I am interested in advice especially from men

[midlifehope]

I have a problem in that I feel I am pulling the weight of 2 people in my family. I have ds aged 3 and am pregnant. I work 3-4 days a week. Ds is in nursery or with dp when I work. However I also end up doing 95% of domestic stuff. Dp doesn't work having
recently taken voluntary redundancy and bought a yacht! He has way more leisure time than me and I am feeling incredibly resentful. Howdo I get him to change. I don't want to ltb Jesuits

I need to wear sanitary towels while a man doesn't, is that what you mean?

You are actually trying to argue that women care more about keeping their houses tidy than men because they get periods, thrush and cystitis?

Have I got that right?

But what about knob cheese?

Yes women have periods and are prone to cystitis and thrush but what has that got to do with having a clean home?

The weird myths that men have about women and their bodies is just bizarre...

Perhaps he means we should use sanitary towels for cleaning...

Some posters on this thread are expressing horrible views, making my stomach turn.

But periods aren't dirty and none of them have anything to do with loading the dishwasher.

can't believe I'm trying to engage logic...

Is it sweaty under boob he means, do you think?

We're also quite hairy...

Come to think of it, I've noticed Men who clean their knobs more than once a week are the same ones who wash up occasionally.
Coincidence? I don't think so.

Perhaps he thinks the self-cleaning womb is akin to an internal dishwasher...

Thus we're biologically programmed to programme dishwashers.

He thinks we spend our whole lives clearing up after our filthy, leaky bodies that we might as well clean the bathroom while we're at it, eh voyage.

I thought some of the men here were trying to argu a reasonable point of view, then I just came along and read all this bizarre stuff about women needing to spend more time cleaning their bodies! I have literally no idea where that comes from. I would have thought that men are smellier than women...

Hummm, then my internals are screwed, my house is a shit tip atm.
Perhaps I'm in the wrong place in my dishwashing cycle. Or something.

Peppermintpasty

Some larger men get sweaty underboob, too.

I'm not a man, but my advice would be to actively solve the problem, without him. My dh didn't do much housework while I was pregnant and studying, so I arranged for a cleaner and explained why to him. I didn't do it resentfully, I just knew he wouldn't get it. In the end the cleaner was crap and he decided he could do a better job. I also like dads advice.

yy to JohnFarley

If your house is so dirty you get typhoid/salmonella, genitalia makes fuck all difference...

Ah, but what about flat chested women JoshL, but I take your point. Maybe big boobed men are really women, but that is a whole other thread.

i also like dads advice - well, your in a small minority then! I'm not even sure I like my advice now I've read more about the OP's partner...

Aagh, you're not your

cancook yeah me too

Some times you get just a little glimpse of how some people actually think. Then I wonder if they learn anything by spending so much time on a predominantly women filled space....

Good point - would their homes be clean, then?

Re: your second point I really really hope not...