Hook up sites

[NoMoreMrRight]

So, been single for three years following my divorce. A very high sex drive, and I've been online dating (POF, Match etc) for about two years. Completely fed up of the bad manners, fickleness even when trying to find a FB.... I read earlier another thread about someone looking for NSA sex and some posters recommended going down the hook up site route as it apparently there's a lot less messing around etc..

I have tried POF etc in the past searching for 'only sex/something casual' profiles but although I got a FB for a couple of months out of it, it was still the same BS as when trying to find a relationship.

So, any recs for hook up/casual sex sites? Ideally one where I can just post some headless full body length pictures and then privately message the ones showing my face to any potentials (I live in a small village and I rather be discrete about all this).

Thanks in advance

Well, don't be afraid to bin him if he becomes pushy... as a PP mentioned as single females we seem to be in high demand on that site so can afford to be choosy. Very refreshing to hold all (most of) the power for once

have none of you ladies messaged avoiretre ?

I admit I'm posting just so it comes up in my threads so I can see how you get on, on Friday NoMoreMrRight!

Thus'll have to be a vicarious thread for me but i I were single I'd be having a look too

Haha AF! Now, that would be interesting ....... Avoiretre feel free to PM your username

I'll be sure to update Whirpool but nothing will be happening on Friday, as I only have one hour before I'm due to collect DC from the childminder. He's asked whether they'll be some kissing involved ...... told him only if I like him .

I've been so badly messed around by idiots/vanishers/fickles doing online dating in the past few years that it's so refreshing to just have all the cards on the table, no silly mind games going on either. Should have thought of doing this much earlier!

do take care, won't you ? (men too)

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I didn't mean for details of sexcapades! Even just that you met up and what he was like would be exciting

As a single female you can afford to be picky, so be picky and check out feedback etc.

Good tip about checking out those that have given them feedback, thank you. Also definitely staying away from those with dozens of feedback comments.

Another candidate I'm going to be meeting next week for coffee..... it seems like my next DC free weekend might end up being a corker!

Suggest don't be overly put off by lots of veris. Can be a social vanilla gathering which just lets you know they are real! Do read the veris to get an idea of the person although members can choose not to show ones that show them in a poor light.
Do be picky and you decide the pace. Go for 6 meets and don't kiss or play on first date. The whole underpinning ethos is you make up the rules to suit you and no-one else. Totally refreshing and liberating.
Re guys looking for couples - that's often because they give up on finding a single female. Having said that a lot of swinging ladies are bi-curious and it's likely you will get invites from couples too. That does mean you are expected to play bisexually. Threesomes and more are part of the scene! It's a whole smorgasbord of opportunities. Just choose the bits that interest you. Have fun.

Agree with the others, single females on fab are like gold dust so dont out up with crap. Also it might be worth downloading kik. Its a messaging app that doesnt use email address or phone Number.

I found adultfriendfinder good and then went to ALT.com for a kinky period I had, "Girls date for free" lead to a FB relationship but this was 8-9 years ago!

Has a 'social' meet with my older gentleman friend, great kisser!! Can't believe I've done this!

Has or had?

Just happy for you. Keep a sense of humour and perspective and all will be well. x

Quick question for the uninitiated... I assume everyone uses a condom right?

Good luck OP, nothing as sexy as a woman who knows what she wants and goes after it!

There's all sorts of "bareback" bravado, but also a lot of attention seeking, so who knows? I'll be using one if I meet anyone!

Sorry had!

You would be pretty stupid not to use a condom

men outnumber women by at least 10 to one, very possibly more on hook up sites, the women are used as 'bait' by the site owners to get the men to keep paying the fee's

www.japantoday.com/category/crime/view/execs-arrested-from-scam-dating-sites-that-had-2-7-mil-users-and-only-one-female-member
this is an extreme example, but UK based sites operate along similar lines, with many fake female profile, the men are lured in by adds on free porn site
'mature women in your area want no strings sex RIGHT NOW'

Obviously with such a lot of choice women can have a field day but there is a lot of chaff to sort through!

Always take some condoms with you to a meet (or have them on hand at home) especially if you need latex-free or sensitive or whatever.

I always put up front in my profile "Condom use is a must, no exceptions". You'll still get some guys who'll try to blag it.

BTW failure to maintain an erection when using a condom is a good sign they're still married (or very inexperienced) - if they've been shagging bareback for 15 years, condom sex can feel a bit weird, apparently.

I always found it useful to talk to men on skype before doing the meeting for coffee thing, that way you get to find out in advance that they used 10 year old profile pictures

True, theta, they're continually trying to get you to pay fees etc and I'm sure this is encouraged by fake female profiles in some cases. I've never paid and never will, so there's no problem on that point.
Interesting point pocket, it has its pros and cons...!

Yes avoiretre, that's exactly what I'm referring to, all that 'bareback' bragging. Surely that's a turn off! I mean they could be having sex with any number of people!
I wonder if any relationships have ever been borne out of these sites, surely you'd never be able to trust your dp as a result of how you met.

Exactly, it's very much a turn off to me, the same as the ones with several "verifications" and sexual "interests" listed. Maybe I'm just too vanilla!
I wonder the same, but I don't think it would be insurmountable. Lots of relationships survive where one or both were cheating at the start (and the other knew about it).