Dating Thread 89

[Docmartensanddungarees]

Candle light and soul forever
A dream of you and me together
Say you believe it, say you believe it

Free your mind of doubt and danger
Be for real, don't be a stranger
We can achieve it, we can achieve it

Come a little bit closer
Baby, get it on, get it on
'Cause tonight is the night when 2 become 1

I second that lurking , doc gives great advice . So do many others; remember we are all in this (on the thread) to support each other broken

Glad the meet went well lurking, have you heard from him yet? (Am I being impatient )

whatsfor well , you know, I think I like having a grumpy day, it's been good fun

Blossom someone will be along that grips you when you least expect it

And to finish my day off today my sky thingie didn't record the last episode of Walking Dead

scrambled have a fab hol.
lurking glad date went well.
My date was worst so far - he was just socially awkward - we spoke ok,just a bit weird,stayed for one drink,had a chat, not heard from him since.
Getting fed up of it all tbh,why ex had to turn into an arse and leave is beyond me...no feelings on my part there left for him given the way he's treated us all but just frustrating to be in this position through no choice of my own.at least divorce will be through soon x

Oh God it's like a curse - no soon had I posted than date sent me a text saying it was great to meet me,now how to respond...this is the bit I hate!

New

Sorry the date was a bit on the crap side.

Sometimes when a divorce is finalizing its normal to have some, what ifs'
around it all. It will pass.

You will meet someone its just not happened yet:)

New

I spoke too soon. You have found him:)

Joking.

Text. Nice meeting you. Sorry, I don't think this is for me. Good luck.

Newto I'm glad if date goes well but doesn't go any further as it means no hellish dates, I dread that. Do you think your date could have just been really nervous and not wanting to give to much away incase you didn't like him. Would it be worth proper date to see how he behaves? or have you been there done that and have good intuition? I've only met 2 men so not wise enough.

Broken What Really says. we are all here for you, I feel it's such a benefit having others here to share woes with, who understand the highs and lows.

Scrambled Still at it on holiday hope you have fun.

whats thanks-i just text something like - you too,thanks for the drink.got a smiley face back and not going to message again.if he asks I'll say thanks but no thanks (in a nicer way!).
It's like ex was abducted by aliens - there are no 'what if's' really - I have no regrets,know ive done nothing wrong just wanted a family unit that stayed together.hopefully in time I will find that with somebody else.looking for my happy ever after really cinderella at the cinema the other day has rubbed off on me
lurking no def not worth another date.

Hi All,

Few days ago I've registered on POF...

Said hi to someone yesterday and then we kind of exchanged few messages... The last question I have asked was what is his profession (just dont know what to ask really), he cleared up, then I replied as well. But after that I didnt ask anything else. So he messaged me today over a lunch time saying to complete the picture of me in his head (didnt post my picture) he would like to see my pic. I explained it as being a simple girl, nothing special...

So tonight i posted a picture and said "to complete a picture in your head", he replied "That's better".

after 10-15 minutes i deleted it... my profile is actually hidden and i sighned up just to try, although my heart is not sure in trying online dating.

Did I come awkward? I dont even know what to ask...

I'm not even sure that I need a man in my life...

advice is very welcome.

Against my better judgement I " up graded" on POF; dont do it! I have had a fraction of the responses I had before and those that have messaged me are lonely old men.

Hi Chilli,

Is it not a great dating website?
I thought it works ok...

But i guess im not ready for anything myself...

Which dating sites work better?

New I know how you feel with the ex situation. I was the same, wanted to keep my family together and was broken hearted. Now I've gotten my head round the idea that families come in all different shapes and sizes and you can make another version of the family unit with someone else and be happier to boot.

Chilli Not good. I never gave into upgrade as the way they keep asking you to upgrade to access certain things grates me. So no bites?

Inexperience I was the same as you when I first started old, not long ago. I quickly realised it was best to put a pic up but go at your own pace. It's hard to chat at first and it's easier with some men than others. You don't come across as off or odd or anything, you're just getting used to it, it is all a bit weird.

I forgot to add that wetfish(tonights date) asked to see me again so hopefully i'll see him again on a proper date

Had some cosmetic work done, so can't go out for a bit, but I did reply to several men on Match who had winked, liked a picture and then emailed me (all 3 things). No reply to my emails from any of these men. LOL.

Still getting emails from out of town men telling me they will be in my city on such-and-such date and did I want to get together? Married, you think?

Attending a Match happy hour soon.

I'd have posted last night but I couldn't get internet .
Got to Mr post last night , he'd made me dinner lovely fish cakes n a fancy salad (scary salad stuff lol)
He bought me a necklace to cheer me up , but me I just burst into tears .

Hiya, got wifi at the apartment so thought I'd better check in. Not much to report. I haven't heard much from Mr Teacher but the date isn't til the Friday after I get back so we'll see. Been texting another guy, Mr Nurse who I'm probably a bit keener on. Bloody hell, think I need to get on with enjoying my holiday rather than thinking about men all the time

scrambled you never know there may be a RL man right there have a great holiday!!

Jesy how lovely of Mr Post. Glad it is still going so well.

wrapdress Errrm yes probably married. Have a good time at the happy hour.

Inexperience not a lot of advice from me but just take it as you would like. Go at your own pace, it seems to be a massive learning curve and I think some you will find it easier with than others.

Lurking have a great 'proper' date with wetfish

chilli good luck, do you think you have altered your search criteria when you upgraded?? Kind of set it to a default??

Newto it is a difficult time, perhaps enjoying your self in a non dating way mayhelp for a bit?

Blossom how are you today? Still busy with work?

Waves to everyone as always and hopes you all have lovely plans for the Easter break!!

Just been having a little look on a few sites, why do some many men have their shirts off in the photos?

I think one is supposed to find it sexy, braving How are you? Have you chatted to anyone yet?

broken - yep, I third Doc being great at advice but also happy to receive PMs if you want another opinion!

newto sorry about awful date. It is so hard to work out what to say! I just do the "I don't think we're right for eachother but wish you lots of luck..." type thing. I know what you mean, I'm looking for happy ever after family unit too but having had a few short relationships that didn't work out, I know I'm looking for the works, total love etc. It isn't easy to find :(.

Inexperienced - hi and welcome! Did your profile not have pictures on it to begin with? Did you delete your entire profile or just the pic? It sounds like you just need to get used to it all, it is hard at first. You can ask them anything - how was their day, do they enjoy their job, what do they like doing etc...?

Chilli - that's weird that you've had a fraction of the responses by upgrading. Tbh, I don't like he way on POF you can see who has paid. At least with OKC you can't tell if someone has upgraded or not!

Lurking - glad you had a good date and another on the cards :).

Wrap hope the happy hour goes well. That's odd on the men contacting then no response!

Scrambled - yes, go and enjoy your hol!! ;). But good on Mr Nurse, it is nice to have a couple lined up :).

Jesy - ah, bless Mr Post.

My date was late! I did understand as it was traffic etc and he had a manic day but it did leave me sitting in a v quiet and local-y pub for 45 mins . Had a lovely time with him, he was quite touch-y and we kissed outside in the drizzly carpark . He mentioned the distance again (1 hr apart but both pretty committed to where we live due to family stuff) but said he'd like to see me again anyway. This makes me feel very wary that he's basically saying "this can't be longterm, shall we see eachother for a fling?". I think I'm going to have to be honest and upfront and, if he texts to arrange another date, say (nicely) that I'm not up for a fling so if there's no chance of it turning into something at all then it'd be best not to see eachother. I've paid for muddy matches now and replied to a 44 yr old (mr NZ) - bit of an age gap but could be OK. He lives near so a date would be easy.

Braving haha, I think they like to show the goods so we know exactly what we're getting and they're seeing things from their pov, that they'd quite like to see women with tops off so assume we'd like the same :)

I really don't find it sexy, I'd prefer to kept guessing :)

Haven't chatted yet, it's too early for me, still trying to get my life into order since DH left. Just window shopping.

I haven't put a photo up so probably wouldn't get much interest, I'm not very photogenic, better in the flesh.

Hello all, yes work mental and had dental appointment this pm, my fav place not.
Sorry not had time to catch. No dates for me this weekend, nothing planned at all actually how

I love necklace he seems apologetic it's silver tho , I don't like gold lol

He still at work at mo, I'm attempting to cook can't get on with cooker lol

How's everyone

Ooooh Raspberry, you're on MM now! Good luck with Mr NZ!

Waves at waltzing and all. Good luck all on dates tonight

Hello all! Am posting for the first time on this thread just as it's about to finish have read the last three pages but not even going to attempt to catch up other than that so will wait until the new shiny thread.

Things have been manic in work and barely have a moment to myself lately. Things are going well with Mr D and I'm trying not to whinge about work too much to him. Feel like a right misery at the moment - roll on Easter! Hope you all have a lovely break