Step inside it's the Dating Thread 92!

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I'm not one for songs Or starting threads I saw the last one was full.

I shall post The Rules shortly:)

That sounds very positive nevergoingtolearn-

:-) keep us updated :-)

Ooh Never that sounds really promising

Nothing doing online, here.

Both at is frustrating Waving , I'm sure if he was really into you he would find the time to meet you sooner.

Things have been going well with me and Mr 2 hours away, loads of messages and looking forward to seeing each other at the weekend, then last night I went out with a friend, he text me to say 'have a good time, message me when you get back', I was only popping out for a hour or so for a quiet drink, after I had been out 10 minutes I get a message asking me if I'm having a good time, then a few more messages wich I ignored. Does this sound like he is a bit insecure? I am a bit worried .

That was meant to say 'that is frustrating' ( iPad has a mind of its own ).

never all those messages would do my head in, me personally having been in an EA marriage would see it as a huge red flag, but I appreciate my perspective is slightly skewed.

waving I am so busy atm I was trying to make arrangements with a girlfriend last night and 13th November is the earliest we can fit it in so I wouldn't necessarily think he's not that into you. But again this could be my skewed emotionally detached view of things.

Despite Mr 29yr old being slightly disappointing bedroom wise, we're still messaging and have agreed to meet again clothes on this time to get to know each other better... God knows when it'll be tho!!

Jellybean, I have been in EA relationships too which is why it worries me, maybe I'm just over thinking it? I will give him a chance but he's going to have to back off a bit or I will soon get annoyed and loose interest.

I hope all goes well with Mr 29, first time in the bedroom is always a little disappointing, maybe next time will be much better .

He is nice yea, very intelligent and in a grown up job so appears older than his years, whereas most people think I look and act younger. I'm well aware it's never going to be more than a "laugh & a shag" arrangement, but that suits me fine atm.

Hi ladies
I'm back to dating after a very bad LTR. Love to meet someone, though I wonder if I am truly ready for it. Things have changed since my 20s (now late 40s) and I'm struggling to make sense of it all.
I've "been" OLD (or at least trying to) for a good couple of months.

Why do the men appear to be interested, disappear and then come back perky with their tails wagging for a rematch sometime later? Or seem keen on a date and then go back to texting infrequently?
Are they really just bouncing from one shallow experience to another and keeping their options open? I find the idea exhausting.

What's the quickest you've ever ended a date?

This afternoon I went for a drink with a guy.

Nice, chatty, enough to talk about, but there was no way it was going to go anywhere.

So when we'd finished our drinks I said as much (nicely, or I tried to).

58 minutes from when we met.

Then I went and bought some new tights.

Yes I think he was a bit surprised.

I've had it done to me before and while I felt a bit insulted for 2-3 minutes, after that I was pleased to have the rest of my afternoon back.

There wasn't really a "whole date" planned, we were having a drink and then deciding what to do next as we went.

I meant to come back and post after my date a few weeks ago but its been kind of a whirlwind since and I haven't had much time. In the last 3 weeks we've seen each other maybe 8 or 9 times and its been amazing. We get on like a house on fire and never stop talking or laughing when we are together. I haven't felt this way about someone in a long time and feel very lucky to have met someone special, I'm really positive that this could go somewhere with her!

Hello all, seems a bit quiet in here these days ... I'm a NCer but posted on these threads fairly regularly earlier in the year. Just after a bit of advice ... I have a date this evening - it's a RL person not OD, fella I met infact through my last bf .

My question is ... if you hold off from DTD too quickly, do you hold off from all things physical as well, even kissing? I have been known on previous occasions to jump in a bit too quickly with intimacy, and with this guy it feels like it might be quite nice to enjoy getting to know him without that getting in the way too early on but on the other hand I don't want to be / appear too standoffish. For the record last w/e we were out as part of a group, large quantities of alcohol were consumed, we ended up crashing out in the same bed, but both stayed fully clothed and no shennanigans, ha ha! Your thoughts would be appreciated, thanks!

Hi Waving
Thanks for the advice/support, in the end we slept together but just hugging and kissing, I strategically stayed partially clothed and have decided no shagging until we've spent more time together sober to see if we're compatible sober as well as drunk!

Have you had date 4 yet?

I just checked into this thread and it's been very quiet too...

So far over the past few months I've had email contact with one man for over 2 months who when I mentioned meeting up avoided the question so I'm avoiding him! I met up with a man who seemed nice enough but then dropped the bombshell the next day that he could only date someone who liked anal sex every time they had sex and he wondered why it had ended badly re sex with his previous GF?! I don't like anal sex by the way!

Have spoken with people on and off am currently emailing a man who wants a submissive/dominatrix sex deal potentially leading to a serious relationship - for the sex I'll meet him maybe but not met yet.

I plan to join a paid site soon as OKCupid really hasn't borne fruition for me lately!

Oh and there was another man... He had sunglasses on in both his photos - apparently that's a warning sign!

We emailed for 2-3 months seemed ok, then he wanted to meet and sent me normal pics, but these all seemed strange in that he was looking sideways in all pics and grinning! We went for a drink, he tried to touch my knee but there was zero chemistry there and he bought me one drink the entire night and made noises about days out costing a lot!

I forgot another one, Another man made contact the other day, seemed very nice but very laddish. No baggage, very open and honest but then with no encouragement from me came the dick shots and sex talk. He apologised the next day, but then said he'd been drinking and got depressed and i could also see there wasn't much there for me!

I don't think I could tell if I liked how someone looked if they had sunglasses on in all their pictures.

trills he had just the 2 pics and the 1st one was a full body tshirt and shorts one so he looked fine, i think the 2nd one was sunglasses covering part of his eyes....

The last person I was texting, it just fizzled out and I could not be bothered to make any effort, so I've decided that I need to have a break.

I'll actively date again after Christmas. Until then if the universe wants to send a nice man my way that's great, but I am not seeking them out.

Does anyone else think that this time of year is tricky for dating anyway?
I'll be extra busy because of Christmas-related things, and what if did I meet someone now? At Christmas we'd have been dating 4 weeks. Would I get him a present? Would he get me a present? Far too tricky.

I think sometimes Trills men with kids around Christmas have trouble or can do fitting dates in on top of everything else... Having said that there are Christmas parties, drinks, that you could be invited to as a date.

I've always thought that 1 month is too soon for presents, perhaps a card and bottle of wine or something but certainly not a present where you have to put a lot of thought into it!