Hook up sites

[NoMoreMrRight]

So, been single for three years following my divorce. A very high sex drive, and I've been online dating (POF, Match etc) for about two years. Completely fed up of the bad manners, fickleness even when trying to find a FB.... I read earlier another thread about someone looking for NSA sex and some posters recommended going down the hook up site route as it apparently there's a lot less messing around etc..

I have tried POF etc in the past searching for 'only sex/something casual' profiles but although I got a FB for a couple of months out of it, it was still the same BS as when trying to find a relationship.

So, any recs for hook up/casual sex sites? Ideally one where I can just post some headless full body length pictures and then privately message the ones showing my face to any potentials (I live in a small village and I rather be discrete about all this).

Thanks in advance

I think that all i WOULD be interested in the first time is a drink and a chat! I gather that these places are genuinely friendly and care about their clientele, which is why I'd rather go there than meet someone via the internet.

rambunctious I have been thinking about going to a club but I find it nearly impossible to go into a put on my own never mind a swingers place ! but it does appeal. Especially if you don't have to join in if you don,t want to.

Now if there was someone on this thread who lived in Manchester ..... (even better if they were big and droopy like me :)

This fab swingers sounds a laugh :)

It's a money making site like the rest though. Men aren't allowed to message new women members unless they pay.

Ah, we get the best perks in these sites!

A lot of people turn up in ordinary clothes and bring something with them to change into. The women tend to make more of an effort than the men! If you're unsure, I'd say bring a bag with a couple of outfits that you like in it - maybe one sexy but 'normal' outfit (like a black dress and heels, maybe) and something more fetishwear if you like that, and you can decide when you get there if you want to change. If there's a dress code, the website should tell you. You can probably contact the organisers in advance as well...explain you're new, interested but also a bit nervous, and they will be happy to look after you! You'll probably find a number of other newbies or near newbies when you get there...

It's something quite erotic this like a fantasy but not sure I'd go

Think it's free for everyone, although you can upgrade to membership to get additional functionality; same for singles and couples I believe. No jeans to a club, smart black trousers/skirt and blouse absolutely fine, same as any nightclub environment.

CeeCee - not my area soz but townhouse in wirral is supposed to be of the best run clubs in UK. Even has MILF mondays during school hours for those who can't do evenings, its own sexual health clinics on site and other events.

Then go for it rambunctious If you don't like it then leave and don't feel pressured into anything. A drink & chat is how a lot of the uninitiated got involved.

avoiretre I was with you until you brought size/unattractiveness into it. Single women do have the pick of the bunch but why can't someone be attractive at a size 20? I don't mean to nit-pick but I'd rather you steer clear of denigrating women for what they are.

I first went to one a few years ago and I was petrified. To this day I don't know how I got out of my car and even walked in there. I thought I was going to faint at any moment. I got through it by telling myself I was going in to look around and if at any point I felt unsafe or uncomfortable, I would just walk out, get in my car and drive away. I remember being careful to reverse into my parking space so I could drive out really fast and imagining running over a load of crazy, drooling, would-be rapists...

It turned out to be one of the most relaxing places I've ever been to. I was very sure I didn't want to participate in anything my first time, just wanted to watch and get the lie of the land. I had a lot of offers to join in, but every time I said I was flattered but it was my first time and wasn't ready just yet, people accepted it. They did still continue to ask, but always respectfully. I had to take a couple of men's hands off my zip, but only ever once, and they didn't try again after I'd gently told them no. In fact they were very apologetic and wanted to make sure they hadn't offended me.

Some people go for the first time just to look around, like I did, and then find they are enjoying themselves and decide to join in. Some people just take in the atmosphere at first. There are usually film rooms so on my first time I had a nice time lolling on a sofa watching some porn films (I remember being surprised at how tame they were, really), chatting with people while a few lovers rolled on the floor giving a live show at the same time. It's obviously not for everyone, and that's fine, but I found being in a place with no judgments, no pressures, just honest people enjoying themselves and each other to be a really, really positive experience...and I've since gone back and to other places and participated. It always leaves me feeling very chilled and very loving.

So, Avorietre .. a size 20 and unattractive going hand in hand? Really? Will you care showing us your six-pack please? .

So glad now that I decided against responding to your creepy PM....

Since this discussion has now veered onto the topic of swingers clubs, I thought it would be a good time to invite people to look at this link from a previous thread ( originally started in S&B of all places...)

Lots of helpful info here...

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/style_and_beauty/1992360-What-does-one-wear-to-a-swingers-club

BeenWondering...I don't particularly care what you think I should "steer clear" of. Some of the profiles on there are so shockingly arrogant and up their own backside, clearly because women are used to being fawned over and chased on such sites. It is a fact that many of them would be of little interest to most men in the real world, whether a small number would disagree or not. I'm sure many females simply enjoy an ego trip too and other profiles may be totally fake as mentioned earlier.

Oh dear this thread is turning into a bit of a bunfight now...

It was doing quite well for a surprisingly long time...until the hotel argument and now this...

I've been a member of Fab for a few years and have also been to lots of swingers/ fetish clubs. If anyone has any questions but doesn't want to post on this thread please feel free to send me a pm.

Destiny, that sounds like an open invitation, don't be surprised if you get a few strange PM's!

avoir, this thread took an off tone because of your comments

Happy to share my experience. I understand if people are a bit nervous about exploring this side of life but I've mainly had very positive and enjoyable experiences. Was v nervous initially tho!

It is a fact that many of them would be of little interest to most men in the real world

Thanks avoiretre - You are obviously the arbiter of what men want.

Anyway, I hope this thread continues as it has been a real eye-opener to some and a great source of information to many.

Try Craigslist

I tried Craigslist and came away feeling gross. In fact I reported one user who included a picture of his cock bulging out of white, child-like panties and an extremely graphic fantasy of a father abusing his little girl. I wouldn't wish craigslist on my worst enemy.

That sounds horrendous CtrlAlt

Have any of you communicated using Kik?

Just trying it now, thanks for the suggestion. Is it better than Tinder?