do all mners hate their mILS

[TheHighwayCod]

think you lot are real cows tbh

ther are hardly any nice htreads abotu them
y ou all LOVE their sons so they cant have don that badly

That's really interesting.
I love my Mother, but she is infuriating sometimes. She totally dominates my brother though, she can't seem to let him go. His poor girlfriend can't do anything right. I wouldn't like her as my MIL I'm afraid.

No mine is fab.

Kids love her, always takes my side over my dh (her blue eyed boy) and never pokes her nose in when not wanted. Cant complain.

no...I like mine

I don't have anything in common with her
She is mired in smalltalk mode, and nothing interesting (or heartfelt) ever gets said, it's sad
Also feel disappointed that neither she nor FIL are really that interested in the children
But things could be worse

I do like my FMIL but at times she is quite difficult. She is v.formal and sensible and sadly I am not so sometimes we don't see eye to eye she thinks I am a bit frivilous.

But she loves her son very much and I suspect later on when I have children she will be a wonderful ally (sp) and very very supportive of my choices, whereas I don't know if my own mum will be.

I love my inlaws. They were, both of them, so wonderously excited at the prospect of becoming grandparents that they would do anything to make the relationship work. Given that dh was 34 and I was his first serious girlfriend, they had more or less given up on grandchildren.

They take their grandaughter overnight on average once a fortnight, they take us on holiday, we eat Sunday lunch with them every week and madam visits her grandparents usually at least one other time during the week.

They don't interfere, but they do indulge her. Which I think is OK because that's what grandparents are for. They have the most marvelous relationship with dd. Yesterday we left the three of them lying on the floor, stringing beads while dh and I were allowed to sneak off for an hour or so of adult time.

Am I gushing? I know I'm lucky.

I dont hate my MIL, I just wont speak to her and will leave home for the days she visits.

haven't got one to hate

My MIL is lovely but I do find that having NO family in the UK does make it very easy to get on with everyone

I just feel pity for my mil really her life revolves around herself and her dog,anything else doesn't interest her.DH told fil he was going to be a grandad over the phone on fri and we went round on sat.She didn't mention it,fil said to me I believe congrats are in order and she just said there you go!WTF does that mean?

I have a great MIL, very supportive and has always done as I have asked with the kids when she has them to stay (not that I am very strict and if she wants to feed them icecream all day that's her right as Granny, I reckon - I mean things like naps and reasonable bedtime). She is def from different era/background (dh and his bros went away to school at 7) but she married v young and just did what was expected of her. I guess becasue she doesn't have a daughter of her own, she is enjoying having her dil's in her life. It's nice. Yes, there are times when she plays the matriarch card a bit too heavily, but hey, live and let live. FIL is lovely too, and adores the grandchildren - will do anything for them.

frazzle - is it her 1st grandchild? If so, it may be that she will fall in love once baby's here. My MIL was quite taken aback when I announced ds1 was on the way - she was adamant she was not ready to be a granny (she's also mad on dogs!). Quite funny now as she is totally in love with all 6 of her gcs, she just needed to meet the first one and then the floodgates were open.

I intensely disliked my MIL until this year. She has never taken an interest in the children and would come to the UK to come shopping (lives in Spain) but didn't make any attempt to see us. Her comment when I was trying to explain about DD's SN was "I would have been too busy to notice things like that when mine were little" .

However, she was diagnosed with cancer of the esophagos this year and she very nearly didn't make it, she couldn't eat for weeks and weeks and I think was probably just a few days off dying. DH & his siblings were completely floored and couldn't really cope, so I suddenly found myself in the position of fighting to keep her alive.

Staring death in the face has changed her dramatically,she has had a good chance to rethink her priorities, is really grateful for a second go at things and has pretty much admitted that she has cocked things up badly up to now. I have a lot more respect for her now and think that she might finally be a welcome part of our lives instead of a photo of a woman who the children don't know.

Dont hate mine, they are there and part of the family, same as my parents. Try not to spend too much time with either set of parents.

I love my MIL - she is funny, thoughtful, generous, honest, totally dependable.

with a vengeance
Lucky you Cod

my mil is lovely

No wilbur it's her 3rd.(and mine)

I get on very well with my pil. Don't always understand their logic, and some of things they do (or don't do) frustrate me, but I know they think the world of dh, ds and me, and would do anything for us.

Can relate more to mil since having ds, as one day I will be her shoes.

I've only met mine once. She won't speak to dh since they fell out about 8 years ago. She has mental health problems and can bear grudges like noone I've ever heard of. (Dh takes after her here a bit actually which doesn't help ).

Wouldn't come to our wedding, hung up the phone saying why would I care about that when dh phoned to say I was pg with her first grandchild . She's a very bitter, lonely person.

The rest of dh's family are fab though so ds/dd will still have lots of contact & love from that side of the family.

I don't hate her (except for the day when dh was in tears because of her hanging up the phone on him about my pregnancy) and I do think she's hurting herself more than she hurts us. I feel sorry that she can't move on and we've agreed that if she ever changes her mind we'll be happy for her to be part of our child's life although I would worry about her rejecting her grandchild over something trivial as she's rejected her son .

No. But she died six months after our marriage, so I didn't really give her a fair trial. She was a lovely woman but we would never have been close friends - our experiences were very different and she was quite formal in an old-fashioned sort of way. She would have been a lovely grandma to our boys, as she was to her older grandchildren.

I don't. I get on really well with mine. I worked with her for awhile (both teachers).