A thread to say something you can't in real life!

[Sodthisagain]

To my not so dear sister
Fuck off to the far side of fuck then fuck off some more! I am not the scheming, money swindling bitch you have insinuated I am today and will no longer going to be your doormat to shout at when you are stressed!!
Oh and don't forget fuck off!

There that's better :-)

Dear old ex friends, you all left me just at the point I needed you the most. When I was on my knees with grief and sorrow you were not there. I was so alone and 15 years later I still am. Only now I am standing up. I'm sorry if I did or said the wrong thing or was selfish or stupid. It wasn't intentional and I was very young and didn't have great role models. But you knew my background, you knew how tough being me was but in the end you walked away. You never told me if I had done something wrong and I don't know why you walked away. I've missed you all for so long and I still miss you. but today I'm smiling, today I'm ok and tomorrow is another day. Maybe we will find each other again and maybe we won't. Maybe this is how it's going to be.

To my exP's DP.

I tried to tell you that your DP was not what he seemed and had in fact been leading a double life for your whole relationship. That I was in shock and had been his DP for the whole time you'd been together and well beyond.

But you believed him over me. I even told you he lied about seeking therapy for being raped and caring for his DF during his cancer treatment in order to spend time away from our home and be with you, in the one you'd just bought together.

I feel so grateful I found out, by chance, about his double life. I gave you the same out but you chose to stick with the lying, manipulative, deceitful psycho.

I hope and expect you will find out his true colours eventually. I feel genuinely sorry for you.

To my mam and dad. I know you know it but I find it too hard to say... I adore you both. My two great loves :)

To my ex oldest friend,
Your email telling me that had got married inviting just 'a few intimate friends' (you were 'both so happy you did not have to bother with a large wedding :/) but not me has had me sobbing in private for the past week.
It's not only that you had not even told me - I live on the other side of the world, so it's not like you would have had to invite me - but it was the most repulsively self-satisfied, arrogant, hurtful way you you could have done so
We have know each other for 40 years, I have met your partner once. All the 'we' this and 'we' that and your wonderful life just came over as a sickeningly smug email to a stranger.
Especially as you know that my life is hell at the moment. What total lack of any care or empathy.
Well strangers are what we are, and no, I will not be coming to visit the plural you. Ever.

Oh dear.

Dear SIL,

You are an excellent person but those cakes you're so proud of are really horrible. As soon as you're not looking I hide my slice in my handbag and hope the dog doesn't notice.

Dear DW

I love you more than you will ever understand

I wish I could tell you exactly how I feel, how upset I am when you make nasty comments when we have opinions about thing that are different, that when I tell you about it you make it seem that it is my fault and sit there and tell my you haven't done anything wrong, I hate it when you tell me that there's no point in me coming home from work earlier as all we do is argue and that you don't look forward to seeing me, I hate that you spend every second on fb ignoring me when I talk to you. I do nothing but my best for you and out dd you are both my world, now we're sat here tonight not talking again, every time we do this another part of me dies. I love you DW but I wish you'd stop hurting me

Blimey...
Hoe did I manage that?

Jumparoo, please tell your wife.

Dh

I wish we hadn't bought this house. It's too big and needs too much work. We don't have the money to do it up properly so you are doing it all yourself.
You are tired and cranky most of the time because of the house, work and the kids. I am tired all the time for the same reasons.

I love you so much but I can feel us drifting apart, we never get any time together. I hope we have a relationship to come back to when the kids are older and the house is finished.

Dm
You were a great mum but I always lived in fear of putting a foot out of line. I was always a good girl.
Now I have my own daughter I think I'm fucking up as a mother. She can be a stubborn little girl, utterly defiant and sometimes violent (although the violence is improved). So much so I've wondered if she has additional needs,
I don't think she does so it must be me, she's an angel at preschool so it must be me. Except I don't know how to fix it.
I don't know if I'm too lax, sometimes I think I am but I know I'm a tougher parent than any of my friends. So am I too tough?
I feel so lost, I'm fucking up the most important thing in my life - and sometimes I feel so worn down by it all I don't care.

The knob heads at work who set targets,
You haven't a fucking clue - that is all.

Dear MIL

You are not a person to me you are a vile disgusting creature. You bullied my mum when she was dying from cancer. You should be dead not her. You are terrible grandparents and don't deserve to have anything to do with my beautiful children. Who FUCKING buys their grandchildren screen cleaners for christmas and thinks its a good present!!!!! You are fucking loaded and couldn't spend more than £3.99!!!! and for telling me you loved your other GC better than my children - i hate you, i hate you, i hate you!!!!!! I wish you nothing but pain and unhappiness for ever. When you are not looking i stare at you and wish you would drop dead. You are evil. How dare you go to church and then behave the way you do. What about that time we visited and you didn't serve dinner until 8:00pm and MY 2 YEAR OLD was crying because it was way past his bed time and he hadn't had his dinner and you screamed at him to shut up. Did that make you feel good?! The day you die i will dance and dance and dance.....oh and drinking a bottle of gin a day makes you an alcoholic even if you only start drinking after 5.

that feels soooooo much better!!!!!

I don't hate you, I did, and I should do, but I'm past that, I pity you.
He is incredible. Hard work, but he makes me laugh every single day without fail, and I could kiss him constantly. You missed out on him,
But he has never missed you. We have never missed you.
And the man he calls daddy is the man that in every way is his daddy. He is the most incredible man I have ever met and I am so compleatly in love with him, with our family and what it is now. I never understood you could actually love anything like I love them.
And that's why I don't hate you. You fucked off and gave me the chance to find us what we deserved. I did, I created the most incredible beautiful life for him and I'm so proud.
But if you come back. If you ever try and burst this happy little bubble we have created for your own selfish benefit. I will release holy hell on you. I will fight to protect this with everything I have, and we
Both know I'm better than you.
Just stay away, better still, give your
Rights to him away. I want to know you will never ever fuck this up. We
Both know if you come back the damage it will do, for once, do the right thing and never ever contact us.

We are so so so bloody happy I could burst.

DP
I love you. You're great and treat me better than anyone ever has before. You're generous, thoughtful, considerate and my kids love you too. But I don't think I'll ever be ready to live with someone again, not even you. I'm so sorry.

DFriends and DSis
I'm sorry my divorce was awkward for you and talking about it made you uncomfortable, but I thought that's what friends were for. To be there when you needed them. To let them talk, cry, rant and help them in any small way you can to get them through it. I'm sorry I was wrong about that. I'm sorry you no longer include me and my kids in your holiday plans. No, I couldn't afford them and yes, it would be embarrassing and upsetting for me to say I couldn't join in, but I'd still like to be included in the discussion and have the options presented to me instead of being totally excluded. It makes me cry just thinking about it. My kids are missing out on so much fun my heart breaks. I miss those holidays so much. If any of you ever find yourselves where I am/was, I'll be there for you.

J, J & T
Thanks for being there when the people I expected to be weren't. I hope you know how much that meant to me and that I've shown you that.

EXH
You are a stubborn, awkward, selfish, thoughtless bastard and I hate you. Your ridiculous "reasons" you gave the kids for our split have left them confused and thinking it was all my fault. I'll explain the actual reasons when they are old enough to understand, but not now.

OW
You coldhearted backstabbing slut. You repulse me. The thought of you spending weekends my kids sickens me. You have no morals. How dare you speak to me as if everything is normal. You pretended to be my friend. You wanted my life and now you've got it. Hope you are enjoying working part time while I work long hours now, despite me sacrificing my career for years to let him further his.
If there's any justice, you'll now understand that you need to be careful what you wish for...

Dear DH

Why did you spend your redundancy money on a course run by an expensive private provider at the other end of the country so you also had to pay living expenses there for the duration? I might not have minded so much if you had checked whether this very interesting course led to, you know, an actual job. It didn't, though, did it? Even now you've found a totally unrelated job, it pays not much more than minimum wage.

So I struggle to pay most of the bills which what I earn, knowing I won't be able to afford to retire until I'm fucking ancient.

DP
I know you couldn't help what you did. You were ill - and still are. But I don't think I can get past it. It has illuminated just how bad things were for several years, and how I have been detaching as self protection. I can't live with you this unhappy, but I can't ever tell our lovely, sensitive DC anything other than mummy and daddy are here for you. Together.

DR
Well that was a surprise . You have made me smile during the worst months of my life. You are so funny and smart and I love our banter very much. I feel alive and I Feel for the first time in a long time. I've no idea what to do about our situation but at the moment, I can't face a day without you.

Dfriends
You are Totally Amazing, I love you and thank you from the very bottom of my heart.

Dear x

God I miss our wild wild nights and the passion and our time that got us there. Just before we split and you had friends around, we talked about our fantasy but we never got to go there but I wish we had.

Dear neighbour (not in the slightest bit dear)!

You are raising a bully, she is taking your example. Maybe, just maybe, get the fuck off Facebook, and your bullshitting about what a wonderful daughter you are raising, and spend time with her, and you know, rear her...!

Then fuck off to the far side of fuck, and when you get there...well, you know the drill...

Aaah, that felt good.

Dear J
I'm sorry I wasn't there for you I wish there was some way you could have known how much I cared, you are constantly in my thoughts and I miss you terribly, you were a beautiful man x

Stbxh
You are a self obsessed twat, I certainly don't miss your parents who never liked me, feel bad for your daughter, please learn from your shite parenting of her and be there for our kids. Please don't have any more kids its clear you are not grown up enough.

My family and friends, I love you x

My kids, you are my everything x

to the btches who bullied me out of my job where I worked for 12years:
fk off to the far side of fk and when you get there jump off the fking cliff

Dear FIL
Its fine if you want to mess me and your son around, we know youre unreliable and an absolute twat.
But let our DD down again and youd better already be running, because i will come for you-and i will be bringing hell with me

To my lovely step dad
Thankyou for coming into our lives when things seemed so bleak and making us all smile
Thankyou for loving my mum like you do and making her the happiest shes ever been
Thankyou for loving me and my brother like we are your own children
Thankyou for helping my mum put me through college and uni
Thankyou for being there through my hardest times and making sure i came through the other side
Thankyou for being the father i always needed but never had
Thankyou for being a fantastic grandfather to my DD she utterly adores you

Mil

I can't put into words the pure joy I felt when my beautiful dd didn't recognise you last week. You don't know what you're missing.
you have played you're games for years. You have fucked up bils life and you can't make it better by smothering his kids with your attention.
you have done so much to make me and dh hate you. I know dh will go back and get hurt by you again and again. All I can do is be there for him But I won't let you hurt my dc's.
Every time we met you have someone with you but I will get you alone and tell you what I think of you. I have it all planed out. I hate you.

Mum and dad. I love you so much. I seem to be the only person I know who had a blissful childhood. You didn't have much money but always made it work. I know you will both always be there for me And my sis. I just wish I could repay you both.

dear birds

I feed you, okay its only fat balls but you seem to like them. I provide you with clean water, quite why you seem to feel the need to bath in drinking water escapes me but whatever makes you happy. But please, if you feel the need to sh*t go and pick someone else's car! I had to dig in my bag for wet wipes to clear the windscreen this morning before I could drive!! This is your last warning.

Salsa you are bonkers

DSD you are a spoilt princess and I am not looking forward to taking you on holiday with your DBs. I know your DF adores you so I will pay for your flight and room and food and drink because you "have no money". But please quit the whiny little girl voice asking "Dad can I have a lift" "Dad can you pay my trainfare". You are 22 and earn more than he does now shouldn't you be paying your way? and learn to drive if you want car transport!

Also why won't you eat healthy food? Haven't you heard of salad? and would it kill you to do some exercise and drink less vodka? You might be a bit fitter and slimmer if you did.

ooh that felt good. I can be nice and tolerant all week now!