The Brave Babes Battle Bus - Shaping Up For A Super, Sober Summer!

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Hey, I'm Mouse

This is 'Gerald', our trustworthy, non judgemental Bus, full of a variety of posters who have travelled long and far, or even just joined us a few stops ago.

This is a place where you can be who YOU want to be. 24/7, 365. This lovely place is just like your best friend, there's no slagging off, no judging, just us.

Drinking or not, embarrassed, fed up of the way things are, or just lonely of living the way drinking makes you do, come and take a peek and see what you think.....

THIS THE LAST THREAD WE HAD

AND THIS IS WHERE THE BUS WAS BUILT, WHERE IT ALL BEGAN

We can't wait to meet you, we won't bite! Well, unless you ask very nicely.

Take good care until we see you. :) xx

Hello gorgeous babes. Woke up really early so been lying in bed trawling through mumsnet. God it's a dark black hole. I've just lost an hour. Pleased to see you're all here. Sane, polite and serious as ever. The world wouldn't be the same without the bus.
I'm still completely sober. Still loving it. Very happy and may drink again when I'm 80. Lots of love to you all xx

So glad I found you all, am going to read through thread tomorrow morning. Day 3 for means half way through Jason Vales's book which I hope is helping. Feeling positive and whilst would so Love to do controlled drinking experience tells me I can't - too many shameless nights and blackouts. Just one question, ive read lots of blogs and posts where people's DH have been supportive etc, whilst taking responsibility for own actions my DH is a big drinker becoming more so staying off the booze will be so difficult for that reason alone, so much wine in the house all the time - hi to all and sorry for me post. Going to read through your stories tonight in a rare sober evening xx

Yo there babes

Welcome to new babes

I'm glad to see that the sanity threshold is as low as ever

You are a disrespectful bunch of trollops! Please bear in mind I could have you all sent to the tower and/or send the boys round!!!
felttip attagirl! Well done
SOC great to see you.
Must go, the coachman is here to take me to work

What a bunch of crazy women!

Welcome to the new Babes! Well done, felt! I know what you mean with greedy. I have now tried Venus' way a few times when out and I mus tell you, still no embarrassing drunk episode.

Good morning and TGIfF!

well, down to a 4 day week with a 20% pay cut. lovely boss leaving.
We stumble onwards.....

I'm really sorry to hear that ma you must be so fed up. Are you staying on?

That really sucks. Actually losing lovely boss is probably the worse bit. Did you expect something like that or something worse?
Bugger,either way.

Hi there all... Love this thread and all its banter. Day 3 and still going strong am nervous about the weekend but want to try and remember it not like last Saturday when I don't even remember what I ate out with an old friend !! It's quite strange .. I suppose that being told I must not drink whilst on these tablets .. Think very nasty repercussions ! Has put me in a place where I have to be strong.. I had no real motive before... Have also downloaded an app on my phone which reminds me to keep going... And shows how many calories and money I am saving ... Good luck everyone for a good weekend

Yeah knew it was coming, and that was the best case scenario. The Board could have decided to just shut up shop but we live in hope that maybe things will pick up. Lovely boss will stay on the board as a non exec but I am going to miss him so much. I am in charge now which is terrifying without his guidance and calm approach to everything. People are depending on me to get things right. Plus I now have to cram my 5 days and his 3 days into just 4 days....better than the dole though.
Well done blonde you are doing really well.

ma very un-mumsnetty, and un-Scottish hugs > (is that how you do hugs?) That is tough, because it holds you in a difficult place. But maybe lovely boss will get a new post and find a place alongside where you can squeeze in. And the responsibility you now have will be good for you too when you are applying for your next job. Also, I think some people would pay good money to have a chance to ogle people in uniform, so think of how much you are saving there

But good time for a new regime at home, maybe? Everyone has to pull their weight - doesn't matter whether it is financial or doing the dishes, or keeping their shoes clean, or being civil. Things are tough and you need to be tough with them too.

blonde so how can you use your enforced sobriety in a really helpful way? You see, you could sit out the 5 days of antibiotics feeling sorry for yourself, and then blow all your saved money and calories at the end 'because you deserve it'. Or... you could make some really cool plans for how you will continue. Put as much effort into planning your sobriety as you did into planning your drinking (and of course you planned it - otherwise how did you always manage to have just enough for the next bottle, and always manage to stop by the shop before closing time ?) So have a look - what will you have saved £25? £30? £35 omg - what lovely thing can you do with that? cinema and food for you and a friend, or enrol on an online course [btw everyone did you know the Open University do some great online free courses? I did a creative writing one - 3hrs a week for 8 weeks - fab! ] Or start a new hobby that you've always wanted to do - buy crotchet hook and wool, or buy hens and save up for an Eglu. Get distracted by the new and exciting.

Here is a link to the OU free online courses LINK HERE There are all sorts of things from forensic psychology (why did isindie kill that bunny?) to mathematical modelling (how many bottles of wine did I drink in a year????) to the intriguingly titled "analysing skid marks"

Come on Babes that has to be more interesting than a lonely glass of sour white wine xx

Hi I don t know if I m ready to board the bus for the whole journey yet but I might just hop on and off for a bit(i m thinking Route master 38 from Stoke Newington!) I ve been recommended this thread for some warm support. So here goes.....

Welcome lulioli we are indeed warm and friendly peeps here.
Thanks Venus. It's scary but I still have a job and the chance to keep working on my big proposal in the hope I can pull it off and get it funded and then maybe lovely boss can come back....
Did you have a good time on Wednesday??????

Thanks very much Venus ... I have actually been thinking if I can do this for a week there is no need to go back to my old ways..I reckon over a week I could save 40.00 .. 160.00 a month omg a holiday could be had in a couple of months.. !!

ma there were members standing to attention, and many flunkys

(please ignore this everyone else)

Lul well who know where this journey starts, or where it stops. But please hop on, you never know you might enjoy the ride.

blonde imagine a holiday! Strutting to the beach, just a little bit leaner (none of that alcohol podge). Or a city break knowing that have the inner energy to go sightseeing all day. Or a few luxurious days at a spa - starting off feeling clean and good and coming out feeling even better. Why would you want to have a few glasses of rubbish wine instead?

Oooh "Venus* nothing better than a member standing to attention!!!!!

Morning all. Absolutely pissing down here and has been for hours so my good intentions to go for a walk and then do some gardening are out the window.......

Hi lovely ladies,

Can I hop on your bus?

I've been beating myself up this morning. I managed to drink a bottle and a half of wine last night, by myself, and I felt okay. This wasn't a one off. I don't drink every day, probably 3/4 evenings a week but when I do, I don't seem to have the ability to enjoy the one glass of wine, despite starting with the best intentions, I end up drinking the bottle. Plus a couple of ciders if I happen to have them in. I dread to think what damage these binges are doing to me!

I have come to the decision that as I'm an all or nothing sorta girl, it's got to be nothing. Problem is...I've told myself that before but after a few days it's someone's birthday, ive had a stressful day, the sun is shining etc and it seems like the perfect excuse to have 'just the one glass', which it never is! Hoping having some moral support on here will keep me strong!

Sorry for boring you all about me and my story!

Welcome honeysuckle. The bus is very quiet at the moment. The Babes - apart from those is us in rainy Scotland- must be out enjoying the sunshine.You will have plenty of support on here

Welcome honeysuckle and well done for being brave and posting! I hope everyone is enjoying a good weekend wherever you are.

Feeling rather down about marriage and stuff. Sometimes it seems better than others. Today DH told me I looked like "mutton dressed as mutton"

Okay I know I'm not the most fashionable person but he knew when we met that I was never going to be a heels and short skirts girl!

On the plus side, I had the opportunity to buy wine and DIDN'T. Despite wanting to stick 2 fingers up to him and get rat-arsed.

Welcome Honeysuckle, Luluoili and Coqdargent. Glad you have joined us.

Alias - 'mutton dressed as mutton' ?????? Is your DH a dead ringer for David Beckham by any chance? Because if not, tell him to piss off. Cheeky get. Well done on not buying wine though

Ma so sorry about lovely boss but I am happy that you have a job still, even though less money / days is not good. I have spent 3 years doing the work of 3 or more people on a pay freeze, sadly that seems to be the norm now, less people, doing more. On the plus side for your boss, I bet after working for no pay for so long he will be relieved to take a position that has a wage attached. And he may be able to come back on a consultancy basis if your big idea takes off. Enjoy your weekend if you can lovely. And at least you still have access to soldiers!

Venus I was inspired by your post for a while until I came across the very random 'buy hens and save up for an Eglu'. I could just imagine WBs face if I suddenly started keeping hens . Though I do have friends who keep hens and they are lovely. Just couldn't be arsed tbh. Now, crocheting I can do... have just bought some lovely wool to make a dear friend a scarf and hat for her birthday in her favourite shades of green and purple... quite excited at the thought, she is the type to appreciate home made gifts and is very thoughtful herself...

Quiet day today - DS gone out, DD away at PGL camp (second holiday weekend in a row for her). I have done spinning and am sorting washing and gardening. Catching up on the Archers. Am getting so middle aged . This unemployment / limbo while waiting for VR is unsettling and demotivating in the extreme.

Hope you are all enjoying the nice weather (Scottish babes apart.) It's in and out here, am sun-surfing

Waves to Isinde, Guggs, Khalisi, Blonde, Soc, Small, Spanna, Felttip, Baby and co. Love to Hands, Anne, Sweet and those we haven't seen for a while

Later xxx

alias what a horrible thing for your dh to say! Tell him he's a wnk badger!!!
Thanks hope. I emailed lovely boss and said I was worried about trying to run the organisation without him as a safety net and he sent back" Don't worry. Your safety net is still here, just a bit lower down but will still catch you if you fall. I believe in you. You go girl!". He is so sweet!

Aw, my old boss is like that. I still phone him for advice and he left 3 years ago ....