So, every Tuesday... (warning - a bit gross, and relatively trivial)

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I noticed with fond amusement (from bin evidence and once from walking in) that every Tuesday afternoon for the last couple of months DH has had a wank.
Obviously, this in itself is no issue at all.

However, it has transpired (because it came up in conversation, and he mentioned it quite openly although a little bashfully) that this is directly related to a sexy business client he sees (in public, at an open-plan office) every Tuesday morning. I mean, she is clearly so sexy that he has to come straight home and have a wank about her every time he sees her. I have now Googled her and, yes, she looks like Angelina's sexier sister. She apparently flirts with him and has checked out whether or not he is single (he's rather attractive, my DH). He has made it clear that he isn't single and, well, that's that.

Is it odd that this sort of matters to me (although I've not let on to DH that it does)?

Ah. A very formulaic wank.

How sexy.

Your husband sounds an absolute riot.

I'm not really sure what to say to that if I'm totally honest.
I'd not be massively impressed myself.

He wanks over another woman?! What?!!
I'd be gutted and fuming in equal measures...actually probably more gutted than anything tbh
I can't believe he told you this, what did you say?

It's not odd that it matters to you. I would however let DH know it does matter to me.

I would be upset.

Are you joking?

At the very least he could be more discreet.

Blue, isn't it kind of normal that in long term relationships you fantasize about other people? To be honest, I know I do. I don't know what about this bothers me. I mean, what do I expect him to do? I'm not the thought police.

Thanks for your responses, everyone.

Do you not have a flushing toilet for the evidence? He is a lazy wanker.

He sounds like, well, a wanker tbh. In every sense of the word.

He really hasn't been mean about it at all. He is not a mean man.

I sort of teased him, and joked him into telling me. I wish I hadn't.

Bin evidence - what??

I think there's a difference between occasionally fantasising/fancying someone else physically when in a long term relationship and being in a relationship and tossing one off over one specific person every single time you spend any time with them
Don't you?

Discreet doesn't really bother me in general (within reason ), when it comes to our bedroom bin. We're really open with each other and generally very un-jealous.

Yes, Blue, I suppose there is.

Sorry if that was a little harsh I'm just really shocked that he would both do this and tell you about it

I noticed with fond amusement. Who says that?

Yes, I think Blue has got it in one.

I noticed with fond amusement. Who says that?

I do. I don't sound like that in real life, though

I'd honestly be gutted. Having a wank to porn, nameless women on a screen... that I can just about accept. Rushing home to wank over an actual woman he shares air space with who he finds so sexually attractive that he has to masturbate to the memory of her, and she has asked about his status... no, sorry. And he doesn't even have the decency to be more discreet about it? Shocking.

DH: "I'm thinking of having sex with Angelina's sexy sister."
OP: " Ahahahah, what're you like!"

You're generally very un-jealous... No sure that's such a good thing, really, in your circumstances. I'd hate to be in a relationship where my oh felt free to share such specific detail with me. I would be the very opposite of fondly amused...

Right, well, it's sort of nice to hear I'm not mad. Also a bit disturbing that it's not just me being mad, IYSWIM. DH is definitely not horrible and I did sort of coerce him into telling me, TBH. But you're right about the difference between this and occasional fantasies, Blue.

I have to go to bed now so won't be able to answer any more this evening.

But thank you all for reading and posting.

I think it's odd that it's regular and specific to one person, seems a little obsessive. It's also odd that he told you as it is quite disrespectful. Would he mind you wanking each week after spending time with a hot neighbour, for example?