dating til after Christmas.

I had an email inviting me to a Singles New Year's Eve party yesterday. This sounds like the WORST THING EVER.

Can you imagine the kind of man who would be at that?
A man who thinks it was compulsory to "go out" on NYE.
But who doesn't have any friends to go out with.
Or maybe he does have friends, but he thinks that pursuing unknown women is better than going out with friends.
So he goes to this.
He thinks that the women there will be feeling a bit down, maybe feeling a bit vulnerable.
He'll make a big deal about the idea that you MUST kiss someone (or more than one) at midnight.
Yuck.

After two disasters - in my eyes - in as many weeks I'm thinking the same as you doughnuts.

Men ten years younger text lovely things, then ask for sex blow jobs, men my ages all seem to have undiagnosed MH issues and are so self-centred it hurts, men ten years older keep asking what my pension arragements are and how much longer have I got on my mortgage, and the ones older than that - just no although I guess they deserve points for optimism.

Seriously doubting there's someone out there for me, but it hurts, not being part of a couple.

Gawd!, you just couldn't make some of that up!.

Seems OLD is for the deranged, dispossessed and disconnected from reality:(

He asks me what I am wearing, then asks for pictures including underwear shots. He does keep telling me that he's not after me for one thing but I find that hard to believe.

I have had messages from 4 new men today, all seem weird or just after one thing, I am quite selective on who I reply too but still seem to pick the wrong ones .

Why if they were only after the one thing don't they look up on-line escorts instead of pestering genuine people looking for decent serious relationships!?.

I pick the wrong ones too.

Replied to a message today from someone who looks/sounds completely out of my league. Clearly I was right because no message back in ten hours, he's been online all that time though.

I really am trying to develop a thick skin but it's hard, I'm overthinking everything I do now in case it's the wrong thing.

What sites do you use doughnuts, and do you ever message people first?