Hook up sites

[NoMoreMrRight]

So, been single for three years following my divorce. A very high sex drive, and I've been online dating (POF, Match etc) for about two years. Completely fed up of the bad manners, fickleness even when trying to find a FB.... I read earlier another thread about someone looking for NSA sex and some posters recommended going down the hook up site route as it apparently there's a lot less messing around etc..

I have tried POF etc in the past searching for 'only sex/something casual' profiles but although I got a FB for a couple of months out of it, it was still the same BS as when trying to find a relationship.

So, any recs for hook up/casual sex sites? Ideally one where I can just post some headless full body length pictures and then privately message the ones showing my face to any potentials (I live in a small village and I rather be discrete about all this).

Thanks in advance

I met a lovely ex on Fab - he moved away with work - and we used to give each other joke veris. Quotes from films, exaggerated claims of prowess and the like. Having a partner in crime was a right laugh!

And I thought it was only me and mate who used to do the fake verifications.... :)

Good times!

Well I have a feeling my charming older gentleman friend is married-2 phones, one work one personal but he's a nurse? No texting on his night off and a few other wee things. Going with my instincts and leaving him to it.
Deleted my account, it's really now for me but good luck you OP x
Have fun stay safe x

Just back from my meet, it went well. Very friendly easy to talk to guy, not as incredibly hot as his pictures but still very attractive. Sat for a bit in a fairly empty park and he did some arse grabbing . He also showed me some more pictures and a couple of videos ... a slightly bizarre situation as it reminded me of someone showing you their holiday snaps . He wants to meet next weekend to play.

So, it looks like first meet has been a success and hopefully will lead to some really fun time next weekend . Chatting to another 'candidate' and we're meeting for a quick coffee next week during the day with views to meeting up at the weekend too if things are good .... feeling greedy but oh so turned on that these hot men want me

It's a lovely ego boost, isn't it?

Are you going to meet in a neutral place, e.g. hotel? I wouldn't go to anyone's house at this point or invite them to mine, not until you've had a good few play dates with them.

Mmm... I was planning on asking them to come over to mine (as with a normal 'dates' I would be passing on their details to a trusted and he would be checking with me mid evening). Really a bad idea then? It seems a hassle having to book a hotel, as well as the expense when we both have free nice places to go to....

Your choice - my safety boundaries are set very high. I would not give anyone my address (whether met through hookup or "normal" dating) until I knew them a bit better. In a hotel, there's always someone within earshot if you scream, there's security, and CCTV cover.

That's me though, and as I say I set my boundaries very high. Otherwise I can't relax enough for sex.

POF and the like are hook up sites. Sorry. Even Facebook is.

That's not true Improbable, I (and many others) have had long term relationships out of POF etc. Definitely not just a hook up site.

what's' up bee ?

Nomore, I really wouldn't invite him to your house.

To be fair any place or any medium can be a source of a LTR or just a hook-up. Facebook, POF, fabswingers, the work place, the supermarket etc. I even once read a couple met on Twitter then went on to get married. Even though I could never imagine such a scenario for me, it is quite plausible for many others.

NoMore It doesn't sound like this is a first for you but I still echo the proceed with caution approach. Whether you're doing this once or have done it hundreds of times safety is always paramount.

Thanks AF ..... going to his then? I guess that way it's easier to get out of the situation if for some reason I'm uneasy about things. I really can't afford a hotel (or half of it) so not sure how to best handle things.....

Facebook is a hookup site?! And all this time I've just been playing silly games and posting pictures of my cat, now you're telling me I could have been banging hot men! Damn

Pocket

Thank you Susie. Yes I definitely trust my gut feeling 100%, it's always been spot on. A veteran on online dating, out of over 40 dates I have never had a bad one due to being wised up on red flags etc. So I'll suggest meeting at his to start with, thank you all for your advice on that.

Have another coffee date lined up next week now with a guy who specialises in Tantric massage; I am extremely stressed, I could do with one of those ever couple of weeks . He's French and stays in London every two weeks at a hotel so that eliminates the dilemma of where to stay as I would be getting a babysitter, only midweek days (and yes, I asked whether he's married; said no and I'm aware that he could be lying of course but what's the point to do so with him being from abroad?)

You are a braver woman than me. I registered on fab about a year ago. Gots tons of messages as soon as a joined as well as information from a lovely man who let me know the way to keep myself safe. He also said not to go with the first flush of messages and find my way around.
He never suggested meeting so I just took it that I wasn't his type.

Then I got cold feet and apart from looking every now and again I haven't taken it any further.
I have tried on-line dating but that is just not for me, had a 'friend' for a couple of years (came to a natural end) and the thought of never having sex again is not a happy one.

Must look at my profile of Fab !!!

Ceecee you should definitely have a try again. I'm being super selective and either they follow my rules or I'm out. Do you remember any of the advice re keeping safe? I'm fairly seasoned due to having done online dating for a while (and reading MN!) but would be good to hear.

I have been on POF for a few weeks, have had many offers for sex, didn't go on there looking for sex but I'm now thinking it could be fun. I'm meeting up with someone on Sunday ( there won't be much tea drinking or walking in the park ). I was looking for a serious relationship, didn't expect many people to message me, I'm now enjoying all the attention and it's boosting my confidence as well as feeding the need for sex.

All you need to do is put a headline on your profile saying 'looking for some fun' ( or something similar ) and the messages flood in.

I've got my first meet arranged from the site. Is it polite to offer to pay for a hotel?

Good lord no1
women can get no strings sex easily, you shouldnt have to pay for anything, dont act as if he's doing you a favour

Nevergoingtolearn Yes, the messages do flood in but please keep in mind that not all attention is good attention. I'm reminded of wheat/chaff...

avoiretre That rather depends on both your circumstances - are either of you having to travel extensively or make childcare arrangements etc. If you are able to offer with no ill-will then offer away.

038THETA Who said anyone here is paying? Or have I missed something? As far as I understood it was two (or more) consenting adults. Point me to the post that says anything about paying. And as far as not acting as if he's doing you a favour I'd suggest that they are both doing each other a favour. No strings, everyone knows what it's about, it's convenient and everyone's happy.

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