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do all mners hate their mILS

127 replies

TheHighwayCod · 13/11/2006 09:28

think you lot are real cows tbh

ther are hardly any nice htreads abotu them
y ou all LOVE their sons so they cant have don that badly

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NomDePlume · 13/11/2006 09:36

np, that has made me well up a bit

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TheHighwayCod · 13/11/2006 09:37

aha ti was touching

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danceswithmonkeys · 13/11/2006 09:37

Oh I do really love her and couldn't ask for a better MIL, I find her easier to get on with than my own mum most of the time too.

hulababy · 13/11/2006 09:37

Sorry, reread my post. Should say, I don't hate my inlaws; infact the opposite!

maddiemostmerry · 13/11/2006 09:38

My MIL and FIL were great too.

MIL would kick football round her garden with ds1, even though she could barely shuffle. She died just before ds2 was born.

FIL very understanding man, died when ds2 was six months old.

danceswithmonkeys · 13/11/2006 09:38

and me np

Tortington · 13/11/2006 09:41

i don't hate mine - i just think shes a great example of how not to treat your grown up children and grand children.

it wouldnt be so bad it hink if she was complete shit fucker to me - but she isn;t

when i go back up north they are great welcoming happy to see me etc - and thats nice - i'm glad i feel part of thehe family.

but its the absebse of thought for my husband and my children that kills me.

the blatent "i love my youngest son and his children most" mentality backed up by actions and more hurtfully non action.

but now i live 300 miles away - shes lovely! the above killed me on a daily basis when i loved on the same street as her - and the youngest brother who is favourite.

comments like - they bought their council house - great happy for them seriously genuinlet please they are not wasting their money on shitty credit people who knock at dor - they used to - then she says to me " when we die the house will go to xxxx ( fav grandchild out of 13) yes thats right - she nominated one grandchild out of 13 to be sole beneficiary.

and i genuinley believe that she wasn;t being hurtful - she genuinley forgot in that moment when she told me - that actually three of the grnadchildren were MY children.

apart from that - generally shes ok to me personally.

CatBert · 13/11/2006 09:41

I love my MIL. I really do. She is as different from my mum as it is possible to be. So - I feel like I have a nother for ALL occasions. For instance - she is real no-nonsense. No fussing, no crying for her - EVER! If I ever had a major crisis I feel I would have to call my MIL - as she would just be TOTALLY practical and get things sorted and she is also the woman who MAKES things happen. I loved her phrase recently "so of course I just called the CEO of and caused him to put things right".

My mother would be there with the tears, tissues, tea and sympathy at the end... Fab!

CatBert · 13/11/2006 09:42

(sp) "Mother". of course

Blackduck · 13/11/2006 09:52

My MIL is fine, I just find her a; bit 'weak', my FIL I have more issues with, but thats as much me as him...

Dior · 13/11/2006 09:57

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ComeOVeneer · 13/11/2006 10:00

I get on great with FIL, but MIL is too "in your face" wants to know everyhing that is going on, offers an opinion on everything (whether asked or not). I find it overbearing and suffocating. I am hoping that us moving 50mins away (as apposed to 3mins down the road), will improve the relationship.

coppertop · 13/11/2006 10:03

My MIL's lovely.

MrsMills · 13/11/2006 10:06

i hate my mil with mucho gusto, however when she is good I reward her with golden time with her grandchildren.

Gobbledigook · 13/11/2006 10:09

No I don't hate mine. She is lovely and will do anything for anyone.

Like anyone, she's got her faults but overall I'm happy with the one I got

HuwEdwards · 13/11/2006 10:10

I don't hate mine (not technically MIL as we're not married), but I have learned over the years to be friendly, but keep my distance.

She bitches about every one of her other children's (she has 4) partners to me and I'm under no illusion that she does the same with them about me, especially as I am probably more outspoken than the others. No-one could ever be good enough.

She does however worship her son and my DDs, so I just keep my distance. DP visits her each week with DDs - I join them maybe every 2nd or 3rd week.

Suits her, suits me.

JackieNo · 13/11/2006 10:10

My MIL is lovely. I'm especially grateful when I read on MN about how horrible some can be. It's given me renewed appreciation for her, and FIL.

ledodgyfireworksingedmyeyebrow · 13/11/2006 10:10

My mil is lovely she's very dippy which makes us all laugh with her rather than at her.

eidsvold · 13/11/2006 10:11

I love mine - she is fabulous - feel sad that we are not able to be with her as she struggles to overcome FIL sudden illness and death..... she adores the girls and me and of course dh.

Could not ask for a better mil.

FIMBO · 13/11/2006 10:14

Mine is fab (and fil too).

loujay · 13/11/2006 10:17

I don't hate my MIL, but have had to learn to put up with her funny ways. She means well but likes to take over. Since my Mum died last year I have made a concious effort with my MIL and our relationship has improved 100 %.
Well worth the effort, we are far from seeing eye to eye on some things, but agree on what is important for our families.

JonesTheSteam · 13/11/2006 10:18

My MIL is lovely. Very kind. We get on very well.

My FIL was a lovely man as well - he died about just under 3 years ago. We all miss him dreadfully.

SoMuchToBits · 13/11/2006 10:30

My MIL is great - she is the sort of person I would have chosen for a friend anyway.

However my ex MIL I found really hard to get on with, despite trying hard. I used to think maybe it was me, but now I have had a completely different experience with my present MIL, I know that wasn't the case.

castlesintheair · 13/11/2006 10:55

Both my MIL & FIL are lovely. I pretty much worship at my MIL's feet - she has been my saviour on so many occasions now.

CountessDracula · 13/11/2006 10:55

No mine is fab