DRY 7!!!

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The new thread for the alcohol free and the wanna be free . come and join us

Morning all. Glittery don't let it derail you. I find my slips have always served to emphasise that my drinking days are coming to an end..... the emotional consequences are not worth it. You can do it. :)

Yay Teapot!!!!

I am fine had a fabulous time last night. Was feeling extremely grumpy about going, then had a terrific time. Treated myself to real (not diet) tonic water, really talked to people, had a lovely meal, enjoyed a gorgeous sorbet for dessert then drove home three happy, not madly drunk friends of the bride. No-one got drunk, just happy. (If it had been me, there would NOT have been a mere 3 bottles of wine ordered between 21 of us...... ). LOVE the feeling of driving home at night time safe in the knowledge that I can drive safely, can do people a favour and will feel good today. :) Happy Days.

Can I join you ?

Today Im on day 1 .

I will not be drinking today

Fallen off the wagon. Upset my 8 year old. This time it's enough. Shiny day 1.

Morning

Glittery do you think you could apologise to your 8yr old in an age appropriate way? I had a very angry dd for an awful long time and it turned out that what she mostly wanted from me (apart from sobriety) was an apology. I know it's not easy to do but a sorry can go a long way. Use the lapse as a learning experience, chin up!

Welcome PinkPop, how are you getting on 24hrs in?

I went to a birthday picnic yesterday for my old AA sponsor, I was the only non-family member there (which was a bit odd in itself) and there was the inevitable 'so where do you know birthday girl from?' Which a stupidly hadn't discussed with her before hand. They all know that she went to meetings of course but I had never met any or them before and was stuck for words , hard to be honest but AWKWARD lol. Don't mind being honest with people's know but that was a whole other kettle of fish! She no longer goes to AA either but we've remained good friends hence the invite. I don't think anyone thought badly of me about it or maybe they were too polite to say so

I'm going to go and see the Amy Winehouse biopic today, I suspect that will be quite difficult to watch but I'm fascinated and I dare say it will be a cautionary tale for me.

Thanks for the welcome.
On day 2 now- feel great, got up really early.

I am not drinking today .

I really want to go and see that , not sure what it is that her dad doesn't like ? Its well documented that she had severe addiction problems.
Maybe it doesn't paint him in the best light?

Glad you're feeling good PinkPop . Do you have any strategies for when the urge monster hits?

I'll let you know about the movie later, I guess maybe her dad doesn't come out covered in glory. I think the clue is in the line 'my daddy said I'd be fine' when they tried to make her go to rehab. That's what I heard in the radio the other day, anyway. I was hoping my older teen would come with me but it seems she has other plans of not getting out of bed today . No worries, I like going to the cinema alone.

Welcome PinkPopPony :)
Yay Cornchips!
I'd like to see Amy too so be interested to hear what you thought tsonlyme
Glittery I second tsonlyme's suggestions

Thanks tsonly Lucy
Sorry about my name - I name changed and it popped into my head

I have examined why I drank wine- tiredness and boredom
It was making me feel even more tired as I then woke up at 4am - DOH!
I have stopped for ages several times and then drift back gradually.

I met someone recently who gave up a 50 a day ( cigs not wine!) 30 year habit by not constantly revisiting her decision to quit
Such good advice.
Ive made my decision ,so Im not going to rethink it constantly ie ill just have one, its a sunny day ,one wont hurt etc.

I wasn't drinking more than half a bottle of wine per day but it was too much and made me feel like hell.

Strangely if Im not drinking I generally don't have any urge after the first few days ???

Pink I applied that reasoning as well for giving up....... the three day rule. Apparently, for smokers, the physical cravings go after 3 days... it is the mental stuff that takes longer. I did find that about drinking too..... first 3 days quite hard, then much much easier.

LOVE the idea of not revisiting the decision.

Anyway- I am on Day 1. I am too tired to go into it. But I am back on the wagon. I am NOT revisiting the decision. :) And I am making a note of the date. I never counted days, as it made every day seem a battle, but I like the idea of having milestones I could actually SEE. So. 5th JUly. My soberversary.

CornIts probably the most useful thing anyone has ever said to me as it explained why I would go back to having "just the one" which of course became 2 most nights

I am fine after the decision has been made - that's the weird thing , unless I am drinking I just don't crave it, so have been months and months until I revisit my decision and then I am back to drinking most nights because Im tired ,bored or fed up and then of course the cycle of tired, bored and fed up continues because the wine makes me feel DRUMROLL ...
tired, bored and fed up ! < slaps self>

Corn next London workshop is in Sept

I can report that Amy is a very powerful and sad movie (I cried, very unusual for me). I suppose whether you like it not probably depends on the your standpoint on addiction, I felt desperately sad for Amy and cross with her hangers on but I can see that if you have no understanding of addiction you might just think she was a silly little girl who fucked it all up even though it is sensitively shot and compassionate.

It's obvious why her dad doesn't like it, the words that condemn him come out of his own mouth and it's difficult to see how they could have been taken out of context. Latterly I think he didn't realise the scale of the problem until it was too late for an early intervention hence the 'daddy says I'm fine' thing. Anyway, don't want to say too much but I recommend it although you really don't need to see it on a big screen and pay £9.30. £9.30!! Blimey.

I need help
I posted earlier but it did not get through?
I want to drink - a lot - of wine. I just am so struggling tonight and don't know where else to turn>
I am on day 36 dry and have only drunk on 30 out of 180 days this year .., and was dry for 6 months last year so am needing help

glad didn't want to read & run, I'm not a regular on here, but browse the thread occasionally. How are you feeling now? Have you found something to do to displace the urge?

glad how are you this moning? Did you go to bed after posting? Are you okay?

Hi Wh0. [waves] Nice to meet you. :)

Oh glad are you ok?

I am here. you are lovely, thanks for responding.

Had a couple of glasses, but not a lot. Didn't actually enjoy them while I was drinking them, tbh. Feel pretty fed up with myself. Now trying not to do the whole shame/guilt/loathing trip and instead concentrate on the good bit - I only had a small amount and then stopped.

Just not sure why I did it - think it was because I am in an on going 2 day (so far) row with DH and it was easy to fall into old patterns of behaviour. Need to work on things to do to replace that sort of thought!

glad - pleased to see you back, and I know what you mean about those glasses not tasting as nice as you imagine they will be.

waves back at corn

Glad you're ok. It sounds like you passed the urge and after having a glass you got that craving that only happens once you've had a drink. I've been thinking about PinkPop's point about not revisiting the decision to stop, it seems very simple and (hopefully) very effective, I'm going to contemplate it some more!

Can I join in? Today will be day 1 for me, I'm just so tired of feeling tired and anxious the next day My drinking has really escalated over the past year, and I'm usually having 1- 1/2 bottles a night. This morning at work I'm feeling so low and anxious. Anxiety and depression have led to me isolating myself and self-medicating with wine. Have gotten fat and even more depressed

& my drinking is really scaring me

Marking place.

Welcome Degusti. What a long name! I'm 36 days in. Started on the Dry June thread and still going. Your posts strike a chord with me - I was on around a bottle a night, sometimes more. My drinking was scaring me too. What's your plan?

Glad Well done for limiting it and remember how AF days you've already had - they are already in the bank.

Pinkpop I like the idea of making the decision and not revisiting it.

Glittery how are you now?

Thanks Polly! my short term plan is to get to the weekend, then get up early saturday morning and go for a walk or cycle. And enjoy the proper nights sleep I will be getting!