Friend's DH Dry Humping a 'friend'

[AgainstTheWind]

A good friend of mine needs advice and she's aware I am posting on here.

She has just found out her DH has been 'dry humping' a friend of his during which they fantasise about fucking each other. It's happened about a dozen times according to the DH.

He slipped up he had been round this friend's house when he had previously said he was working and my friend was suspicious. She asked about it and her DH admitted he fancied the friend and my friend demanded to see his phone which he eventually reluctanctly showed her.

She said it's clear from the texts they haven't had actual sex. He met this friend the other day and texted her afterwards saying he would love to fuck her for real but he can't.

I've told my friend he has still cheated on her but she's not sure if it warrants splitting up over. They've got kids in their late teens who still live at home.

I've said it is her decision and how she feels about it but she thinks it would be helpful to know how serious people consider it. He denys it's an emotional affair and has done the normal minimalising crap.

Of course this is an affair and them stopping short of dtd is just as bad from his pov as he clearly states he really wants to.
Your friend should show him the door and not stand in his way then.
So sad, what a wanker.

Sorry the thought of being dry humped at my age makes me feel sick.... I don't believe a word of what he's said. And I also don't believe it's the first OW. His argued "conscience" makes me think this is quite practised.

And even if im wrong and it was the first, were was it going to end? Would they still be dry humping in 10 years time? Would he have got it out of his system and gone back meekly to being the loving husband? Or more likely as he got away with it would he be on the second or third or fourth OW.

My very first LTB im afraid

Sorry but every time I read the words 'dry humping' I can't help but laugh. What a catch he is!

There's a film where Justin timberlake does it to Cameron Diaz, bad teachers I think.

Nobody dry humps for six months surely

Yes, the mistress would surely ask what's in it for her. Unbelievable.

Oh I did this with a guy I was not quite seeing, about 12 years ago, as a late teen. It was great! Orgasm inducing, actually.

If you are rubbing uglies with someone and giving them an orgasm, and that person is not your partner, you're cheating. It's a very intimate act.

"Nobody dry humps for six months surely"

There's probably some 1990's R'n'B star still at it somewhere.

I don't see nothing wrong......

How about a little slap and tickle..,

Good one to travertine

How big of him to let his WIFE know that pretty much fucking another woman "doesn't warrant splitting up" over.

Why do people get so caught up in if it was full sex or not to decide if its an affair? I don't dry hump my friends, doing sexual things with other women, of basically anything innaproproate or that he wouldn't do with a guy friend is cheating.
Her husband is really fucking weird. He justified it in his head by telling himself if it wasn't actual sex it doesn't count. Wouldn't be long before he'd justify sex anyway by saying its not so different to what they're doing etc etc.

Any one thing out of texting another woman saying he wants to fuck her, lying for six months and fondling/groping/dry humping another woman would be enough to leave over. All of them combined is an affair and not something I could ever forgive or forget, kids or no kids.

This is just so weird.

Unless his name is Fido he really hasn't been just dry humping for 6 months.

In what world is that not an affair?

Travertine

m.youtube.com/watch?v=0I4Nt8mbGUM

Just tried dry humping DH and he just pee'd himself laughing and called me strange! I may LTB.

He is talking BS

Is this for real?

Dryhumping? Making out like teenagers? Yes, that rarely stays chaste. To even go that far shows the normal barriers of what is done with people who arentyour partner were breaking down. He might not have actually fucked her, but eventualy, he will fuck her or another. He just got caught before that stage was reached.

Is the mistress quite young or are they all the same age?

I only ask because there's a "game" at the moment where couples dry hump and record the time they can last for before ditching the clothes and having sex. I think it's mostly drunken people and I have no idea why it's a thing, but I was talking about it last weekend when a sitting with a Buzzfeed writer who was penning an article about it. I wonder if they've got it from there? It's such a weird outdated thing to do otherwise. Who suggested it and why wasn't the other person really confused?

I'd look at someone quizzically if they tried to dry hump me.

denial denial denial, bullshit bullshit bullshit. He's avoiding any apology by not telling her the truth; he is having an affair. Doesn't matter if his pants haven't come off yet. Bet they have anyway, sorry but you can't spend all that time dry humping and not want to go the whole hog or at least fondling with eachother. Which is basically what dry humping is: mutual masturbating.

It doesn't really matter if they had sex or not. They're having sexual contact = they're having a sexual relationship.
It's pretty low that he's claiming some moral advantage because he hasn't actually had PIV, and trying to deny her the natural reaction of feeling hurt and betrayed.