Dating Thread 89

[Docmartensanddungarees]

Candle light and soul forever
A dream of you and me together
Say you believe it, say you believe it

Free your mind of doubt and danger
Be for real, don't be a stranger
We can achieve it, we can achieve it

Come a little bit closer
Baby, get it on, get it on
'Cause tonight is the night when 2 become 1

Rasp I have 2 very clear photos and it was his first message saying he would like more pics before we started chatting. Put me off straight away.

Morning all. Seem quiet here today, so I have bit of a stalker situation, spoke to him a couple of days ago but he really is not for me constantly calling messaging and contacting me through POF. Need to tell him without upsetting him. Also first proper first message from a lesbian wanting to meet up.

oh dear blossom that doesn't sound good. What have you said so far, does he know you're not interested? Sometimes they just don't get the hint!

Woke up this morning to the following WhatsApp message from the guy on Sunday night: "Just had a huge wank thinking of you x" Seriously, is that meant to be a turn on?!! I haven't even bothered replying.

On the upside I have a lunch date with a guy who's a trainee teacher on Friday.

Oh my goodness scrambled some men have no idea! From what you said about your date he sounded OK, but obviously not! What an idiot, you are well rid. Date with trainee teacher sounds promising.

I know Sienna, it was a complete turn off. Certain things you just don't say to someone you've met once.

Blossom maybe a version of,
"{Name} I respect you enough to be honest so thanks for your interest but I don’t think we’re a good match. I wish you all the best.”

Scrambled oh for god sake what the hell is wrong with some people.
donkey Yes I will send him a message

sienna not told him, was just hoping he would get it. Just a sent a nice gently message on POF. Hopefully that will be the end of it

Afternoon all

Thought it was about time I came to catch up. My dating life has stagnated so not much to say about me.

Blossom well done for sending a gentle let down to the stalker guy! Re the photo thing, it would put me off depending on how it was worded.. sometimes I've chatted to women whose photos don't really show what they looked like, so after a while of chatting, I might ask if they have another photo.

Scrambled Eeew to the guy from Saturday. Good luck with the date on Friday.

Broken are you ok? Have you had a look on the dating sites to see if you get chatting to somebody nicer?

Rasp and Newto dating 'bans' never last long for me either Good luck!

Doc I agree I have sometimes asked got further pics if I have been chatting with someone and their pic not clear. Mine are crystal clear and his were not not, he looked a right dork if I am honest.

Sometimes 'more' pictures is code, isn't it? I've had women ask me for more pictures when I've had loads up on a site..

The only thing putting me off about Mr Teacher is that he has no kids. I don't really want to date someone without kids in case he ends up wanting them. I mean, I know we haven't even met yet but best to be honest with people.

Scrambled are you on pof where people indicate a preference? I would still meet him but maybe drop in to conversation somewhere that you don't want that. See how he reacts.

scrambled yuk - looks like your first impression of Mr Sunday night was right.some men just don't know the boundaries-seriously!

Yes I am on PoF and it does say on my profile that I don't want kids so I guess you can't exactly say I haven't been upfront!

Indeed New, I think I was right. I'm quite an intuitive person and it seems I was right again. No apology text but maybe as I haven't texted he knows I'm Silence speaks volumes and all that!

Ok ladies, just got "your quiet" on WhatsApp. Bad grammar aside, any ideas for responses? X

scrambled just say you're not in to wankers

I think he knows I'm cross as there was no kiss on the end of his message x

scrambled How about sod off tosser sorry I have little patience these days.
doc He actually said "I would like to see more of you before chatting", so I read that as code foe send me some naughty pics. Maybe me being paranoid

Blossom I would read that the same way

I ended up saying "I was surprised at your message last night" I know, I know, I'm too nice. The answer from him, "lol"

scrambled

Wow. He's a real charmer.

He's wondering why you're quiet?

I'd tell him you're offended its not the first time its certainly the last. I would also say, you're not interested in an explanation, you no longer wish to talk to him. I guarantee he will text you back and forth with bullshit.

Do not engage once you've said, Good bye. Block.

rasp yes 3 is my limit for now!

I think you're going about it exactly the right way re your date - if you can't see yourself with them then move on... and favourite/message some new people.

scrambled what is it with men and their puerile sleazy messages? I can't think of a reply sorry for you to send.