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The Brave Babes Battle Bus - The Wheels On This Bus Go Around And Around, In Search Of Sobriety.

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Mouseface · 12/02/2015 09:52

Hello, I'm Mouse Smile

This is the brave babes bus, Gerald. He travels far and wide, to wherever he's needed to offer non judgemental support, advice and Opal Fruits!!

We can tell you about the kind of places that can help, your GP can be the first and easiest place to start, or you can look up you local community addiction centre, or even just come onto the thread and let it all out.

There are posters here who have been on the Bus from the start and those who have just joined us Smile

It doesn't matter how long you've been here, the fact that you have taken that first amazing step in acknowledging that maybe, just maybe, things aren't quite right with your drinking is truly MASSIVE!!

This is a safe place for you to just be and to be as honest as you like, or just to talk.

We'll listen Smile

And if you'd like to see our last thread, you can JUST HERE

Plus if you'd like to see where these threads all began, you can read all about that YOU CAN READ THIS VERY EMOTIONAL AND MOVING THREAD

See you soon,

Mouse xxx Smile

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aliasjoey · 28/03/2015 14:25

Hello babes how is the weekend going?

I was looking for an excuse to go to M&S to get wine a meal for tonight - but DH already went to Sainsburys and picked up something! Probably a good thing, as I was starting on that slippery slope again. Need a coupld of AF nights.

lookingforhope · 28/03/2015 15:55

Hey babes, Just to let you know am seeking legal advice re: my work situation. It is eating me up, I am waking up 10 times in the night thinking about it. And can't manage AF at the moment though was doing well before this. Hoping for some clarity next week. if it isn't sorted then from Wednesday am going AWOL with stress. I hate the department I work for, and won't do a damned thing to help them after the way they have treated me and my colleagues. Will wait it out on the sick if necessary for CR and then will have a clear legal case according to the union for constructive dismissal as they refused the secondment.

Ruby just wanted to say hope your DS is OK. It is hard for boys who don't play football. I remember that with some of my friends' kids. I am grateful my DS is so sporty, whereas DD isn't particularly (though she's a good gymnast) but it doesn't matter a bit with girls. You should talk to the school. Boys often don't look beyond their own classmates for friends, but there could be some other boys in the year group that don't want to spend every break kicking a ball around and he may get on great with them. Hope you work something out. It's so hard at that age not to be one of the herd. Though they are often the kids that do best in later life. Big hugs to your boy xxx

dementedma · 28/03/2015 16:18

Good for you hope on the legal advice.
Not much happening here. Cannot get my mojo back to start exercising and stop drinking....failing miserably at both.have half a bottle of red in and am fighting to stop myself going out and buying another because half won't be enough.....am undoing all my good weight loss. Balls!!!!!!

aliasjoey · 28/03/2015 16:38

ma midget balls? Or just ordinary balls? Grin

Rubyredlips · 28/03/2015 19:16

Hi all. I am soooo grateful for your kind words. I love this thread

SweetLathyrus · 28/03/2015 19:54

Hope, I am so pleased you are taking legal advice; so sad it has come to this. Good Luck, you deserve it.

Joey, good for DH, did he get you something nice?

Ma, you are going through a really tough time, but can you stop at the half bottle? - your weight loss will thank you - put the kettle on, do something to quiet the WW?

Ruby have you had a good day?

Had a calm day here. Have booked an obedience class for Pup, cleaned up my email in box, cooked a thai curry, done a bit of housework. Nothing exciting, but curiously satisfying.

obrigada · 28/03/2015 20:15

Evening babes, off to have epsom bath and early night. Still AF. Am just so relieved to have that week over.

obrigada · 28/03/2015 20:57

Obviously meant epsom salt bath :) how are all the babes this evening?

babyjane1 · 28/03/2015 21:47

Evening babes,

obrigada an Epsom salt bath sounds lovely, don't forget the candles xxxx

ruby I hope your reassured by all the positive posts about your lovely boy, we worry so much about them from the minute that blue line appears, I reckon with you as his mum he will be just fine xxx

sweet lovely to hear you back on track sounds like a very productive day, I've never been very domestic but these days getting all the wee odd jobs done clears my headspace and is oddly satisfying indeed , I've got a few important calls to make and I swear I've thought about them for much longer than it would take to actually take to do them so GO YOU xxx

khalisi thanks lovely for being so supportive, indeed to all of you, got me through a wibbly wobbly day and I love your posts, by the way where are you in the world? Xxx

ma I'm so sorry you have the stress if your job so add to your worries, your passion for your job is so clear to see and your lovely boss always sounds so, well lovely. I'm willing good news for you , truly I am. Xxx

hope glad to hear that fighting spirit, no one puts our fabulous, talented hope in the corner xxx

venus you always have the right words at the right time, your posts are so wise and stay with me for a long time, thank you.

inside wry guggs beaches and crutched, let us know your all ok, you are all missed in here.

Well I got through the day with only too much chocolate as my vice. I feel sad and hollow, sobriety brings with it many truths about our lives and some are glorious and others not so much but I'll keep on keeping on, forever grateful for you all.

Thanks babes xxx

lookingforhope · 28/03/2015 22:25

Just popped in to say goodnight, and I luffs you all, thank god (or your higher power of choice) for the Babes xxxx (mini eggs and daffodils on the dashboard) SmileFlowers

dementedma · 28/03/2015 22:25

Fuck! Dd2s bf just phoned from Glasgow. She has had palpitations and he has called an ambulance. They have taken her to hospital...she is having an ECG. Omg. Worried sick!

babyjane1 · 28/03/2015 22:34

Oh ma thinking of you sooo much xxxx

aliasjoey · 28/03/2015 23:25

Oh gosh ma I hope everything is okay with her

venusandmars · 29/03/2015 08:34

ma how is dd this morning?

obrigada · 29/03/2015 08:35

Thinking of u Ma. Hope everything is ok with ur daughter.

lookingforhope · 29/03/2015 09:24

Hey Ma how is dd? Hope everything Ok, much love xxx Flowers

dementedma · 29/03/2015 09:29

She got home in the wee small hours. Haven't spoken to her yet as she will be asleep. Her heart rate was very high so they took her in and did an ECG. I dont know anymore. Thanks all for the good wishes...

babyjane1 · 29/03/2015 10:53

ma really hope you girl is feeling better this morning xxx

SweetLathyrus · 29/03/2015 10:57

Morning.

Ma I hope dd is ok this morning.

Going to the cinema with ds this afternoon (if he vacates his pit!). And looking forward to a lighter evening.

Have a good one Babes.

dementedma · 29/03/2015 12:08

Spoken to dd. She had a raft of tests and they couldn't find anything seriously wrong. Think stress and anxiety caused it but they had to inject her with some stuff to stabilise it.
She's very tired and worried that its going to happen again.
Her bf was a star and looked after her. He's a keeper!

lookingforhope · 29/03/2015 13:26

Aw Ma glad she is OK for now. It sounds like a panic attack or something? (not that I know, am not a medical person) Where is nurse Wry???
Glad she has someone lovely to care for her too. Keep us posted

Have to go out now to a meal with the in-laws for MIL birthday. AND I have to pay for half the extended family despite just losing my job and despite SIL who organised it (and seems to have decided to split the bill with me without asking) being a bloody millionaire thanks to fleecing her ex husband. Angry. Expect they will quiz me about why I don't have a new job sorted yet to support WB and the kids. Nobody even seems to expect him to ever earn anything again now. Can totally do without this. Am not going to manage AF today, that's for sure. Will be drinking the wine from the bloody bottle at this rate, they are not easy people to spend time with when I feel at my best Sad let alone now

Perhaps I will go to Day 1 tomorrow. Eat well. Exercise. Get my legal stuff together. Don't drink,

All I really want to do at the moment is sleep until this l goes away Sad

Right, off to find some clothes that make me look less fat Hmm

And then eat a load of fatty food at a restaurant Hmm

I need a life coach!

dementedma · 29/03/2015 13:30

hope that is tough. Why do you have to support WB? If SIL is loaded, would she contribute while you are sorting out your job? If she asks, I would point out that her brother isn't exactly contributing! Grrrr
I did buy another bottle last night but didn't open it so stuck to the half bottle. Really not on top of this at the moment.
I wish wry would come back too...

dementedma · 29/03/2015 13:35

Dd and lovely bf - if this has worked. Please dont out me if you recognise them...

babyjane1 · 29/03/2015 14:58

ma what a beautiful couple, they look like they belong in Hello mag, stunning, you must be so proud.

hope imagine them all sitting naked, they look all bare and wobbly, always makes me feel less intimated, your worth 100 of them. We are right beside supporting you and waiting for scraps.

No sign of dh, no call to speak to his daughter but lots of fun pictures on Facebook apparently of dead animals shot for their pleasure to gut and eat, I don't miss him or want him to return, never felt like this before and it worries me. I don't want another broken marriage but recovering from the depression and remembering lying in my own vomitt and BO has made me realise I have fought so hard to find my way back, I can't and won't let anything or anyone take me down. It would be an insult to myself and all the people who have helped me this far, that of course includes you guys.

Life is very strange and tumultuous at the moment.

Body attack tomorrow and I'm looking forward to it, yes life is very strange indeed,

Happy Sunday afternoon you beautuful, inspirational creatures xx

aliasjoey · 29/03/2015 15:06

ma what a lovely couple, they sound like really decent young people - a credit to you.