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What does behave im home now mean

127 replies

Piperdog2009 · 16/04/2015 14:48

You all probably know that I'm trying to figure out my relationship anyway so once my fiances ex called him when. He retired from a night out with his mates there was giggling then he said behave im home now .... Could this comment be innocent or red flag

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BlueDressingGown · 16/04/2015 15:23

I don't get how this is ambiguous at all. It means exactly what you think it means.

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Piperdog2009 · 16/04/2015 15:29

Thank you this has only recently occured to me but this incedebt happened a year ago would you still dump him for it of has it been left to long ... I feel like a fool can't believe it's taken this long to click

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StupidBloodyKindle · 16/04/2015 15:50

As in 'behave now Piper's home'
I would think they had been flirtatious and possibly heavy petting* or making sexual innuendo on the sofa.

*yes I am nineteen I wish

I wouldn't think the absolute worst but I would have confronted it at the time ie barged in and said Hi Honey I AM home, what am I missing? Why are my ears burning?

TheMoa · 16/04/2015 15:53

You're 'red flagging' something that happened a year ago?

Does the whole relationship not just seem too much like hard work? Where's the fun?

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Piperdog2009 · 16/04/2015 15:53

I was there when the phone all was in place he just looked straight at me and said " behave om home now" I did confront him he answered with saying to my one year old " we will start with Aunty ( meaning his ex) then work our way up to mummy ... I was heartbroken then recently the exchanged some flirtatious emails to wich gd said he was honey trapping her for trying to brake us up twice but he also shared personal info like our newborns name ich leads me to think it wasn't a honey trap

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Piperdog2009 · 16/04/2015 15:55

And he never went through with the honey trap ... I'm the one that has to tell her to leave us alone he won't she's still in his email contacts and he won't change his number

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SouthWestmom · 16/04/2015 16:16

I don't understand any of your posts, I'm sorry.
Your DP came home from a night out and then his mates were giggling and he said 'behave I'm home now'
You knew he took a call from his ex and your DS calls his ex aunty?

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Piperdog2009 · 16/04/2015 16:30

No he was on the phone to his ex then said to her behave im home now and
He was holding our 1 yr old and said to him " we will start with calling her Aunty kelly" then move slowly upto " mummy" he said this to our baby

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chdmum20 · 16/04/2015 16:46

tell him to f* rite off Shock

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Piperdog2009 · 16/04/2015 16:52

Do you think I'm reading into things ?

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CitySnicker · 16/04/2015 16:56

I think he's a cock.

chdmum20 · 16/04/2015 16:57

no if my dp had said to our dd we will start with aunty and work up to mummy about his ex he'd get nothing short of a kick in the nuts an his stuff in black bags ! but thats the rash kind of person i am Smile

Mostlyjustaluker · 16/04/2015 17:02

A year ago is a long time to start questioning an event now. What is your relationship generally like?

softlysoftly · 16/04/2015 17:03

That's not "reading into things" that's straight out awful!

He told your 1yo in front of you that she was to call ex auntie and eventually mummy?!

If that was a year ago what type of bastard is he now? !

feministwithtitsin · 16/04/2015 17:04

What!!!!!!

How fucking disrespectful (at the very least) to say to the mother of his child!

I don't know if he did anything, but he certainly wants to wind you up in a disgraceful way.

When i read the post about your baby calling his ex mummy, my jaw actually dropped. Mans an arse!

binspin · 16/04/2015 17:07

I don't think you're over reacting. Quite the opposite!
A year ago??

What did you say at the time and why's this come up now?

popalot · 16/04/2015 17:11

Something else must have happened to make you think back to this. Has he been nasty generally - like mean comments and things you can't quite work out whether they are meant to be nasty or not?

And yes, what he said back then was him basically saying he was having a relationship with his ex and you totally ignored it! Why? He looked you in the eye and said it and also told your daughter.

I don't think you need to mull it over anymore. Something else must have happened since to make you think back on it. He sounds pretty cruel.

BuzzardBird · 16/04/2015 17:13

Well, he is fucking you over and fucking your child over too. What do you feel you need to do?

ouryve · 16/04/2015 17:13

You've had a major lightbulb moment, here, haven't you?

Personally, I'd be telling him to fuck off and get on with it.

BuzzardBird · 16/04/2015 17:17

This is the guy that has been replacing you with porn whilst you look after your child?

Phoenix0x0 · 16/04/2015 17:18

Get rid. Now!

In a healthy relationship this doesn't happen.

BolshierAyraStark · 16/04/2015 17:20

Have I got this right-this happened a year ago?!?
What has happened now to make you rethink a situation that should have had you fucking this dipshit right off at the time?
He said that to your child & you stuck with him? Hmm

FenellaFellorick · 16/04/2015 17:20

He couldn't have been any clearer if he'd had it painted onto the side of a bus and then run over you with it!

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Piperdog2009 · 16/04/2015 17:28

Becuase it's just clicked and his birthdays coming up and I think they may get back in contact then ... I dunno what to do gd thinks it all blown over yet j can't get over it and my gut keeps saying not to trust him but then everybody's relying on is being a great couple and our kids ect he thinks ive forgot about it all and it's all sunshine and Daisy's when it doesn't work like that

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binspin · 16/04/2015 17:33

What are you going to do about it piper?