Dating Thread 89

[Docmartensanddungarees]

Candle light and soul forever
A dream of you and me together
Say you believe it, say you believe it

Free your mind of doubt and danger
Be for real, don't be a stranger
We can achieve it, we can achieve it

Come a little bit closer
Baby, get it on, get it on
'Cause tonight is the night when 2 become 1

Scrambled - enjoy your holiday! Haha on DS finding your rabbit! Enjoy your hol!

Lurking - good plan on the first meet uniform :). I'm wearing skinny black trousers (sort of jeggings), black ankle boots and a jumper and scarf tonight. I'm going straight from work so figure i can get away with looking a bit smarter.

Sienna - good plan to just see what life is like with no OLD to worry about. I'm looking forward to a quiet dating weekend!

Britney - well done for forgetting about men for now (apart from your ex). No, I don't think I've really been pleasantly surprised unfortunately. Maybe I'm just too optimistic!

Broken - I'm not sure. If you just want a text friendship, maybe just send a friendly text and see if he responds? But I don't think what happened was your fault. I can't remember if you're actually doing OLD at the moment? I think it would be quite easy to find another man for casual sex/friendship.

Clinic was ok till realised I went to school with the nurse lol

Morning all, just catching up as normal, work a bit mental.
Yes another message from an idiot asking for more photos, I have 2 clear ones as I ranted yesterday.Him a grainy single photo, grrr what is it about people atm. Am chatting to a few but noone with wow factor, going through a can't really rebothered phase again. Oh and remember the guy who said I was out of his age range ( I am one year older than him) sent me a message this morning. All stupid mind games me thinks

An Breathe ......

Jesy Now I know the background my answer is different. Nobody wants to go to fpc with their Nanna,lol That was the niece felt she could ask you, well done. Have you got a car sorted yet?

Rasp Your outfit sounds good, smart but not too much or dressy.
Mind and update, I'm on meet tonight so will update too.

Blossom It's not your week for the old. I'd ignore both of those guys as they both sound like twats. Resist the temptation to send anything rude(I'd be biting my tongue)

Broken Are you really sure all you want is fwb? or are you just accepting that's all you'll get from this man. Did you join old to find a casual relationship? If you did then fine to carry on as you are and I'm sure he'll meet you again. You didn't do anything wrong. If anyone was in your position then the used condoms would have put them off. It's fine to be sleeping with others but you don't flaunt it. If roles were reversed he'd have been out of your place like a shot i'll bet. Lastly, if you do see him again I'd also think strongly about using condoms. I hope you're happy whatever the outcome.

My car lurking ????

Jesy Is this me getting it wrong yet again
I thought the money post lent you was to buy a run around? or was it to fix your car?

No it was a car payment I have a car but savings ran out so he paid this month's payment for me .
I live in a fairly rural area and even local hospital the bus service don't run to that often well not with out about three changes.
Like he said I need a car , yes I could walk to town but to my dad's is a trek n I take his food up daily.

I feel awful for having to have him help me but trying to find a job is hard , saying that an ex boss asked me to help her find new staff lol

Jesy I see, and yes sounds like you can't do without it. I live in city but couldn't do my job without car as always having to travel late at night with son for babysitters, not to mention the 6hr round trip it would be to actualy do it by bus. Must be so much harder trying to find job in small town also but if you keep trying it will happen eventualy, It's just disheartening though isn't it. Having Mr p helps though

Lurking

He does help , even nanny jobs I'd need a car but as former boss not given ref I struggle with that .
I did nowt wrong but comments on last day made me think , she said it been great n I was great apart from the week I needed off due to a accident , just made me realise I'd been used.

Jesy That's a shame. With nanny jobs it can be difficult as you don't have a proper employer so to speak. They don't look at it from business point of view. previous to the job I have now I worked for a family business so similar idea. They were horrific to work for and took everything personal and used the employees, It's hard when there's no line manager, hr etc and you can't get a reference which in your line of work is essential.

Lurking
I'm trained health care professional but to nanny job as desperate.
Even the fact that I was assaulted by the child , which many may think over reaction but towards end of employment this was regular.
One night I was scratched down neck to point it needed steri stripping when I got to my ex house.
I'd not put up with the behaviour from a child on ward but was expected to here.

Just don't fall in love with the fwb man

Jesy It doesn't sound like a very good situation to be in, best you're out of it even though it's left you in a bad position now. That's great that you have more options job wise. It's just a matter of time. Enjoy the extra time you have with post now as you'll miss that when job does come along.

Broken I doubt there's anything I can say to you to make you change your mind but here goes anyway. A little upset and loneliness now will be far easier 9I know it doesn't seem it) than the heartbreak in the long run if you stay in the fwb situation. The right man is out there somewhere who will want only you and not want to share you. That will love you flaws and all.That person is worth waiting for, someone to make you feel that you're special and help you realise your worth and feel better about yourself.
It sounds like you just want to be loved and wanted, I get that as I want that too but the real deal. Someone wanting you for the night feels good at the time but your left feeling more down after. I ramble a bit and I might not make sense but my advice is coming from a good place as we've all been hurt Broken and I wouldn't want to see someone put themselves through it unnecessarily.

Lurking
Need a job asap or loose my registration of it . Think it time to work in area not really trained in to keep it .already got turned down for a job coz of lack of recent work.

Heading over to Mr post tonight unusual for mid week , but asked if I want to come over as I sounded down

Hi ladies, finally arrived on holiday this lunchtime. Been WhatsApping lots and have also been using Tinder. See we have nearly filled up this thread

broken you're welcome to pm me.. I'm sure others would be happy to give advice too by pm!

RIOUX I can't believe you reminded everyone of my numpty moment!!!

Evening

broken plenty of support if you need it. Hope you are ok. This man is not good for you

scrambled have a fab holiday. Good going with the messaging.

doc

lurking good advice

I know I'm missing loads out but hate using the pesky tablet!!!! My news, not a lot. Not in the dating mood, mislaid my phone and under the w weather. Basically a grump waves to all....rasp and lurking and anyone on dates have a fab time x

Evening.
really I know what you mean about dating mood. Just not feeling it, chatting to loads but no buzz.

Scrambled

Glad to hear you've now arrived:)

Now. We a wait your DS telling strangers stories at the pool about Mums hidden, toys. :)

Doc

No, I've never thought about a hidden profile you may be on to something.

really

What ya mean not in a dating mood? I thought you was loved up:)

Broken Sorry I left you high and dry earlier but was on my way out the door. I was hoping Doc would come along anyway as she's great with the advice and way better help than I could be.

Jesy That was lovely of post. It would be nice to have someone just for a cuddle and chat when it gets too much.

Really Thanks. Date(meet) went well. He was a really nice guy ad I felt at ease. I will just have to wait and see if it comes to anything.