Step inside it's the Dating Thread 92!

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I'm not one for songs Or starting threads I saw the last one was full.

I shall post The Rules shortly:)

Why what went wrong?

Sounds like the date was good, but unfortunately you weren't his type broken.

Yes, you usually can. You can't tell whether it will turn into a relationship, but you can usually tell whether it definitely won't.

I agree with Bant, be thankful that he was honest, he could have not bothered saying anything and just vanished like most men do. I would rather someone told me 'they didn't want another date ' rather than ignoring me. Move on to the next one .

I think I can tell almost straight away if it's not going to work.

Sorry it didn't work out Broken. Don't take it to heart. It's not you, it's nothing wrong with you, but it just sounds like there wasn't a spark, for either of you. I agree you can't tell if it will work, but I can usually them right away if there's a spark with someone, sometimes before even meeting them, but not often.

Caught Mr Policeman checking out my profile, for those who can't remember, he was one of the first men I was meant to go on a date with ( a couple months ago ) but it never happened, he didn't really put himself out, kind of arranged to meet me and then stopped messaging me. Anyway he has just messaged me on Whatsapp asking if I'm still single. I'm not sure if I should bother replying as he didn't exactly try hard last time, chances are he has a week off work and is bored. Should I reply?

Meeting Mr Ginger tomorrow, he seems quite chilled about it, I'm not sure if I should tell him I am nervous?

never - good luck with the date tomorrow, what have you got planned?
Don't think Mr Policeman sounds worth too much effort it if he flaked out of arrangements before but I guess if he pulls his finger out and you met quickly you could see if there is any connection in real life? Then drop fast if he starts messing you around at that stage?

Broken - have you got any on the backburner at the moment?

A real Ginger only has 2 hours as he's working later so we will probably only have time for a quick drink, he's driving here ( lives a hour away ), I asked him if he was nervous and he said 'very' so I feel a bit better now. Going to drop the kids off at ex's and then decide what I'm wearing.

Mr Policeman was messaging me until late last night ( I fell asleep in the end ), I'm quite about the photos he sent me but also about how fit he is for his age, he's a lot older than me, I don't think I will be meeting him, I think he's after a trophy wife ( though he says he's not ).

Broken, get back online, I find changing my profile a bit attract a few newbies, I do this every couple of weeks and am never short of potential dates or no strings sex ( if I want it ), this weekend has been a bit quite, last weekend I added new photos to my profil and had about 15 men message me, this weekend I only have a couple new messages and no one that interesting but that's ok as I already have 4 men whatsapping me ( last night was hard work as they all messaged at the same time ). I hope my phone stays quite whilst I'm with Mr Ginger for a couple hours.

Ha, 'A real ginger' was meant to say 'Mr ginger'

Ahh, he's running late, so only going to have about a hour with him, probably not long enough to know if I like him or not , why can't any of my dates run smoothly?

Not good never, but at least you will know if there is any chance you could fancy him, I suppose?

sorry not been on for a while but… decided not to see Mr Picnic anymore… not enough of a spark for me.

Mr Marketing tailed off, no contact.

There is no no-one else but I'm not OLD.

broken - I know what you mean about the text - they/he doesn't need to go into so much detail does he. a simple, sorry, we don't click, etc would be better.

Never so are you finally going to be meeting Mr Ginger then?! Mr Policeman I'm not sure I'd give a second chance.

i just signed up to OKCupid and noticed they'd saved my location as USA, no wonder a few hot Americans were viewing my profile! now changed it to UK.

Broken. I thought it was a nice text to receive and don't think he was presumptuous. I have said it before but I think you should take a break from dating/FWB. A man is not going to make it all better. Try and do some nice things for yourself, make your life better for you. If a man comes into your life he should be an added bonus.

broken sounds as if you need a lifestyle cleanse…

there must be some good things in your life or ones you can change.

for an example - my friend who had the boyfriend I posted about here for 7 years (on and off) and then she had a miscarriage. Well she currently tutors foreign students and hosts them in her own home but has done this for a few years and wants a change.

She is planning to rent out her spare room, ditch the students and get a part time job. she also wants to lose weight (she's a size 16-18 I think). she feels so she tells me she needs to be a kick up the bum with doing all the above and it's not easy (she is also the only sibling in a family of 6 who helps to keep an eye on her elderly terminally ill mother) but she has to make moves with this.

I met Mr Ginger , I was very nervous waiting for him but when he turned up orlt was as if we had k ow each other for a while, well I guess we king of have known each other a while as we have been messaging for a month. He was everything I thought he would be, it's the first date I have had where the man has been how I expected. I'm not going to say it went really well, it didn't go badly, im not sure of there's a spark, maybe I would like to see him again. I don't thin it could ever be anything serious due to us both having a bit of baggage and living quite far appart so I'm not sure what will happen next. I am waiting to see if he messages me later or if he disappears like the others have done.

My police man has messaged me today, Mr 2 hours away has messaged me once and asked me to message him later when im not busy. POF gone a bit quiet this weekend.

Broken, I know it's hard, I think you need to use OLD to your advantage, maybe not look for anything serious, I probably ly joined when I was in a bad place and too soon after splitting with ex, I have been hurt by the rejection side of things, I try not to expect anything now, I get a confidence boost from chatting to men but sometimes meeting them is just too much. I think we need to be happy being on our own before looking for for anything too serious.

Sorry for the awful typo's, im on my phone and it has a mind of its own x

Broken I lost my job the day my eldest son was diagnosed with cancer 4 years ago. My second husband of then 5 years walked out on me the day after as he could not face it. Subsequently my son died 18 months ago. I was just beginning to live again when my mum died in April. It has been a horrendous 4 years for me. I decided if I was going to stay here then I have to find a way to live and eventually live love and laugh again. Life is very hard at times, there is no fairness to it and shy things happen. The only thing within our power is to simply make the best if things (as trite as that sounds). I've had very little money in all this time and I have only been able to do part time jobs as I recover from the shit years. But I take a moment each day and try and appreciate things: the chance to sit and have a coffee in the sunshine, a glass of wine at the end of the day, make dinner for myself, even if only an omelet. See friends who understand me and make me laugh I spite of everything and who hold me when I cry. I have started to live again and only at this point have I felt able to embark on dating with some success. I have learnt that when your life is shot and you cannot see any light in it then dating is not the thing to do - unless you are in a strong place it can be soul destroying. Life can and will turn around but you have to take small steps.

Sorry for my typos too.

I'm afraid I really disagree with Never if you are in a bad place OLD is the last thing you should do.

Glad you finally met Mr Ginger Never even if no spark.