Dating Thread 89

[Docmartensanddungarees]

Candle light and soul forever
A dream of you and me together
Say you believe it, say you believe it

Free your mind of doubt and danger
Be for real, don't be a stranger
We can achieve it, we can achieve it

Come a little bit closer
Baby, get it on, get it on
'Cause tonight is the night when 2 become 1

britney - you haven't even met him yet... he seems like a bit of a wordsmith and explains himself away to me but isn't there in person. If he really wanted to he'd have arranged to see you despite of him travelling lots (and you) - I had a boyfriend like this - travelled a lot for work. But he didn't last time.

I mean he could come to see you/meet you next time you're available but no, just a load of words.

I really really would walk on by.

minmooch so sorry to hear about your mum by the way.

Typed message but I don't think it added

Anyway mr post neice asked me to go with her to fpc I did but hope I've done right thing
She is 16. Next week has a bf of a year
She seems sensible and wanted go on pill
Least she won't end up in tesco pharmacy after her first time like I did lol

Thanks all for the feedback. Seems like none of it is positive so maybe I needed an outside perspective. It's hard when you feel that attraction and connection to see the bad bits.

Well anyway, I am going away in two weeks and will see the ex anyway, so not like I will be faithfully waiting. I'll try and put AWOL out of my mind.

Afternoon all

Britney it does sound as though he will not handle conflict well. Imagine if you do meet, get even more attached and have a tiff and he goes AWol again, how are you going to feel ? As for ex, that is only a decision you can make- but you split for a reason! As for 'butterflies' I think there is more to love and relationships than that IMO.

whatsfor how is the chatting going with Ms Busy? Any date arranged yet ?

Scrambled Meh!!! Why oh why would this be sexy to a woman who has already expressed distaste at previous e Hope the trainee teacher date goes well!

blossom ignore if it isn't right. Just a quick question and not me btw, but how soon do you (or anyone ) give a number out to someone??

Go you and wetfish lurking hope it goes well!

Will catch up properly later, waves frantically at everyone as supposed to be working

britney chemistry is the worst for making you think you have something good when in reality it's not great... I think it fools you. Some people say its the glue the keeps two people together but in reality you need more than that.

Britney Sorry love I agree with most on here. You have not met him and trust me from experience until you do it really really means nothing. If I were ins your shoes I would carry on dating, if you are still free and single when AWOL gets back then fair enough meet him if you want to, you will know once and for all.
Really I tend to swap number fairly quickly that way and I can rule someone on your out. Like local man, when I spoke on Sunday I just knew it was not right. He has wished me the very best now and said any man would be lucky to have me, so phew.

Really

I've not talked to her since the weekend ,I consider it done.

That didn't take long over before its started;)

Hey Ho and all that jazz!

Britney yes, I think if you can put AWOL out of your mind for the next few weeks, hopefully you'll be much less invested in him when/if he next contacts you. The stubborn/controlling nature of the email is a concern. LIke you said, how would he handle disagreements in a real relationship?? Maybe ex doesn't give you butterflies as you know him better - you said you fancy him, how does that show itself? I usually find I get butterflies if I fancy someone? I agree with Super that chemistry can fool you.

Really - I'm happy to give number out quite quick (mobile only obvs) as i figure I can always block. I like to give a mobile number before a date anyway, just in case of delays etc. After maybe 10+ messages and/or a few days chatting online? There's always kik or skype for quick messaging without giving a number - you just download the app and create a username.

Broken sorry things are hard :(. Sounds like you've been unlucky with the abusive guy. If you set up a POF profile you can always hide it and only favourite people you choose to?

whatsfor how are things going with the chatting?

Lurking - good luck for the date with wet fish. What are you wearing need ideas for my date tomorrow .

min so sorry to hear about your Mother .

Jesy - I think that's fine to go with Mr Post's niece. Would he be angry if he found out and you hadn't told him or does he know? I went to FPC recently and could definitely have done with some hand holding (at 35!) so Im' sure having you there will make a big difference to her.

Sorry Whatsfor - you posted while I was typing! Are you trying some others (can't remember which site you're on - POF?)?

Britney that message is screaming red flags to me! You haven't even met yet and look how he is talking to you. If you really don't want to bin him off totally why don't you just say no contact until you can actually meet? Tell him no more messages, Skype or whatever and just to let you know when he wants to arrange a date. That way there'll be no more of this emotional game playing and angst and in the mean time you can get on with your life, see how things pan out with ex and/or other dates.

minmooch so sorry to hear that, make sure you take care of yourself as well as your mum.

whatsfor that's a shame, why no more contact, was it you or her? (Just being nosey, you don't have to answer!)

really I am happy to swap numbers after a few messages as texting/whatsapp is easier (although I hate phone calls before you've met!) I always let them give me their number first though.

broken sorry to hear about the idiot and the sexting. Sorry I can't remember the back story with your fwb.

blossom glad to hear your stalker took it well!

Doc when oh when are you going to meet LMN?! It's been far too long!

jesy that was kind of you. Does Mr Post know?

Hi to everyone I've missed out.

Raspberry

I've said to her I need to tell him and she fine with it just said she don't wanna go alone .
Tbh I want to restart pill so be nice to have company , least we not going on a Monday I went once and felt like grandma , as it was full of girls from local private school.

On way to Mr posts to discuss it with him x wish me luck

Rasb

Slow-mates. AKA Soulmates. Was on ok I ditched it.

I'm honestly not bothered:)

If someone comes along, great, if not Its 'Saul Good- Man":)

Jesy - that's good. You can keep eachother company. There were lots of giggling teenagers when I went plus one very embarrassed looking young bloke - felt so sorry for him!

Sienna do you have an end date for your ban?

Whatsfor - oh yes, I remember you saying. Didn't you like OKC? I quite like it. Soulmates is too slow in my area and I just got randoms that lived really far away or far too old/young. It's good to be chilled about it :).

Hi all. I am now talking to someone else who I was taking to a while ago. I noticed he sent me a WhatsApp message on the 1st of March and have only just replied. A drink and been arranged for when I get back from my holiday (off shortly, just at the airport now. Woo hoo!)

Have a great holiday scrambled and please don't give Mr Awol a second thought!

Min I'm so sorry to hear about your Mum

Scrambled Enjoy your hols

Sienna I don't know when I get to meet LMN, she's having a bad time of it just now.

Lurking and Rasp Enjoy your dates tomorrow

Broken Please don't settle for somebody who's not good enough for you after you found another guy that was worse. There are loads of idiots out there, but there are also some really lovely people. It's worth waiting it out to meet a decent guy who will treat you with respect

Really I'm usually happy to swap numbers pretty quickly.

Whatsfor have you thought about doing what some of the women on here do? Create a POF profile, hide it, then just favourite/message the women that interest you.

Super last I saw you were chatting to a few guys, any dates lined up? please tell me you bumped in to MOTS recently

OMG can I just share my with you all. DS (12) just asked if we could get into my bed to watch the footie. We got in and he almost immediately said "I know what's under your pillow mum. I know what it is"

It was my rampant rabbit!! I was having a bit of "alone time" last night (sorry if TMI) and forgot to put in in the drawer. I really need a man, so mortified!!

Oh and if you're wondering why I'm in bed now after being at the airport, I got all the way there to find my flight had been overbooked! I am on first thing tomorrow and have been given some vouchers. Luckily I am only 20 mins from the airport so not too bad. Still

Minmooch Sorry about your mum. I hope the thread is keeping you amused even if your not dating.

Really and Rasp thanks! I'll just wear jeans top and boots with hair up. That's my first meet uniform then if it comes to proper date then I wear something nice and the hair comes down that's not tried and tested as I've only used the system once but im sticking with it.

Whatsfor That's not great but if you're not bothered then that's good.
I'd second Doc on the hidden profile if your not that fussed about dating though I don't think I'd even bother with old if I wasn't actively trying to find someone.

Jesy I'd be worried about what the nieces parents think rather than post. If it was my dc I'd like to think I could support them so would be put out if someone else went with them that wasn't teenage friend. They could also be against the idea.

Scrambled Enjoy your holiday

Broken You haven't responded to previous posts as you maybe think I'm being harsh but i'll try again. You sound like you just want any man at the moment rather than a decent man. You're saying you wish you hadn't messed it up with fwb guy but I'd say he messed it up leaving used condoms around and it seemed to bother you so I don't think you were happy in that situation but just wanted something. You are better than that and don't need to accept whatever's going, there is nothing wrong with being single for a bit.x

Doc You've still a while to go with LMN but we'll keep you busy for now,keep it coming with the sensible advice

Sienna Hi, anything new with you?

rasp no end date for my ban, wonder how long I'll last! Just want to see what my life is like without OLD and constant thinking about dates!

So lurking no nothing to report on the dating front as the only man I've spoken to in the last few days is my BIL as sister and family are visiting. I'm highly unlikely to meet anyone in real life but am happy just to bumble along for a bit.

broken I remember the story about the used condoms now. Agree with lurking that you are better than that. You're better off with no man than with someone who behaves like that.

Sienna Glad you're enjoying the break from dating. It's good as you can still enjoy the thread so you're not missing out.

Laughing at that scrambled how mortifying.

Have done a good job today forgetting about men entirely. I'll not be dating anyone else until I see my ex. Give him a chance to put his case forward because I did / do love him I just felt he was a safe choice.

Has anyone by the way been on a date with someone and been REALLY pleasantly surprised? I usually write people off super quickly.

Lurking

Mr post was fine about it, his niece mum isn't around she lives with her nanna.