Step inside it's the Dating Thread 92!

[Whatsforsupper]

I'm not one for songs Or starting threads I saw the last one was full.

I shall post The Rules shortly:)

Hi ya,

Does anyone know what sites seem to have been most successful for them or someone they know??
As I explained couple of posts back - pof seems to be full of loosers-
An match.com didn't have a huge selection of people.

So anyone ?

I'm on POF, there are a lot of losers on there but some ok guys too, no success as yet but am chatting to a couple of 'normal' blokes.... From what they say the women seem just as bonkers as some of the guys! The sister of a girl I work with met her DH on POF and an ex-colleague met her fiance on tinder.

I think there's good & bad everywhere tbh.

Ah Nora how lovely.

Gohack I've used OKCupid, which is ok. I like the question aspect and also the profile has questions to help you write about yourself. It's not the most used though.

I've had a few POF dates, yes there are weirdos on there but I found it pretty easy to spot them!

So I had a brief break after Mr Scot pissed me off hugely at the beginning of September. Anyway I'm back on POF with a fresh profile, and got chatting again to someone who was the very first person I ever chatted to online, we've messaged on and off since then (early June) but never met. So we ended up going for a bit of a walk and coffee on Sunday evening. Sort of fancied him a bit, he also really made me laugh. We went back to his for a bit and ended up fooling around a bit on his sofa. It was pretty good - he clearly has no hang ups in that area. Ahem. Anyway. Afterwards I told my friend I wasn't sure if he'd want to be in touch but I wouldn't be devastated if he didn't. Since, he's sent me a couple of brief texts but not replied since. I'm not going to be gutted if he isn't interested (although I'd happily go.on another date) but I'm just a bit disappointed as he didn't seem the sort to just disappear on me like that. Maybe I'm just a rubbish kisser???

Ooh ooh ooh I've been chatting this evening to a lovely-looking and lovely sounding chap! Ended up saying yes let's meet. Arrangements tbc.

Been a bit disappointed at the fizzling out of a few chats or blatant lack of reply, but this chap is nicer than all of those.....

We'll see!

Ooh yey!

Can I join please? Been online dating for quite a few years on and off, has anyone else experienced “the case of the missing Tinder men”?!! I match with someone on Tinder, they send a message, get chatting, they lay it on thick, seem really interested, in particular one last week who was sending me really long messages, saying he thought I was attractive, talking about meeting up blah blah, wanting to swap numbers, telling me his life story, getting on really well, and then yesterday I go onto Tinder to reply and poof, he’s disappeared in a puff of smoke, obviously unmatched me for some reason! I actually think that’s worse than being ignored, as it’s like being blocked for no reason whatsoever! I don’t think he was a fake either, as I could see his Instagram account and his photos looked real. I guess that’s the difference between men and women, I would find it really mean just unmatching and blocking someone, but they obviously don’t give it a second thought! I know that Tinder isn’t the be all and end all and is known for being a hook up site, plus I have been on lots of the other sites, POF, OK Cupid etc, but this just really bugged me yesterday, it’s so damn RUDE!!! Puts you off chatting to anyone, cos they could all just end up disappearing into thin air!!

Hi all

Date didn't happen last night which was a shame but it wasn't set in stone anyway. Have sorted something out for Sunday instead so I'm looking forward to that and trying not to worry too much about it. We have been talking quite a lot and she seems really nice, I'm looking forward to meeting her. I will let you know how it goes :)

Denton welcome may I refer you to page 1 of the thread and direct your attention to the rules, particularly rule 6.

Good luck Cronenberg

Thanks, sounds like "the case of the missing Tinder men is well known then!!!

should be "case of the missing Tinder men"!!!!

I think I have a date this weekend

should be "case of the missing Tinder men and women" - it's happened to me too. People just disappear.

That's why one of the thread rules is 'It's all bullshit until it actually happens' - I've been stood up for dates, women have vanished - I think men are worse than women but it's not just us who do it.

People who do online dating are far more likely to just up and vanish because there's no comeback, no guilt. No common circle of friends who'd point out what an arse they'd been.

If you meet someone in real life, at a party or something, then you'll probably have mutual acquaintances who would find out if someone had been a shit. If it's just a face and words on a screen, people feel more free to be selfish because no one is going to point it out to them. Plus of course there's a chance they're married and just thrillseeking.

The 'all bullshit' rule is true - anyone can say anything about what a lovely person you are, how attractive or funny you are before they've met you - but they haven't met you yet. Before that point, it's all just empty flattery to get you to meet them.

Denton I actually unmatched someone I had been talking to the other day as I was telling a friend about him and she recognised him as someone she'd been on a date with who turned into a weirdo afterwards. Not saying you're a weirdo but there are all sorts of reasons for disappearing.

Oh yes, it could be anything, I'm sure! True what Bant says as well, it's easier to do that when it's just a face on a screen, no comeback then. Onwards and upwards, onto the next lol!

Don't worry waving. I dtd 6 months after coming out of a 23yr relationship, it was fine.... Like riding a bike

Seriously, just relax & enjoy it, as long as you feel comfortable & confident I'm sure all will be well.

I'm meeting Mr 29yr old tonight, I'm gagging for a shag tbh so if we hit it off and he's up for it too, I'm just gonna go for it, there's never going to be anything long term between us anyway. I've hit the gym 3 times this week in anticipation, but he knows how old I am so he can't be expecting a perfect body anyway.

Hi
manic week here , just caught up on posts.

It seems everyone is on pof or OK Cupid.
Has anyone tried match or muddy matches?
Well I was brave last night.a guy that had been messaging me slowly on pof and then what's app asked to meet me last night.
After consideration ( nutty date 2, previous posts, really Surprised me as I thought was ace at wheedling out the shit) I agreed!
Was a great date, continued to text once home- today zero texts- he's not even looked at the one I have sent today,
I also realise this dating lark is tiring and I refuse to go on any more midweek dates!! After doing full day in stressful job- to then rush home etc etc etc it's just not me-
So here I am , just turned 40 and realise ..... I'm too old for this dating shit/mind fuck thing with ft job, young kids and 2 dogs lol lol lol
Anyone else feel the same on midweek dates?

I have to say that men have gone down massively in my estimation since I've been dating. Even the ones that seem nice at first are happy to lie about anything to get a shag, always on the look out for the next target, or are so fucked up that they will never form a successful relationship. I am a nice person who just wants to meet a man who is nice and normal and open and honest, but they seem to be like hen's teeth, I'm starting to think that successful dating stories are urban myths

Just got back from meeting my guy from OKC...

Oh.... such a disappointment. Was wearing lots of beige and ill fitting jacket, looked very casual and talked a lot about not having support/opportunities as a child and about long spells of not being able to find a job, and about filling his child-free weekends doing nothing.

Amazing the difference between profile, messages and real life....

Next!!!!!

Hope you had more luck Jellybean?

Someone please help me compose a 'thanks but no thanks' message....

eek.....

Has he messaged you for another date? If not I'd just leave it! How disappointing though. I've been chatting a lot to someone for a week, which is not my style, and he seems funny and normal. Hope I don't have the same experience as you tomorrow.

Each: I kind of feel that way too. So I have zero expectations of anyone being decent now. It's depressing.

Mr 29yr old was well dressed, attractive & into me.... I was quite drunk so you can guess the end result!! Had a "naice" time but he was a bit selfish in bed tbh. Anyway this morning we literally had nothing to say to each other, it was quite funny really and I just wanted him gone.

He's quite witty via text but seemed a bit humourless in rl, maybe he was trying to appear older my benefit? He asked this morning about seeing me again, but seeing as having a laugh is high on my list of requirements, I fudged my reply. We have messaged today, but only very briefly.

Hi, I'm new to the dating thread! I split up with my boyfriend of almost three years in August by mutual agreement and was planning to wait until the new year to start actively looking to meet someone to give myself time to be in the right frame of mind (I met my ex online so I do have some experience of online dating). However I've been feeling fine with regards to splitting up and on Thursday I registered with Tastebuds which is a dating site centered around matching you with people with similar taste in music.

Does anyone have any experience with Tastebuds? I've paid for the enhanced option where I can send out messages and I've had a few unsolicited messages and sent out about 15 messages - I've had chats with four guys but three of them are abroad which isn't really what I'm looking for!

It's all been a bit quiet on here lately.

As some of you may have seen in my other thread, I finally met up with Mr 2 hours away, after chatting for over 2 months and not being sure if the distance thing would work. A month ago I came off of online dating, closed my accounts but continued talking to a couple people ( mainly Mr 2 hours away and from time to time Mr ginger ), Mr 2 hours away started messaging me more and more, we seemed to have a lot in common, he seemed really caring and nice but I was a bit unsure after meeting several men in POF that turned out to be total ass holes.

So We arranged to meet on Saturday half way between mine and his, thought this would be a good idea as I didn't want to feel I had to sleep with him ( as originally he wanted me to go to his, or near his ), so we met up in a certain romantic (ish) city, I was really nervous and was prepared to be disappointed, I wasn't disappointed at all, he was also very nervous at first and wouldn't stop taking but we both soon relaxed, we talked for a while, held hands, he was a gentleman , I felt a huge spark and I'm pretty sure he did too. Anyway after chatting and walking around for a while we decided to go back to his house, we stayed there for the rest of the day . So all went very well, he hasn't stopped messaging me since and we are meeting again next weekend. I don't think the distance will be a huge problem, he has not ties and I'm happy to travel at the weekends to see him, in a way I think distance is a good thing as it means we can't rush things ( can only see him at the weekends ). We shall see how things go, I really don't want to have to go back to the world of POF.