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I'm not one for songs Or starting threads I saw the last one was full.

I shall post The Rules shortly:)

What about Mr Tubby never, have I missed.an update on what you plan to do re meeting up with him?

Mr Tubby still messages me every day, he's ill at the moment so won't be meeting him this week, I'm still unsure if I will meet him or not.

Stand back ladies, I saw him first!

You will only be treat as a lady if you act one If I message you and I get one word answers I won't reply conversation only works with 2 people so don't reply at all if your going to give me one word replys

Wow, myturn does he also have a 'pitcher' he's a keeper!

Your reply is as below.

"Hi Hun"

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myturn nooo I wanted him!

Another happy online dating story to add to hidings I went away with Mr First Date for a couple of days, it went well and I still really like him. I am one of the grumpiest people in the world and don't usually like anybody

been a bit mental lately - got a date with a Mr Extrovert later this evening just drinks... he seems nice but quick off the mark with a date which I like. He is funny and cheeky - got one picture but he's wearing shades...

Mr Painter hasn't messaged since Wednesday not that bothered about that really!

Nora - i love how things have worked out with Mr First Date for you especially as you admit you're grumpy (no!) and don't usually like anybody!

Never I agree with you re Mr Ginger - most people can make time to see the people they want to see especially romance wise - and if it's this hard now what would it be like in future. You did the right thing re Mr 2 Hours. too far.

Sunday's date hasn't firmed up and he's decided to go mountain-biking instead. I've given up on him now.

, doesn't seem to be many people on here having much luck this week.

Mr Ginger was messaging for a short time last night before he said 'my phone is about to die' seems he didn't bother charging it so didn't message me back, starting to think 'I really can't be bothered if he can't put any effort in'.

Mr policeman still sending me disgusting messages on whatsapp.

Mr 2 hours away is still messaging and begging for me to meet him.

Mr Tubby still messaging me every day ( a few times a day )

Mr army sending me a message occasionally but pretty boring 'how are you?' Kind of thing, no real coversation.

So, lots of people chatting to me but no one that stands out from the crowd.

I'm going out tonight for the first time in over a month, here hoping I meet someone as OLD is getting really tedious.

Never like I said before it's good to get a short-list down of men...

otherwise you get the disgusting and time-wasting messages and I find all this does with me is either disgusts me or gets me irritated re time-wasting!

What's working for me on Whatsapp is having it set not to work on 3G. Means I disappear a lot on there and it seems to keep them guessing! I got asked whether I was going to abandon one of them again yesterday!!!

That's a good idea Knight, I have done it before ( usually when someone's texting me too much and pissing me off ).

Mr Tubby is texting me now and wants to meet me, not sure when though.

Are you going to meet him Never

Can I just check? drinks in a bar - am wearing skirt and tights to work (skirt could do for night out) but would prefer black skinny jeans and yellow top for tonight with heeled boots. is that ok?

Yes, skinny jeans & heels works for almost every occasion in my opinion

Sounds lovely

Hello, sorry to interrupt, it's been a few years since I was last on this site, but am relieved to find this brilliant thread. I have been OLD for about 10 months now with no great success. I thought things were going well with the last one (MrCarpenter), he wanted a relationship, flowers weekly, romantic weekend away etc. then I got ceremoniously dumped (by text!!!!) last week as he "wasn't over his ex and didn't want to hurt me!" However, I have really enjoyed reading your very supportive and informative thread so have already rejoined OLD and taking your greatly appreciated advice with me.

I do have a quick question and hope someone can help, when you block someone on Match (as I have Mr Carpenter), can they still see your profile or do you just disappear from their searches etc.?

I don't seem to be meeting people in RL (need new hobbies, don't I?)

And was thinking of trying OL. Has anyone used Classic FM Romance?

I don't really meet people in RL, I'm not working at the moment ( carer to dc2) and I rarely go out, last night was the first time in over a month I went out and I didn't talk to anyone .

Was up until 1am messaging Mr Ginger when I got back, still getting mixed signals, he hints that he wants a serious relationship but he's no good at the romantic stuff, we chat a lot but more about general things ( boring things ).

I have a new man messaging me, I was a bit hesatent to answer, he's not that good looking but he looks fun in his profile, he is a horsey person ( works with horses, rides a lot ) which interests me, I enjoy a day at the races , so eventually I messaged him back and I'm waiting for a reply. I'm not sure if it's a good idea adding more men to my already long list of people I am in contact with , we shall call him 'Mr Horsey' .

Right, I'm off out for the day and to try and have a break from checking POF and UKcupid.

Well I had my date with Mr Extrovert last night and it went very well… kissing ensued and then he said 'so when's our next proper date?'

He seems nice, interesting, extrovert and there were no awkward silences. He also liked me too - the unconventional side.

Bernie welcome to the thread. I used Match Affinity ages ago - I don't know what happens when you block someone. can you email there help pages or find info about it there?

Never Pity you didn't speak to anyone - I had this the other week in a pub at a meet up group but then again from about 9.30 music came on which was what we were there for so it was a bit hard to talk. I think a break from OLD can help. It can get really hard trying to put the effort into looking for people.

Hi all. Newbie here. Have tried OLD over the last couple of months. Joined POF but it was awful so deactivated. Joined Zoosk & have been looking for the last few weeks. It is actually quite depressing. The choice is desperately bad & the very few decent looking men have totally ignored me when I've messaged (not a confidence boost).

I am suspicious of men who are in their 40's and are single with no children. One guy messaged me & wanted me to meet him that evening for a drink & became quite aggressive because I wasn't messaging him straight back. Blocked him.

Another guy I messaged because I thought I recognised him and he did respond but it was like pulling teeth. I had to ask him loads of questions, he didn't ask me anything. Not bothered with him.

And then a third guy who messaged me & seemed quite nice but I didn't find his picture attractive.

So I have now deactivated that account as well.

Tbh I am a bit confused. Split from stbxh at the beginning of the year, so not that long ago. I am gagging for sex . I didn't think I had much of a sex drive whilst married but it turns out I just didn't want to have sex with him!! However, I cannot comprehend having a ONS. I have not been with anyone else for 16 years, my self confidence is very low, I have put on a lot of weight in the last few years (16-18) & can't imagine showing anyone my lumpy body.

So I am conflicted, I would love to feel warm & fuzzy about someone but the thought of intimacy horrifies me.

And the pool of men in my age range and area is shockingly bad. Some of the profile pictures I have seen are horrendous. Double chins, nostrils, slumped in a chair in a dirty room, arms folded looking grumpy etc.

I don't get out much or have contact with many people as I work from home, my team are in the U.S., I have kids, my friends are all married or in relationships so I turned to OLD.

Sorry this is so long.

Please give me advice before I blow a potentially lovely relationship. I have been separated from my STBXH only 7 months but in reality the marriage had been over for years. I met a guy OLD 10 weeks ago. Everything is going great and I have high hopes. Both us us have baggage but we have been very supportive of each other. We live more than an hour apart and he is a single parent to late teens one of whom has serious health issues. As a result we don't see each other as much as we'd like (maybe 2 evenings a week).
I understand his family commitments and that his kids come first. I have been very patient and accommodating about last minute changes of plans and he is very appreciative of that.
We had arranged to spend the day together tomorrow. He then had opportunity to pursue his hobby in the morning so asked if I minded if he arrived in pm. He has very little time to himself and works hard so I was happy to agree to that.
He was due to take DDS 19 to dinner tonight or we would have been together tonight. She cancelled at the very last minute and asked him to take her out tomorrow instead. He has agreed to that so I am now left on my own tomorrow.

I feel quite let down and upset. Of course I understand that hid DDS comes first but she is an adult, messed him around this evening and I think he could have just told her she has plans.

I told him that I was going to make other plans for tomorrow and I received the text 'okay xxx'

Am I being unreasonable? I feel that I have been very patient. Sometimes the cancellations have been completely understandable but I feel tomorrow he should have put us first.

I tend to get a bit wound up and I'm worried that I may end the relationship and regret it. On the other hand I don't always want to be last on his list of priorities. I had that for decades in my marriage.

In every other way he is lovely. He is kind and treats me very well and there is great chemistry between us.

Should I be more patient?

Sorry this is long.

Hi Balders quick message from another OLDer not having massive success

I think you're looking in the wrong place for what you need.

(Meant to say, quick message because I'm just heading out...)

I'd say you've only known him 10 weeks - of course he is going to put his daughter first. And 19 year olds change plans at a moments notice with no thoughts for others.