Step inside it's the Dating Thread 92!

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I'm not one for songs Or starting threads I saw the last one was full.

I shall post The Rules shortly:)

Never - great you met Mr Ginger at long last. I think if you're not sure there's a spark on the first date that's not a bad thing (you did only see him for an hour). I would meet him again. I thought originally you weren't after anything serious anyway?!

Broken I agree with Never re being happy on your own but also if you're not happy in your own skin and with life it can come across that way online.

minmooch that sounds awful re your son and then the husband… and then your mum. doesn't life deal us some tough cards sometimes? Its true re making the most of things too. when I was temping on a much lower salary and then the permanent job I got a low salary too I had to like minmooch make the most of things and see friends who understand me and also the lack of no money. I also agree with the small steps too.

interesting re OKCupid this afternoon got a couple of men messaging me but most outside my age range… but interesting seeing what is out there.

I'm not really looking for anything too serious, I want to take things very slow if I do feel a spark, I think Mr Ginger feel is the same as me, I think he's a bit scared to get into another relationship but he misses having someone to talk too and share things with. I'm not sure what will happen next, he has messaged me to say he enjoyed being with me.

Never

sounds good if he's on the same page as you re enjoyed being with you.

I think that tomorrow I'm going to have my first date in about 14 years.

Myturn bloody hell - how are you feeling? I'd be 100% nervous or just don't care… as what is the worst that could happen?

Good luck Myturn, I wasn't that nervous on my first date, I seem to be getting worse with each one, I guess it's a bit 'here we go again' kind of thing and knowing it probably won't go that well. I looked at the first one as a practice run.

Feeling very strange. It's just under a week since I met someone on a first date - I posted just after the date saying how excited I was. We've had two more dates since then and that extreme lust and excitement has completely disappeared. Now where did it bloody go, eh? Where?

Notnow

You can meet someone think its all going swimmingly just as suddenly it deflates, its confusing, if you're not feeling it, may be time to move on.

Onwards and upwards as they say.

Evening all, hope everyone is OK.

never do you think you'll be seeing Mr Ginger again? It sounds as though he doesn't want to rush into anything either? Could be promising!

myturn good luck! I hope it goes well for you. Where are you going to meet him?

I'm still seeing Mr First Date. He invited me to 'a bbq with a few mates' which turned into an all-nighter with half the village I don't know where this is going - I sometimes have to pinch myself to check it's all real and can't believe he's not sick of me yet - but he's lovely and kind and I'll just have to see how it goes

Thanks What'sfordinner - glad to hear it does happen to others and I'm not just a heartless monster! On Sunday and Monday I was all keyed up and feeling that I must marry him and have his babies, by Wednesday I was thinking he was a bit ugly and wasn't chemistry a strange and wonderful thing and by Friday/Saturday I was just thinking he was a bit ugly. The whole glamour of it has just...gone. Oh well. Perhaps, despite appearances, I am in fact a man.

Minimooch I'm so sorry for the loss of your son and your mother and I am so glad that in spite of the very difficult things you have had to sadly experience that you can not only find some way to carry on, but to be positive too.

Never the date with Mr. ginger sounds like it went well. Do you think you'll see him again?

Myturn wow! Good luck! I had my first date in 12 years a couple of months ago. I was super nervous, mainly that he wouldn't fancy me as was a size 14-16 then, more a 16. But he did and we saw each other for a bit. I've not dated anyone else, but I don't think I'd be so nervous now.

Nora it sounds like it's going great! I'm sure he's probably thinking the same.

I am still texting Mr. farmer, but not every day, and I'm not even sure if we'll meet now. He's very busy workwise and I'm not sure he's really that interested and I'm not sure i can be bothered anymore.

Have been messaging a few guys, but started messaging Mr. lawyer yesterday and we spend almost all day messaging. He had emailed me first thing this morning and then a few more times after I replied and then we did a voice call for an hour on Skype tonight and them messaged for another 90 mins. Oh, gosh, he's very lovely and he has a very sexy voice. I crazily feel like I fancy him like mad already and he says he feels the same way about me, despite not having met. He's otherwise very sensible, normal, polite and nice. He's away at least for the week but we are going to try and Skype again tomorrow night and hopefully meet up when he gets back.

I think it's quite common for feelings to change after a few dates, has happened to me.

Mr Ginger has asked to see me again which is great (I think) but im not sure when it will be, took so long to sort out the first date due to him working all the time and family commitments, im not sure if I can hang around waiting for a month to see him again . I do like him but whilst waiting I will probably meet someone else. He has messaged me already this morning but just to moan about be tired and having to work, I don't think he's going to be the romantic type, he talks about himself a little too much.

I might meet Mr Tubby this week if im brave enough . I am meant to be going to see Mr 2 hours away next weekend, he wants me to go and stay for a night (at a hotel or at his ) but I have told him it probably won't happen as I have never left the dc for a night? He is very understanding and said he can wait as he doesn't want me stressing about the dc's. He messages me all day every day, very full on but seems really kind, probably too kind.

Nora that sounds great re Mr First Date - I like those sort of relationships where they start off nice and normal and stay that way!

I am currently messaging an older guy (silver fox?) on OK Cupid and a nice younger man. oh and also a Jewish man who seems funny. so many idiots out there though. Mr Picnic texted me last night (I've been really daft not said anything just avoided) so I think I will have to say I am not interested. I stalled saying I was busy all weekend etc.

Midori to be fair even though its busy farming season I think if a man really wants to meet you he will.

re Mr Lawyer - well that sounds far more promising - watch out for the too much chemistry but a nice meet up sounds good.

Never - I'd watch out re Mr Ginger if he talks about himself too much and moans - that would grate on me after a while!

Mr Tubby sounds a good meet up - I did once meet someone years ago OLD who was larger (he'd sent pics and I thought he was his good looking friend) - in fact when we went on a date he was very good company and was a friend for a while.

Mr 2 hours away sounds great if you want the physical side - again if he's very full on and too kind that would start to grate on me after a while!

notnow to be honest if the excitement etc has gone after 2 dates it is probably a sign it's not a keeper.

I'm getting a perverse kick out of seeing men get angry. One who comes up in my search has changed his title to, "Are there any women here with a soh ffs" and added, "Oh don't bother replying if ur gonna ignore me after a few messages there's good girl" to his profile.

I can't begin to wonder why women might start ignoring him.

Another favourite title, "You want some?!"

I haven't clicked to read further.

Place marking shamelessly I'm new to all this!

ah so far on OKCupid have seen 2 profiles one with 50 shades of grey stuff… the other think he's a policeman and he bangs on literally about sex, names for women's parts, sex etc… what a bloody turnoff!

Myturn so far most men have been polite to me - though I got 'endearing' as a compliment today… i'm not a soft cuddly bunny rabbit LOL

Bouncealine don't be scared off by all our talk.

Welcome to the thread Bouncaline.

Superfly I wonder what this thread looks like to newcomers, it's quite different to any of the other OLD or dating threads. I think you're right about Mr.Farmer tbh. He does live an hour away, but I had mentioned I had a friend nearby I was planning to visit, so although it may be difficult for him, I think he could make time if he wanted to.

Is OKcupid busy? Is it free etc like POF? I've found POF busier and more potentials than Match, but also far more crazies. By far...

Midori yes I wonder what we do look like?! the thread I mean…

If you mentioned your friend surely it's not beyond the realms of his free time to make some time to see you - re Mr Farmer.

OKCupid is very busy and is also free like POF. I think it has it's fair share of crazies like POF too.

Seems a lot of action going on here at the moment!

Mr 5 hrs has reappeared and says he wants a date but after he backed out last time I am not holding my breath

The old guy is still bombarding me with flowers and offers of a month in America I wish he was younger!

How does Fwb work as I dont think I want a full on relationship so was wondering if that might work for me

Ok, back from date #1.

What's a nice, polite way of saying there was no spark blah, blah, blah? Should I just say it, or should I wait for him to get in touch with me first?

Myturn you can you say there was no spark. if you fancy giving him a second chance to see if there was a spark then wait for him to get in touch.

I have just joined okcupid, gave had a few messages already but no one that interesting. POF is dead at the moment ( no one that interesting this week ).

I'm trying to message 4 people at once at the moment and it's a bit tricky.

Mr ginger asking to see me but hasn't got the time to see me ( I think this will start to annoy me ).

Mr policeman is sexting me, I'm slightly shocked but finding it fun. You would have thought a policeman would know better than to send a stranger a photo of his manhood .

Mr 2 hours away sending me boring messages ( same old stuff every night, getting boring )

Mr Tubby who is still waiting for me to arrange a date.

Never ha I rejoined OKCupid yesterday. i think if nothing happening there then will pay (did email doing something as I had an account with them).

Never if Mr Ginger hasn't got the time to see you (can't he make time?) and this will annoy you I'd get rid now.

Sexting is fun but as long as you know it is what it is, is he showing you his helmet then?!

Mr 2 hours away I'd get rid - partly because he's 2 hours away and it's getting boring for you.

do you really want to meet Mr Tubby?!

I've now crossed the accountant at my work off the list. too young.

I'm starting to think Mr Tubby is probably the only normal one , I'm shocked at what Mr Policeman just messaged too me, I gave quite a dirty mind but I think he's just stepped over the line between dirty and filthy. I don't think I can reply to his last text, I'm never going to be able to look at a policeman in the same light.